It's surprising to me...

SandNSurf

...how many people don't know how one gets pregnant.

 I was talking with my best friend - a mother of two - last night about my cycle and she says that I should BD and see if I can't conceive this week... I told her I ovulated about 10 days ago... "oh you don't have to ovulate to get pregnant... that's just an old wives tale. you get pregnant from having sex... ANY time! Just takes a few days to show up on the test."

 Didn't want to argue with her, so I just said I'd try. LOL. 

 

 

 

Tootsie1213

Holy Jeebus. Some people are just clueless.

Ellis31

Wow. I had someone close to me recently say the same thing, and she is in her 60's! I guess if you never researched anything and just got pg easily you don't know much about the basics of ttc. I can be annoying having to explain it, so I understand why you just opted out.

IdahoLakeLady

Truth be told, I'm not sure I was well educated in how one actually conceives... until I started hanging around here, that is. My sex ed was so focused on how *not* to get pregnant that I felt pretty clueless until I started lurking around here a few months ago. 

 I wonder which is the better approach: teaching girls how not to get pregnant, or teaching girls how pregnancy happens and how they can manipulate their fertility to avoid? 

Mother Meghan

I have no words lol.

kgp_061910

Wow, that is hilarious! People really are clueless. Haha

MamaWino

TheAnne:

I think we were all raised with the thought (fear?) that we would get pregnant having sex at any time during the month.  It was drilled into my in health class that unprotected sex = baby.  I remember how surprised I was after taking a pregnancy test once in college after a condom broke, that I was not pregnant.  How could that be?? 

So true.  It is kinda ridiculous though, how many women truly are clueless.

Laouli

I feel like I know the least about having babies but I at least know there has to be a darn egg to have a baby.... oi

Funnygirl34

Oh my goodness, I don't even know what to say to that. 

PandaManda23

::head desk::

what are people teaching these kids??....i think we need to visit these schools when they have sex ed class & talk to them

 

Wild_flower25

I think a lot of women are clueless because it was easy for them and they never had to learn it.

brookelynpaisley

It's scary how much a lot of women don't know. And when I've told some friends things about cycles - just the basics - they're all "you know waaaay to much about this stuff." Um, no. I know a lot more than I just told you, but even you should know this basic stuff about your plumbing. I get why they scared the crap out of us beginning in 8th grade health, but they've really done us a disservice as women by not teaching us facts.

MidaComida

TheAnne:

I think we were all raised with the thought (fear?) that we would get pregnant having sex at any time during the month.  It was drilled into my in health class that unprotected sex = baby.  I remember how surprised I was after taking a pregnancy test once in college after a condom broke, that I was not pregnant.  How could that be?? 

This.

In college I remember all the times I told my then BF "OMG, I think i'm PG" now that I am educated on the subject I laugh because it doesnt happen as easy as I thought -one small accident. DH still doesn't understand why these teen moms have "accidents" all the time and get KU. I have to expleain to him that 90% of the time they were BDing it up alot!

Wild_flower25

brookelynpaisley:

It's scary how much a lot of women don't know. And when I've told some friends things about cycles - just the basics - they're all "you know waaaay to much about this stuff." Um, no. I know a lot more than I just told you, but even you should know this basic stuff about your plumbing. I get why they scared the crap out of us beginning in 8th grade health, but they've really done us a disservice as women by not teaching us facts.

 

I agree, kids should be taught this.  But I can see how they think its bad to tell teenagers that they are only fertile for a couple days and even on those days there is only a 20% chance.  Although maybe making them chart in health class would be a good idea, wouldn't that be interesting?  LOL some parents would probably throw a tizzy over them talking about CM or cervical position at school.  Ok, sorry about the tangent.

SandNSurf

brookelynpaisley:

It's scary how much a lot of women don't know. And when I've told some friends things about cycles - just the basics - they're all "you know waaaay to much about this stuff." Um, no. I know a lot more than I just told you, but even you should know this basic stuff about your plumbing. I get why they scared the crap out of us beginning in 8th grade health, but they've really done us a disservice as women by not teaching us facts.

 

Exactly.

 

I wasn't really too surprised by my friend's naivety.. she's that way with a lot of things. But I really wonder what on earth she thinks that darned egg is there for if you don't have to have it to get KU!  Perhaps it's baby food during pregnancy. lol

melissa721

::blank stare::

brookelynpaisley

Wild_flower25:

brookelynpaisley:

It's scary how much a lot of women don't know. And when I've told some friends things about cycles - just the basics - they're all "you know waaaay to much about this stuff." Um, no. I know a lot more than I just told you, but even you should know this basic stuff about your plumbing. I get why they scared the crap out of us beginning in 8th grade health, but they've really done us a disservice as women by not teaching us facts.

