This cycle is over... (long)

MBfromBMC · June 2011

Just to catch you up, this is my first cycle with Femara and I was scheduled to do an IUI this morning.

I went in on Thursday for an u/s and, just like every other cycle with Clomid, the follies were not ready on CD12. I had to go in on Saturday for another u/s, but my RE's office is closed on weekends, so I had to go downtown for it. They told me that I had one follicle (I was really hoping for two) and that I could trigger that night. I had a ton of stuff to do that day, so I planned on picking up the Ovidrel that evening.

Then the $h!t hit the fan... I got a call from DH that his stepdad called and that he wants $10,000 from us. Years and years ago, DH went to automotive school and the arrangement was that he would pay the bulk of the student loans, but his mother was required to take on a partial "parent plus" loan because he was so young. After he finished school, he immediately began paying back the loan and it is almost completely paid off right now. His mother's contribution was less than $100 per month. (Given her history as a mom, that was the absolutely least she could do for him... Let's just say - back when we were teenagers, my mom bought him more clothing and food than his own mother and stepfather...)

Anyway, DH sent checks to his mom pretty regularly because he knew that the payments were somewhat of a hardship for his mom. Because it has been so many years, DH hasn't been sending checks for about a year because it should have been paid off. The stepfather calls and says that he and DH's mother have not made a payment in three years. Now there is a lien on their house and they will lose the house if we don't give them $10,000. He suggested that we go to a credit union and take out a loan for the money. He also said that if we don't give him the money, he will sue. The loan, by the way, was for less than $3000 and they allowed it to gather so many fees and penalties that it is now $10,000!!

First of all, legally, the debt is theirs. If we were responsible in any way, don't you think we would have heard from a collection agency at some point?!?! Also, what happened to all that money that DH was sending?? Honestly, they probably drank that money...

Needless to say, DH was totally freaked out, both financially and emotionally. He got home from work and we had to call connections and lawyers to try to get the figured out, and obviously I had to calm him down. DH doesn't even get home from work until 7, so at around 8:30 I realized that I had never picked up the Ovidrel. When I got to CVS, the pharmacy was closed and the manager was a total d-bag and wouldn't even listen to me...

With all of this drama from my useless, scum-of-the-earth ILs and no trigger, I figured it was useless to go in for an IUI this morning, especially considering that today is the first day of summer school. I already wasn't happy about calling out of the first day, particularly if I know that it is hopeless.

We figured we would do TI just so that it wasn't a total waste, but believe me, I am not optimistic... Crying

:::thanks for listening:::

DeputiesWife · June 2011

whew - my head is spinning.

I am so sorry you had to endure all of that.

wishing you good luck with TI

and that you get the loan situation figured out!

madelyn07 · June 2011

What a mess..

Sorry you are dealing with all of this. How awful of your in-laws!!

mm29 · June 2011

How horrible!

I'm sorry you have to deal with this sh!t. I am also very sorry that all of this drama got in the way of your iui.

I'm keeping my fingers crossed that all this drama will fly by, and that you will get your sticky BFP with this cycle!!!

Ginger71 · June 2011

(((hugs))) I have IL drama too...different situation but I know how bad it sucks. Good luck with the TI!

vanessagorc · June 2011

WOW, that sucks!!

I am glad to read that u cancelled bc u forgot to get the trigger...and not bc u gave them the 10k. That sitiation sounds horrible. I feel really bad for ur DH and u.

Good luck w ur TI.

jessican08 · June 2011

Oh no! I'm SO so sorry you're having to go through this. I'm sorry about the IUI hon...((HUGS))

I know my only legal education comes from watching Judge Judy, but with regard to DH's mother and step-father...I'd be REALLY interested to see what grounds they would have to sue you on...The loan was in her name...ultimately it's her responsibility. Unless she and your DH had some sort of notarized agreement that he would pay her back for her portion of the loan...I wouldn't think they'd have a leg to stand on...

I hope you can get this worked out through a lawyer soon. I know it's easier said than done but try to take things one day at a time. ((HUGS))

thebeadinglady · June 2011

Ugh, I am so sorry hun! that is all just crazy, I hope you are pleasantly surprised by the TI though.

vanessagorc · June 2011

jessicandavies:

Oh no! I'm SO so sorry you're having to go through this. I'm sorry about the IUI hon...((HUGS))

I know my only legal education comes from watching Judge Judy, but with regard to DH's mother and step-father...I'd be REALLY interested to see what grounds they would have to sue you on...The loan was in her name...ultimately it's her responsibility. Unless she and your DH had some sort of notarized agreement that he would pay her back for her portion of the loan...I wouldn't think they'd have a leg to stand on...

I hope you can get this worked out through a lawyer soon. I know it's easier said than done but try to take things one day at a time. ((HUGS))

PS, i have limited legal education...but my DH worked for westlaw. people throw "ill sue u" out like it's nothing. They have no grounds, and who would take their case? also people seem to overlook the fact, that it is expensive to sue someone. And if they don't have this 10k...i think ur pretty save from this suit. Still SUCKS big time!

Sunshine05 · June 2011

I'm sorry for everything your IL's are putting you through. I really hope that your cycle isn't over and you'll get a happy surprise out of this. We were told TI wouldn't work for us due to me having little CM and what was there was hostile and killing DH's sperm. We did our last Femara/TI cycle as a placeholder until I could lose some weight to start injectables... and it brought us our bfp! Wishing and hoping the same for you, hon. I hope you get all this sorted out with your in-laws soon. *hugs*

gervaisj6 · June 2011

Sorry you had to go through that $hit!

My dad is a lawyer, and he says that people can sue you all they want, but if you don't have anything to get- their not gonna get anything...

Also, was the EVER a written agreement?- because in court you are gonna need paperwork..

why did he just come up with this demand now, too?

Temp590840000005378 · June 2011

Oh my gosh, you poor thing!! That is a horrible story, your poor DH. I hope you guys get this worked out, and it is definitely not your responsibility to pay the $10K to them, I hope your Dh doesn't feel obligated to do that. So sorry your cycle was cancelled, how stressful. ((BIG HUGS))