Need words of encouragement (NTTPR)

kgp_061910

I'm pretty sure DH is going to second shift at work, meaning he will be working when I am not. This is going to be difficult for me, but this is something we have to do in order to survive financially. Hopefully the new part time job he is getting will work out well enough so he can switch over to full time and quit this current job. I know many of you ladies deal with not seeing YH a lot due to traveling, etc. I could use any words of encouragement you ladies have right now. TIA.

Ellis31

I know it's a bummer when they are away all the time. I usually try to fill my time up with things I like to do that MH doesn't when he is away. Of course spending time with friends is always a good thing as well.

I know it's hard on MH as well when he is away a lot so I try to grin and bare it as much as I can so he doesn't feel bad for me. Also I would have to say that it's gotten easier for me the more he goes away, I guess it's just like 2nd nature that he's gone a lot. Sorry you're dealing with this, I hope he gets to switch jobs soon

SandNSurf

I'm sorry - DH is currently looking at a job where he would be working overnights.... boo! 

Why can't we all have 9-5s? 

kgp_061910

Agreed! It would be great if we could all have 9-5's, but it is unfortunately not the reality. Thanks for the kind words and advice. I'm very close with my family so I will probably occupy my time by hanging out with them.

jsiira

I'm sorry! I know how hard that is. My husband works nights right now, S-Th. It is difficult getting used to. We make it work though. He gets home at 6:30 am and I leave for work at 6:45. There is just enough time to make him breakfast and get a quick kiss in the morning. I love the weekends when we actually get to share a bed, lol, even though he snores and has a habit of eating chips at 2 am. 

 I know that it is hard to not be resentful of other couples who get to have a normal relationship, but I think that this way our "honeymoon" period will last that much longer.

Thoughts and prayers for you!

kgp_061910

jsiira:

I'm sorry! I know how hard that is. My husband works nights right now, S-Th. It is difficult getting used to. We make it work though. He gets home at 6:30 am and I leave for work at 6:45. There is just enough time to make him breakfast and get a quick kiss in the morning. I love the weekends when we actually get to share a bed, lol, even though he snores and has a habit of eating chips at 2 am. 

 I know that it is hard to not be resentful of other couples who get to have a normal relationship, but I think that this way our "honeymoon" period will last that much longer.

Thoughts and prayers for you!

Thank you so much! I really do think it will bring us closer even though it will be difficult. He is such a caring husband and loves the time he gets to spend with me. I think it will make us appreciate it even more.

NJtoMD2011

I'm sorry too!  It's very difficult when you feel like you and your spouse are two ships passing through the night.  My husband does not work shift work but for 8+ months out of the year he's in law school part time, while putting in 40+ hours at his job (not to mention all the driving he does - 100+ miles per day).  It's tough because I get used to seeing him all the time (like now) and then feel like he's ripped away from me when school starts.  It's not easy and I do feel lonely but for us I know this is temporary and my husband is doing this for the benefit of our family, not just himself. 

We make sure to schedule real quality time together during the semester, even if it's just once a week.  It certainly is an adjustement but hang in there - you guys will figure out a system/schedule that works for you.  And you will certainly appreciate each other so much more.  Good luck!

kgp_061910

NJtoMD2011:

I'm sorry too!  It's very difficult when you feel like you and your spouse are two ships passing through the night.  My husband does not work shift work but for 8+ months out of the year he's in law school part time, while putting in 40+ hours at his job (not to mention all the driving he does - 100+ miles per day).  It's tough because I get used to seeing him all the time (like now) and then feel like he's ripped away from me when school starts.  It's not easy and I do feel lonely but for us I know this is temporary and my husband is doing this for the benefit of our family, not just himself. 

We make sure to schedule real quality time together during the semester, even if it's just once a week.  It certainly is an adjustement but hang in there - you guys will figure out a system/schedule that works for you.  And you will certainly appreciate each other so much more.  Good luck!

Thank you!

kgp_061910

Just got good news!!! He doesn't have to switch to second shift after all. Woo hoo! This company is all over the place right now!

NJtoMD2011

kgp_061910:

Just got good news!!! He doesn't have to switch to second shift after all. Woo hoo! This company is all over the place right now!

SandNSurf

kgp_061910:

Just got good news!!! He doesn't have to switch to second shift after all. Woo hoo! This company is all over the place right now!

 

Yay!