 

I agree, kids should be taught this.  But I can see how they think its bad to tell teenagers that they are only fertile for a couple days and even on those days there is only a 20% chance.  Although maybe making them chart in health class would be a good idea, wouldn't that be interesting?  LOL some parents would probably throw a tizzy over them talking about CM or cervical position at school.  Ok, sorry about the tangent.

If I have a daughter, I'm seriously considering teaching her some basics. I hope I can be open with her, since I'm squeamish talking about that stuff, and refused to even talk to my mom, but I think women should know about their CM at least. I think teaching a 14 year old to chart is over-kill, but I think they should know that there are some very natural and normal things that happen with their bodies in the course of a cycle, and that these signs can be observed in conjunction with fertility. I remember having some EWCM and thinking something was wrong - I'd prefer that my daughter know it's a normal part of owning a vag.

I think that whatever is taught in health class needs to be supplemented at home, but if parents are going based on what they learned in 8th grade, their children are no better off than they were.

ashmarie22

IdahoLakeLady:

Truth be told, I'm not sure I was well educated in how one actually conceives... until I started hanging around here, that is. My sex ed was so focused on how *not* to get pregnant that I felt pretty clueless until I started lurking around here a few months ago. 

 I

I was the same way!

Priss28King

When I told a few friends that I was charting to see when I was ovulating to have a better chance at conceiving, one said " go to Vegas and get drunk and have a lot of sex, that is what worked for a few ppl I know....another said " do it after your period is done, like a few days after, that is when you are most fertile" then said " oh wait or 2 weeks before you expect your period" and the other is my bestie and smarter then the other two so just said " you need to get more OPK's asap friend because you're out remember?"

some people.

happilyeverafterxo

LaraValentine

Amazing. Just amazing. Just when you think people can't get any dumber.

megemoney

She was effing with you right?  Yes, she had to be...

Am I the only one who had sex ed in jr high school and biology in high school and college??  I mean, I swear (same as OP said) there are so many people that don't know how conception works.

sourapplemartini

OoooooooMFG.

Kate06

Priss28King:

When I told a few friends that I was charting to see when I was ovulating to have a better chance at conceiving, one said " go to Vegas and get drunk and have a lot of sex, that is what worked for a few ppl I know....another said " do it after your period is done, like a few days after, that is when you are most fertile" then said " oh wait or 2 weeks before you expect your period" and the other is my bestie and smarter then the other two so just said " you need to get more OPK's asap friend because you're out remember?"

some people.

I heard something just as silly from one of my friends (a mother of two) over the weekend.  I was talking to her about how I've been charting and just O'd and was disappointed that our BD'ing didn't line up better due to circumstances out of our control and she said, "well, go ahead and make sure you do it this week a lot because sometimes it can happen later.  You can never tell for sure when you O so it's best to just go EOD all month long."  Ooookay...

KR1505

Really?  It's an old wives tale that you need an egg in order to make a baby?  Wow.  Good thing she didn't have any trouble getting pregnant.

When I was taught sex ed in school, we were taught "sperm+egg=baby".  That's why we learned all about the egg traveling from the ovaries down the fallopian tube.  I don't remember being taught the actual term "ovulation", but still.  If it was just a matter of "penis+vagina=baby", there would be a lot more babies in the world.

When my sister was an assistant professor at a large university, one of her philosophy students thought that every time he urinated, his swimmers were being wasted.  So clearly no one had taught him that sperm are not in urine, and that the two come from entirely different places. 

Just goes to show, sex ed in this country is awful. 

KR1505

Wild_flower25:

brookelynpaisley:

It's scary how much a lot of women don't know. And when I've told some friends things about cycles - just the basics - they're all "you know waaaay to much about this stuff." Um, no. I know a lot more than I just told you, but even you should know this basic stuff about your plumbing. I get why they scared the crap out of us beginning in 8th grade health, but they've really done us a disservice as women by not teaching us facts.

 

I agree, kids should be taught this.  But I can see how they think its bad to tell teenagers that they are only fertile for a couple days and even on those days there is only a 20% chance.  Although maybe making them chart in health class would be a good idea, wouldn't that be interesting?  LOL some parents would probably throw a tizzy over them talking about CM or cervical position at school.  Ok, sorry about the tangent.

Definitely!!  My friend is a high school biology teacher, and when it came time for the lesson on reproduction, parents were up in arms saying things like "I don't want my child to learn about sex!!".  My friend had to tell them "I'm teaching them about spores budding, I don't teach sex ed".  Lol.

lthough really, there was one boy in her class who was 15 and had already gotten 2 girls pregnant, plus several pregnant girls in the school.  So clearly, whether or not they understand how babies happen, they're having sex.  Abstinence is only 100% effective if you actually abstain.