If #1 was colicky.... how was #2?

azsheena

So, I found out yesterday that we will be joining you guys! We orginally wanted our first two kids to be 18 months apart but then DS had horrible colic and we changed our minds. The fertility Gods didn't get that message because here we are! The kids will be about 17 months apart.

Now, my first son had horrendous colic. He screamed for 5ish hours straight every evening. The best way to describe the crying is it sounded like someone was ripping him arms off and there was NOTHING we could do to help him. It was hell. At about 11 weeks, he improved to 2 hours of screaming and even took a night off every once in a while and was totally fine by 14 weeks. My huge fear is that #2 will be the same way and #1 won't be able to sleep because of it. Does anyone have any experience with that?

Mr.&MrsS

My DS1 was colicky too. He would scream for 8-9 hours in a row at times. It was horrible. There was nothing we could do to console him. He got much better as time went on (the first 3 months being the worst of it), but was pretty high maintence his entire first year (but I can proudly say he has been a delightful toddler and now preschooler!).

My DS2 was not like that at all. I wouldnt go so far as to say he was an easy baby...he wanted to be held 24/7 and if you put him down he would scream until you picked him up. So, as long as he was held, he was happy (which was hard since I had a 16 month old to take care of). But I would take that over a colicky baby any day!! I think there was one time ever that he cried for an hour and we couldnt figure out why. Other than that he never cried for hours on end. And by the time he was 4 months old he was the most laid back baby ever.

Good luck!!

rosesandpeonies

i had it opposite.  DD1 was a textbook baby.  Ate when and how much she should.  Slept.  Got herself on a schedule all on her own. STTN at 3 weeks.

DD2 was different.  she had trouble feeding from day 1.  The nurse literally had to come in the room on Day 1 and force her to eat something....(I had a section and didnt really have the ability to work with her to eat).  She then was colicky, and had trouble sleeping, crying for hours a night.  Finally was put on zantac recently and it has seemed to help...but napping is difficult.  She just isnt a sleeper, and she is very clingy to me (which i love...but sometimes you need to be able to put her down).

Supposedly you get one of each...so hopefully you aren't blessed with a colicky baby again  

BTW DD1 has not been affected at all by her sisters crying or colic, reflux, gas. 

azsheena

That is encouraging, but I am trying not to get my hopes up! He is 9 months now and I would still say he fusses and whines more than an average baby, but it is SO much better!

I hear you on the not wanting to be put down. He hated his swing, play mat, bouncy chair etc etc. Oh how I hated people who would say "I put baby in the swing and he is happy for an hour." Uh. Maybe I can go to the bathroom. Maybe." We also had latch issues and I ended up EPing for 3 months until I couldn't take it anymore. I'd be pumping and trying to bounce the bouncer with my foot and he would be crying and crying. I do think it would be harder to have the tough baby second. So, maybe that is a blessing in disguise.

 

mel72

DS1 did not have colic but DS2 did - in comparison to others, I guess his 3 hrs of screaming per night until 9 weeks wasn't that bad!

allie_smalls07

I thought DS was a hard baby (and he truly was), but when DD came along she showed me a new level of hard. WAY hard. Thankfully my son was my lil' buddy by that point (they are 15 months apart) and was my sunshine in those very tumultuous 6 months. Yup, DD was colicky for THAT long and is still a handful at times Of course DS had his toddler moments (many of them), but I'd take those any day over DD's horrid colic. Hopefully your second will be an easier baby (fingers crossed for you!)...if not at least you will have the older one to make you smile and get you through those times . Good luck and congrats.

BrittKav

My older daughter screamed and cried all day, every day until she was about 6 months old.

My younger daughter was better, she only had mild colic (an hour of inconsolable crying every evening) from 1-3 months of age. 

MamatoJackson

They both had colic.  DD (Our 2nd) was better in the beginning but at about 3 weeks, colic kicked in and went until 12 weeks.  Apparently the odds of having two colicky babies, in a row, are slim.  We're just lucky.  

aniceucchik

so far #2 is an angel compaired to #1...but we havent even hit the colic age yet. Jacob turned into a screaming monster around 3w old, so im just waiting for James to do the same. Apparently Jacob had a dairy allergy and I bf'd him not knowing about the allergy until he was ten months old, so im assuming that was alot of his problem. This time around we are doing straight soy formula, so im hoping things will remain calm and quiet.

roundtheworldgirl

DD1 was super-colicky until she was about 2.5 months.  DD2 was a much easier kid.  She did occasionally have crying spells, but it was nothing like what DD1 had.

trinny

DS2 is sooo laid back.  We were lucky to get the hard one out of the way first!  Mine are 17 months apart too-- it wasn't what we planned either, but it is working out really well now.  I'm not sure when I would have been ready for another kid if this hadn't been sprung on me!