Anyone having problems with DH understanding?

toridear

I have a very loving and kind husband, and he's a great partner generally.  But I'm getting frustrated with this TTC stuff. 

We had a negative after our first month with the RE, and I was bummed out.  Frankly, I'm not a person who wallows, but sometimes I need a few minutes to just be sad (and frustrated and all the other things we go through).  I know he was trying to be encouraging but he said that there is no reason for me to be upset and the RE says we have good odds, etc.  It felt very condescending, like I'm not justified in being upset.  I asked him to let me feel the way I feel, and he can feel the way he feels.  He got defensive and we haven't talked since this a.m. 

 Any suggestions how to help him be more empathetic towards what I'm going through?  Did your husbands go through something like this and did it get better?  Thanks.

Mrs.McIrish

DH had no concept about what I was feeling until I burst out crying one night last December. We were at a party and there was a VERY PG woman there. I had gotten AF that day and just needed to get the he!! out of the party. He didn't want to leave. Finally we left and he was questioning me on why we had to leave. I just burst out in tears and told him everything I had previously been keeping to myself.

 It has definitely gotten better. He knows my triggers now and I also tell him when it's a bad day etc.  I think communication is key. It's just not the same for most men.