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Hi - rough week so far
I'm mostly a lurker that has asked a few questions here and there. I know everyone has their challenges, but I'm struggling so much right now.
I went off BCP April 1, and have had yet to see AF or get anything close to a positive OPK. My temps are all over the place. Tomorrow, I'm seeing my dr, who wanted to see me if I hit 12 weeks with no AF. I have.
Yesterday, my DH was laid off from his job. Now I dont know if I want to take any action (I assume my doctor is going to prescribe provera to kickstart AF), until DH makes some progress on the job search. It feels risky to try to get KU right this second, even though I know it could take many many more months for it to happen.
On top of that, I just got my first ever positive OPK. I'm so lost 
Any thoughts or cheer would be much appreciated. Or just a kind ear.
thank you.
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Re: Hi - rough week so far
I'm sorry you are going through such a hard time. That sounds very frustrating.
Can you link your chart?
I can't give you any advice on whether you should continue ttc while YH is out of a job. That has to be something you and him talk about and decide amongst yourselves but I do wish you luck and I hope everything works out!
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Can we see your chart? If it were me, I think I would ask for the Provera and then TTA until YH has made a little progress on the job front. Continue to chart at the very least so you can keep an eye on what your cycle is doing. Good luck
I'm sorry to hear about your DH's job. I can't offer advice on that, but if we were in that situation, I would have to put TTC on hold.
If you just got a + OPK, then I wouldn't take Provera if you get a script for it tomorrow. A + can mean O is nearing.
I hope everything works out for you!
I am so sorry, I can totally understand why you are having a tough time right now. Coming off birth control can really throw your body into a tizzy of hormones. All the wondering of when is my body going to give me a clue as to what is going on, let alone get "back to normal" can drive a person nuts. Hopefully your doctor can help you figure out what is going on. I applaude you for charting, even if your temps are all over the place! As for that +OPK, when did you see that? If it was today, maybe see what your temps do over the next few days before starting Provera? I have not used anything like that, so you may get better answers from someone else regarding jumpstarting your period. Hopefully your doctor can help you figure out what is going on soon. I know that all the waiting is really tough.
I think that you and your DH need to have a heart to heart about TTC while he is out of work. You are correct in saying that the TTC process can take a while, but some people get lucky and it is a shorter journey than expected. Would you guys be okay as far as insurance and getting ready for a baby while your DH is out of work? If so, and you guys are ready, keep pursuing TTC. If it would put too much of a strain on an already possibly stressful time with him trying to find another job, it might be a good idea to just keep letting your body sort itself out without TTC at this time. That is a call that only you and your DH can make, but I wish you lots of luck either way!
first of all, let me say that you ladies are amazing. sometimes you just really need some kind words, even from internet strangers!
we are leaning toward holding off TTC. my DH is more inclined to go for it, but i'm worried about the stress i'm feeling now and if that's the right environment to grow a baby if i'm lucky enough to have it happen relatively quickly.
i guess i will focus on temping and getting a hold of what my body is up to for a while.
re my chart. that reminds me of another aspect of my tough week. i mistakenly used my corporate credit card to buy FF VIP membership. so my male boss will have to approve the charge
and, i even got FF to refund the charge, but i will still have to report both the debit and credit to my male boss. so so so embarrassing!! once i re-buy the membership i will link my chart. agh.
Hi there,
I'm sorry to hear about your rough week. I DO hope it turns around for you quickly. I'm no expert, but if you got a + OPK I would want to hold off on taking the provera. Your body may be trying to O, or O, and just working on a really looooong post BCP cycle. I didn't know coming off the pill would have any side effects (total newb, I know). Want a laugh? I finished my last pack, two weeks later and had random days of spotting/"withdrawl bleeding" while on vacation with my husband. (NOT cool for swimwear) ANYWAY--I blamed him! Or sex! for the bleeding because I didn't know about the crazy effects of hormones. Come to think of it, I'm not sure if I ever told him that wasn't his fault. Also, FYI, My cycles ranged from 28 days-48 days post BCP. I digress...
I'd talk with DH, and the DR about risks/benefits of TTA/TTC. I think no decisions need to be made right now, but that you may feel better if everyone is on the same page. On a personal note, if you have some money saved up somewhere, it may make things a little easier. It sounds like you're in no hurry to get KU right this second, so maybe having the script for Provera, just in case you need it months from now couldn't hurt. If it were me, I'd want my body to try and work it out on its own, but I also think its a very individual choice.
You have had a tough, stressful, and confusing week! Its only TUESDAY! I hope things do improve. I'm sending positive thoughts to you and YH! Keep us posted.
Bunsen, may I ask how old you are? Don't cut that out of your decision.
My story (I swear this gets relevant): My own DH was laid off for the first time the month of our wedding when his company downsized significantly, was out of work for 6 months, got another job for six months then got last in first out'ed out of that job as well, then was out of work for another 11 months. Through that all, we put off getting pregnant as this was the height of the recession and I had a pay cut at my own job and lay offs were a definite possibility. Then once he had a secure job we ended up having to put off getting pregnant for medical reasons. . . . And now I'm 36, about to turn 37, and DH is turning 40. We've been trying for [checks watch] all of about 5 minutes now after just getting the doctor's greenlight, but I am incredibly freaked out that we've pushed it too long and will have complications and TTTC and genetic problems, etc. etc. etc.
Sorry this got all AW-y. My point, and I do have one, is that I can't help second-guessing some of our decisions in the past. So by all means put off TTC now for a little while, particularly if you're young, but be careful of making decisions like "no babies till DH gets a job" or "no babies till DH's been at the new job for 6 months", etc. particularly if you stack em up. Time can really get away from you.
Best to you.
thanks for your story, it means so much that you shared all this. and you ask a good question - i'm 31. if i were under 30, i dont think i'd question waiting for a bit, but approaching 32 makes me a bit more nervous.
to your point about letting the delays stack up, i think we will take a couple months to focus on his career. if he starts getting interviews soon, etc, then we will feel more confident and hopefully start again.
as my DH said, if i gotten that first +OPK a month ago, and then the layoff happened, maybe i would have been even more stressed out that i could already be pregnant. in a way, maybe this is a sign that while as still in control over the decision (no baby growing in me... yet i hope!), we should be a little conservative.
thanks again to everyone and their hugs.