Survey with clicky poll: Brothers and sisters -in-law

Cholzmei

I'm leaving work in about 45 minutes.  My brother-in-law and his wife arrived at our house last night after I was asleep.  They got married several months ago but I never met her because we live so far away.  I have vague anxiety since they will be staying in my house for a week.

My BIL is cool, so I'm sure his wife is cool also, but I always get a little nervous meeting new people that are going to be part of my family.

 How well do you get along with your brothers and sisters in law (or brothers and sisters of your SO)? 

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Mother Meghan

My only sibling-in-law is my DH's step bro. We only see him, his wife, and two children at a few family events each year.

annerz22

I wouldn't say that I hate her, but I really don't have a good relationship with her. She is very unhappy and jealous and therefore makes it difficult to get along with.

megemoney

I love my H's family!  They are awesome and I think they love me as well...

sarahnz

I thought i would reply as well as clicking your poll. MH has a big family and I get along really well with his brothers and their wives/gf's though I could really do without his sister if i was being honest. My opinion on this (and in no way is it an educated opinion at all) is that if you get along with your BIL - you will more than likely get along with his wife too I hope you have a great week with them!

lycih

I love my husband's sister.  We get along fabulously.

My oldest brother's wife (also my SIL, which is why I'm including her)....  ehhh.... not so much.  Like at all.   She's definitely got some kind of superiority complex that is completely unfounded.  And since she started dating my brother when I was three (he's 16 years older than I am) she still pretty much treats me like I'm three.

Cholzmei

sarahnz:

My opinion on this (and in no way is it an educated opinion at all) is that if you get along with your BIL - you will more than likely get along with his wife too I hope you have a great week with them!

That's what I'm hoping, but you never know.  For example, my brother and I were like BFFs growing up and I've never liked any of his gfs.  If he married his current gf, I know I'd get over it, but it would be an adjustment.  She is nothing like him.

Oem617

I love DH sister and her husband. I am an only child, so they are the only "sibilings" I have. They just had a baby about 6 weeks ago and so happy for them! We live about 20 min away from each other, so we see them pretty often. I realize I am lucky to have DH's family in my life, as many people to not get along with their in-laws so well.

outrunthemoon

I chose ss. I get along really well with my SIL but she does drive me crazy because she is still immature for a 25 year old. Her fiance is the same way, I get along with him but I don't agree with all his choices. 3 other BILs I'm indifferent to and another I used to date and so we just kind of ignore each other. Yes, he has 5 siblings and fortunately/unfortunately I did date one of his brothers. Although I would have never met my FI if I didn't. 

 

ETA: spelling, grammar & clarification...wow. I was bumping from my phone. I didn't realize how many mistakes I made. 

blindvictory

I get along well in person with my BILs, but I secretly really dislike their company. They're both arrogant jerks who think that if you disagree with them, you're just ignorant and can't possibly be right. I just do not look forward to spending time with them at all. I'm so glad that DH doesn't share any of those obnoxious traits.

brookelynpaisley

It depends on who we're talking about. DH's brother: awesome. Love spending time with him. BIL's wife: Eh. it's not that we fight or argue, I just don't think she likes me or cares at all to get to know me. For the most part, we just don't really talk, and if they're visiting (they live in MD) then we really don't talk, as she and DH/BIL's friends mutually don't care for each other so she tends to hang out mostly with her friends. My sister's husband: sweet guy, very nice, I like him. My sister and her husband have lived in Seattle most of their relationship. We haven't ever lived in the same city with a sibling and their SO, so it's kind of hard to really get to know people. Or maybe it's me - I don't converse/text/FB with my siblings-in-law unpromtped.

fyziksgirl

I have 6 living bro/sis in law, so kind of hard to paint them all with the same brush :-) The 16 year old and I get along best, she's pretty cool. The rest are mostly vaguely weird, so I just don't care much each way. I can deal fine, but I would never seek them out.

I feel your pain, though, my oldest sis in law (23) and her bf stayed with us for a bit recently. I'd never met the bf and it was just stressful. Very cool people, but I'm not a fan of strangers in my home!

jewls261521

I get along fine with DH's brother and sister, we just don't see them very often. My BIL is in the Navy so we haven't seen him in months. I'm very close with my brother's girlfriend (who hopefully will become my SIL). We'll see

peloquinJ

I get along well with 1 out of 3 (the wife of one of my brothers). I even lived with her and my brother for 4 months.

The other two I tolerate for the sake of keeping the peace pretty much, which some days is easier than others. My other brother's wife cheated on him and my relationship with her hasn't been the same since even though this was 6 years ago. I also feel like she make my brother do way to much and she is lazy. My husband's sister is just immature and significantly spoiled. She and my MIL have some ridiculous expectations and right now they are on a "you need to move closer, you live too far away, sob sob" streak, regardless of the fact my husband has told them he is happy here.

