Re: My father's day post

identicaltwins2be

I really appreicate all the support you ladies have shown but I have to say it makes me so sad that there are many of you that can understand what I'm going through.  I hate that there are that many crappy fathers out there.  Looking at the situation with my own father makes me even more grateful that my children have DH because he is an amazing, hands-on, loving dad.  I can't even begin to put into words have thankful I am that my children aren't in the same situation I have been in my whole life.  I hate that I am 32 and still wish I had the kind of dad that many of my friends have.  Anyway, I just wanted to say thank you for your support and understanding.  In an effort to protect myself and my family I am cutting ties with my father.  There just isn't anything to be gained at this point.  I don't know if I'll ever be 100% at peace with my decision because it's not always so black and white but for the time being this is the best thing for me.

stillwaiting12

I think you are making the correct choice and I hope you find peace with that decision. I hate that it has come to this for you, but you must do what is best for you and your family.

kel716

Sending you big hugs.  You deserve it!

doodlebug914

I'm so sorry you are even in this position.  I too understand all too well your feelings on your parent situation, and making me be so incredibly thankful for my awesome husband.  I did not luck out in the parent department, with my mom or dad, but have two incredible grandparents who I don't know what I would do without.  It doesn't make the heartache easier, though. I just don't understand how a "parent" cannot, or would not, be able to place their children's needs and feelings first.  I don't know how they can live with themselves.

MelissaMc22

I didn't get to respond the other day, but I wanted to give you a hug.

I too have similar issues with my mom, although not exactly the same, I have struggled with my relationship with her for as long as I can remember- there is so much pain there.

There are several great books out there that helped me through the whole process. (Although I am still undecided about cutting her out of my life- right now we are not speaking)

Let me know if you are interested.

Again, you are not alone!

(andit breaks my heart that several others can commiserate)