Losing my patience with 3 y/o whining sometimes....

amos2006

DD is whining all the time some days.  She certainly gets enough sleep, so it's not that.  And somedays, it is driving me crazy!! And I admit, I lose my patience from time to time.  I'm wondering what other people do when thier child often and sometimes constantly whines.

LadySmith08

I don't know, but you are not alone. My DD has become a nightmare to deal with lately. I have tried ignoring her, catering to her needs, timeout, re-direction, etc. Nothing seems to make it better.

 

mrsseguin

I hear ya!  DS is in a terrible whining stage.  I tell him to go to his room if he wants to whine, I don't want to hear it.  Most of the time he stops.  It's rough...I hope it passes soon, but I don't have high hopes for that!

amos2006

I'm so glad I'm not alone on this!!!  I feel like I've tried everything!!  I really hope it's just a stage!!!

Mom2Eleanor

mrsseguin:

I hear ya!  DS is in a terrible whining stage.  I tell him to go to his room if he wants to whine, I don't want to hear it.  Most of the time he stops.  It's rough...I hope it passes soon, but I don't have high hopes for that!

 

I do the same thing with DD. When she won't quit and I know I am going to lose it, I just walk away and tell her I will be back when I have calmed down. She knows how to jump on my nerves these days. I am not even looking forward to the teenage years.   Good luck everyone!

Simonaaaa

I just read this today.  Don't worry, you're not alone.  

https://www.parenting.com/blogs/show-and-tell/desiree-parentingcom/science-confirms-whining-worst-sound-ever?cid=fb 

 

*sallymad*

LadySmith08:

I don't know, but you are not alone. My DD has become a nightmare to deal with lately. I have tried ignoring her, catering to her needs, timeout, re-direction, etc. Nothing seems to make it better.

 

This is us and it seems to be getting worse the older she gets.....ughh......

I'm so tired and worn out by the end of the day.  

 

ETA: I try the whole "go to your room until you're done" thing and it WILL NOT work. Drives me UP THE WALL. She will come out screaming and follow me while she screams.  

amos2006

Simonaaaa:

I just read this today.  Don't worry, you're not alone.  

https://www.parenting.com/blogs/show-and-tell/desiree-parentingcom/science-confirms-whining-worst-sound-ever?cid=fb 

 

One of the reviewers recommended a book, i just ordered it on Amazon!!!

eesome

Oh boy....I hear you.

My son just started this about a month ago, and won't stop. He is well rested, not hungry and still is whining over nothing. It has become a real chore... 

fignewt74

One thing that has been working for me lately is I say "Mommy can't hear you when you're whining.  If you want fruit snacks, you have to smile and then ask me nicely."  Something about asking him to smile breaks the whiney pattern.  He does this totally fake smile, which usually makes me giggle, and it puts us both in a better mood!

BradleyGirls

It sometimes seems as though that is the only tone a 3 year old knows! I am a facilitator for Love and Logic, and we talk a lot about this in our classes. Some things that might help (like others have suggested as well..) "Mommy will listen to you when your voice sounds calm like mine." and then just go about what you are doing til your child is able to ask in a normal voice. Sometimes you can practice with your child when they don't really want something and everybody is in a good mood. Just say, "hey, you know how sometimes you want something from mommy, lets practice some good ways to ask." then model how you want your child to ask, and then have them practice. It's a good way to have fun, and kids actually like to do this stuff. Then refer back to it when they start whining. I have a 4 and 2 year old, and both of them catch on quick, and seem to enjoy learning this way.