Opinions on my co-ed shower

duffmaker

So my good friend and step-mil are throwing me a baby shower and they both have a different idea and told me to pick which one sounds best to me but honestly I can't pick... It isn't that I don't want to hurt anyone because I know neither of them will be hurt at all they are both just so excited planning it! It's that I really don't have a preference so I would appreciate some opinion/pointers on etiquette etc., both are co-ed and more party/get together style then traditional girlie frilly shower with all the games (I just don't feel comfy with the games except some super simple ones)...

Step-mil : More of a brunch style with sandwiches, salads, snacks, cake in the back private room of a local family style resturant with a set start time

Friend: Lunch pizza, wings, snacks, cake in the banquet room or the fire house that I basically grew up in (because of my dad) with an open house feel

weddingbells2010

MIL wins.

EastCoastBride

As it's co-Ed, your friends idea. I think the men will enjoy that more.

srs5624

eddy321:

Estwd2:

I vote Special Snowflake: The location and food options of your friend's plus the set start time of your MIL's. I would imagine that an open house shower might get lengthy and boring. Plus, pizza and wings can get nasty sitting around for later-arriving guests.

I agree with this.

Another vote.

Use both and as a bonuse it will help alleviate any hurt feelings since you'll be picking both ideas. Use your friend's food and location idea since it's co-ed and your MIL's schedule so it's more organized (and so no one gets the gross soggy wings and lukewarm pizza).

Liz4444

If it's co-ed, ask your SO what he prefers since he will obviously be there.  Personally, I would probably go with MIL just to keep family peace, your friend would understand that reasoning.

ILoveRedVino

Since it is co-ed, I'd definitely go with your friend's idea.  It is much more husband-friendly, I think.

CANDID SMURF

Sandwiches, wings, snacks and cake at the firehouse

varkeyr

Personally you must do the guy friendly food and backdrop. Men will feel out of place with the brunch style food and place. But do have a start time and end time. It will be too trying to have an open house feel.