if your dh travels

beachgirl1977

how do you handle it. Somedays I'm fine and others not so much. I feel like he's busy at night so we don't talk often and I miss that. He's been home 1 week since Easter and there is no plan in sight for another week home. He's gone mon to thursday. It's also been a bit stressful because we are selling our house and I've dealt with the offer, lawyers, inspection etc by myself and passed a kidney stone in the last week. 

This weekend was busy since he was out golfing all day Fathers day and I had to take ds to a party so that killed almost both days

 

 

hikerbeth

It's been my life for so long, I haven't really known anything else.

I have a very part time job (fitness instructor at a gym. . . I work between 6 and 12 hours a week) and it really saves my sanity.  There is childcare there.

I also get out of the house every day (even if it's just errands).  Now that it's summer, I signed DD up for daycamp for a few different weeks and she's taking t-ball which takes a few nights a week.

We do trips to the zoo, park, sprinkler park, pool, library, friend's houses, whatever.  Sometimes just even going to the backyard to swing or splash in the baby pool makes all the difference.

I also have a lot of Mom friends and we get together for dinners and playdates.  Just talking to another adult helps so much.

J&A2008

DH has had this job for years, so in a way I'm used to it, and in other ways I don't know that I'll ever get used to it. 

I used to worry at night about being in the empty house with just the kids.  I'd leave lights on and was a restless sleeper.  That's gone away.  Now, it's just the constant transition between him being home and him being gone that is a bit of a roller coaster for all of us.

I'm sorry to hear he's been gone so long!  I don't know how I'd cope with DH being gone so much of the time.  DH is roughly gone for a week, home for a week. 

We stay busy at home.  The kids are in a lot of activities, and weeks when DH is gone, they have a friend over nearly every day, and sometimes several friends at once.  It helps fill the time and keep them busy. 

We talk to DH every night that he is gone.  Every single night, each of us, even LO.  The boys tell him what they did and I ask him how his day was.  We also text throughout the day. 

It was a bit of a transition for DH to be talking on the phone so much.  He says other guys who he works with don't call home much at all.  It means a lot to us to keep connected, and it's just part of our routine.  Can you try getting him to just make a five minute call every night or every other to say hi to the kids and good night?

blueshirt2003

We are just so used to it. My H is part time military and has left on a couple of deployments as well and his civilian job is also an out of town job. Some weeks are more stressful than others but I always make it through it. I don't have any recommendations on how to get through it. It sucks a lot some times but other times we are just so used to it that it doesn't phase us. 

beachgirl1977

we at least talk every night so he can say good night to ds. I think I need to talk more than he does. I don't want him to sit in a hotel all alone but the 4 hours dinners where he gets back to the hotel at 12 are rough because than I'm tired and want to sleep.

I think little texts or online chats would help during the day.... I think once our contract on the house is settled I'll feel better. I feel like I have the weight of it on me