Shayliz

I chose SS.... We get along just fine. We aren't BFFs but we get along great when we are together. All of his siblings are in Missouri and we're not.. so we don't see them all the time. 

lukesliebe

My H only has one brother and I get along with him ok. His brother is one of those people that say rude stuff all the time because he doesn't care what people think. So I keep him in check by punching him every now and then. One time I chased him around my inlaws house with a rolled up magazine because he was being a jerk. More like siblings I guess..

Penguin1318

My BIL currently lives with us. We're not the BEST OF FRIENDS but we get along. He is the complete oppisite of MH. So it got some getting used to when he moved in but I let MH deal with him, eg. cleaning up after himself, taking the trash out etc.

sapphire1983

I adore my brother's wife. I secretly want her to be my best friend.

DH has a half sister who is 10 years younger and very odd. He also has a step-sister and step-brother who are much older than us. (They have kids in high school.) I've spent very little time with them and they weren't particularly warm to me. I feel like they don't really want to make the effort to include me in their family.

bets1009

I voted that we get along swimmingly although we definitely have our disagreements. DH and I went through a really rough time a couple of years ago and I got to be very close to his mom and sisters (before we were married). Since then we've had disagreements about some of the decisions that we've made (because they don't agree with us), but I still love them and consider us to be close.

SunnySky06

I only have one SIL, my husbands sister and we get along, but we're not close. We live on opposite sides of the country.

My brother has a girlfriend, I can't stand her. 

MrsTeacher10

I voted SS.  My BIL (DH's brother) and I didn't get along at ALL at first, but things have gotten better.  We're not enemies, we're not best friends, but when we're both in good moods things are awesome.  When we're both in crappy moods it's tense, but we do okay.

Lilleybug

Some I get along with and some I really do not.

MamaWino

brookelynpaisley:

We haven't ever lived in the same city with a sibling and their SO, so it's kind of hard to really get to know people.

This.  Although when we're together, we all get along really well.  It's just hard to maintain a close relationship being 1,000 miles apart. 

Shaq1009

I have a split - my younger SIL is completely awesome.  She is a lot like MH and we always have a blast whenever she is here!  However, her sister, is cray cray.  She just got married about a month ago - he is equally cray cray.  I dread when they come to visit, which is often.  Apparently, they think our house is a stay lodge. blah.

griff45

It can go either way with my SIL. She is kind of a know-it-all and loves to tell us how to raise our children (my step children) and even how to take care of our dog. She has never had a dog or children. She is fun to hang out with but she always acts like she is better than us just becasue she is a flight attendant and travels the world.

 My BIL is a recovering drug addict and is in a constant fight with his drug addict wife (they are seperated) for custody of their children.

 To answer the question, I live and get along with them both but I would not say we are super close or hang out all the time.

Lace815

I don't see or talk to any of my 3 BILs very often so I guess you could say Im not close to them, but we get along. DH can't stand one of them though LOL

smurfette83

I voted for "ss."  I have 3 sisters, and I get along with all of their husbands/SO. We're not BFF's by any means, but we do know how to have fun together!  On the other hand, with DH's brother things can be a little awkward.  However, I attribute a lot of this to the fact that he's just very socially challenged and doesn't hold conversations well.

TrendyTina

SIL is a psychotic, mentally deranged, vindictive person. I avoid DHs family as much as I possibly can. 

Patches08

We get along, DH has older siblings, he's almost 25 and his two brothers are in their 40's and his sister is mid 30's, he's totally the baby!!  They are at different stages in their lives, but we live close and try to get together whenever possible.. usually a few times a year. I have a younger brother who I'm BFF with.  Him and DH are pretty good friends too. 

LovestruckAJ

I chose indifferent.

I love em, but I get annoyed & irritated pretty easily.

Bubs101

I totally adore my in laws. They really are just like additional brothers and sisters. We're all fairly close in age, and we're really good friends.

 I hope that your week goes well, and that you are pleasantly surprised at how well you hit it off with her. GL!

MrsDizzyku

I get along okay with DH's family--no problems, but not much relationship either. However, DH is not close at all with his siblings so my relationship with them is on par with his basically. My brother's wife is one of my best friends, even though when they first got married we didn't spend much time together. 

Bizzy98

I love my MIL and FIL and get along with them great.  I couldn't have asked for better In- laws.  It's H's sister I can't stand.  She is the most self-centered, know-it-all, b*tchy person I have ever met.  Seriously, its like she is from another family.  I put my big girl panties on and and a smile on my face when we are around her but she seriously gets under my skin.

MySweetBaboo

I LOVE my SIL. I wish we got together more often. She is amazing and so sweet and a lot of fun.

Cholzmei

Bubs101:

I hope that your week goes well, and that you are pleasantly surprised at how well you hit it off with her. GL!

Thanks!  In case anyone is wondering, we did hit it off very well.  She is very sweet and intelligent.  The only problem is... she LOVES to talk.  I am a talker, but she never stops.  Really.  I'm exhausted.   I guess that's better than having nothing to say to each other and sitting and staring at each other in silence.