Introducing myself

I was on the TTC board for forever and after 5 failed IVFs and so much loss we are moving on to our next chapter and journey and plan B and will be embarking on adoption. Some of you may remember me from TTTC. 


 My initial questions would be do you use other recommendations for agencies? How much does adoption cost?  Around 30-40k?  I'll be of course, doing lots of research on my own, but these are my initial questions.



After 7 years of marriage and 5 unsuccessful IVFs, we have been granted the gift of adopting a baby boy, born 4/21/11.

Re: Introducing myself

  • I'm sorry about all of your failed IVF's, but I'm glad you've got a new wonderful plan.

    We used a facilitator who pointed us in the right directions. The first thing we did though was find someone to do a home study and start working on it.  You can't apply with an agency usually until you have one.

    The cost is different depending on the agency and the ethnicity of the child.

     Our adoption agency fee was $40,000, but we also had to pay $2000 for the homestudy and other things that went with the adoption.

    Good Luck!

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  • We're using every resource available for finding agencies. Yahoo groups (thanks Capt Serious for the rec!), the phone book, web sites, etc.

    Adoption can cost anywhere from nothing to $40K+, depending on what program you use and how you go about it. You first need to decide whether you want to do domestic or international adoption, then you need to decide if you want to go through a lawyer, facilitator, or agency. Cost and breadth of service vary.

    You may want to get one of the basic adoption books to get an overall picture. I read Adoption for Dummies, but there are others (eg, The Complete Idiot's Guide to Adoption) that are also very useful.

    Good luck.

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  • Hi, and welcome to the board.  I'm so sorry to hear that you have had a difficult time with IF.

    As for adoption, the above recommendations are great.  The first thing you?ll have to do is decide what kind of adoption ?fits? your family best.  The books above should help you get an idea of how to answer that question.

    If you then decide that domestic adoption is right for your family, you?ll need to find a good agency.  I highly recommend researching any agency you are considering to make sure it abides by ethical standards (this is where those yahoo groups Dr. L mentioned come in, along with any other research methods you can find).  For domestic agencies, a great place to look them up is on the yahoo group called "AARD" (Adoption Agency Research ? Domestic).  The group is dedicated to giving honest feedback on agencies.  You can ask about the agencies you are interested in directly, and also search their archives and files.

    If you choose international, you?ll need to pick a country before an agency. The US Department of State's website lists the requirements to adopt from each country (
    ).  Once you've made your country choice, you'll need to find an agency that has a program specializing in adoptions from that country.  The yahoo group "Adoption Agency Research" is a phenomenal resource for vetting agencies, and works the same way as ?AARD.?

    Good luck!

  • I'm so sorry about your failed ivf. The cost (and agency) will depend on the type of adoption you choose. check out your local hospitals for adoption programs. Ours offered a 4 week course on adoption basics and then offered 4 more on either domestic or international. As for the agency we just opened the phone book and started calling every agency asking if they offered adoptions for our program (infant domestic). We had a short list of questions we asked them that helped us narrow it down. We requested info from some and called about 5 with a long list of questions. When we had it to two we started asking everyone we knew if they knew of anyone that adopted and had recommendations.
  • Welcome to the board!

    I hope your journey to parenthood is smooth from here on out.  You still have a lot in front of you, it's just a matter of sorting it all out.

     As for adoption costs, I've seen it run everywhere from almost nothing (foster to adopt through the state an older child) to quite a bit (I've seen some adoption listings come through at 45-50k ++).  It's really a matter of finding the program out there that is right for you.

    And there is a program that is right for you.  The others have given some great suggestions as to how to get started, where to look etc.

    Good luck!

  • Hey there, I am also from TTTC.  We are brand new to the journey so I am not much help.

    I just want to give {{Vibes}} on this new journey

  • Welcome!!  I am sorry for your struggles.

    You've already received some great advice so I'll leave you with just a hearty WELCOME!!

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