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Need to vent: WTH Mom, srsly?!

Jram85Jram85
in May 2011 Moms

I live with my mom while DH is overseas.  I pay her $400/month for rent.  I just found out yesterday, ON ACCIDENT, that she hasn't paid the rent since JANUARY.  I confronted her about it and she made excuses after excuses.  She won't even tell me what she has been spending the $400/month I've been giving her.  Now it's up to ME to pay all of the back rent, and I'm not working, so that means that it has to come out of savings.  

DH is pissed, I'm pissed.  I'm considering having to go back to work early so this bullsh*t doesn't keep happening, when DH and I were talking about me saying home with LO.

WTH.  What should I do? 

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Re: Need to vent: WTH Mom, srsly?!

  • alliejoealliejoe member

    Is there another relative you can live with?  Or is it an option to find your own place? 

    If your name isn't on the lease I'd let your mom deal with the back rent.

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  • h2ojock13h2ojock13 member
    imagealliejoe:

    Is there another relative you can live with?  Or is it an option to find your own place? 

    If your name isn't on the lease I'd let your mom deal with the back rent.

    This.. if your not legally obligated to cover the full rent, its not your problem. You've upheld your part of the bargain if your mom didn't pay her bills how is that on you?  If you have to go back to work to pay her bills, you should just move out and live on your own. You have a family to take care of and your mother shouldn't be a financial burden.

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  • elisbuelisbu member
    I would move out. It might be more work, but it will be less stressfull!
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  • ZTAsunshineZTAsunshine

    imageelisbu:
    I would move out. It might be more work, but it will be less stressfull!

    OMG, this!  No way would I be re-paying rent I already paid.

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  • heysupnatalieheysupnatalie member
    WTF is more like it. I would NOT pay her more money when you already gave it to her. I would move out ASAP and tell her to shove it, even if it's your mom. Fvck her for putting you in that position, you shouldn't have to deal with another child, you already have your own. Your mom made her bed, now it's up to her to sleep in it. 
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  • theaustins05theaustins05
    Can you live with his mom? What about base housing?
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  • Jram85Jram85

    imagetheaustins05:
    Can you live with his mom? What about base housing?

    I have thought about living with his mom, but there are some factors that make that a bad idea.  She lives states away, is a smoker, and has three animals.  I would never want to live anywhere with second hand smoke; plus the animal hair and dander could be an issue.  I love my MIL but I think I'd go nuts if I lived with her.  

    I don't know why I haven't considered base housing.  Thanks, I'll look into this!

    In response to everyone else's comments -  I don't want to have to repay the rent, but if I don't help her out somehow the next step is eviction, and we'd probably end up in a shelter or possibly living with one of her friends.  I confronted her about it again and her newest excuse was, "I didn't know I hadn't been paying it."  Really?  I love my mom, but as you can imagine I'm absolutely livid.  I think I want a drink!

    Thanks for the advice everyone! 

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