So I am a little bit annoyed with my DH - now that its summer, he is playing a different sport nearly every day of the week - Monday is Kickball, Tuesday is Softball, Thursday is softball, and today he is subbing for someone in a golf league (he'll do this a couple times a month).
I feel selfish, but really Id just like him home, just so I can have some in person human interaction at a reasonable hour. Plus, I miss him, and I dont want him to miss out on Owen!
I dont even think he held Owen at all yesterday! He had the corporate challenge, and then a softball double header.... he was finally home at 11pm....
bleh - vent over.
Re: mildly annoyed with DH
m/c 1/2/08 and 3/12/08
Eve Amelia- Born 2/24/09. 6lb 9.9oz
Natalie Ruth - Born 6/13/11 7lb 6.6oz
i know this is a tough stage, newborns aren't that playful, and mom's are the go to parent for most everything, hardly getting any breaks and dad's get to just come and go. but know that this will change, boys will be into sports and more than likely off to hang with dad more than mom when they get older so cherish this time with your boy.... or keep tabs of all the time DH is out and about and make him pay later!
Vent away! A lot of us have DH's that are gone for long days- we understand.
I don't know how to say this without making my DH look bad but he claims some men are just not "into" babies. DH is great with Justin now but he was very hands off for the 1st year or so. He is the most mellow, calm guy in the world but babies crying drives him nuts. We've agreed women are just programmed better to stand the sound, lol. The example you gave, about not holding O for a day... I would DIE (as would most of us) but I don't think my DH would think anything of it.
I agree - I think it would bother me more that he didn't hold him than it bothered DH himself.
But, going back to the original post....yes it would bug me if he wasn't home that much and I'd definitely bring it up so you could work out a compromise. Even if it doesn't necessarily bother him that he doens't have much time with O, you need to make it clear to him that it bothers you that he's not there for you!
That would be beyond annoying for me. Does he really know how you feel? Even if we didn't have a new baby, I'd be ticked that we didn't spend more than one night a week together BY HIS CHOICE. I think you need to talk to him and let him know how you feel. Fine (OK, not very fine, but you know what I mean) if he has a thing about being around newborns, but you have to let him know how much it's affecting you.
Sorry he's being a putz.
You are a lot nicer than me. My husband will ask me before he agrees to stuff like that. For example, last week his corporate team needed someone to sub for them for softball so they asked him. Before he said yes he asked me. For the most part I will say yes but he knows his boundaries. haha.
Then this week he asked if he could play golf and I said not tues or thurs. That is the days when I am home with the girls alone. 12 hour days are long with 2 little ones.
He is considerate and he at least asks. I try to not say no because he does ask. But you better believe there is NO WAY I would let him be out doing sports 3 x's/week. Maybe I'm just a biotch.
Oh I would hit the fricken roof- especially with a newborn. I'm all for a DH needing an outlet and getting out afterwork a day or two a week- but all those days?
Even though my DH is out most of the time for work stuff- I still get miffed...I didnt get myself pregnant and I didnt sign on to be a single parent- get your @ss home and help out ..(sorry, I'm projecting...LOL)
but as you can see- you are in good company here- so vent away