what do you think of Babywise?

Lambie.

David'sgirl:

Kate621:

David'sgirl:

laura_belle:

I couldn't get past the first chapter.  

Part of me wishes I was so organized, and that I could put Noah in his room for 45 minutes for quiet time...then the normal part of me says this woman is effin crazy...how can you punish a child for wanting to be around people? 

I don't think she is punishing her child. Independent play is an important part of development. Not something I would do at 10 months, but I don't see the big deal that she did it. I don't really know much about Babywise so I can't speak to that but I don't really see the big whoop about the blog. She seems very organized and type A and her kids seem healthy and happy.

Clearly, she said that they introduced quiet time because her daughter wanted to always be picked up etc. So to me, that sounds like punishment. I don't want you to want me to pick you up so I am going to put you in your room by yourself so that you can play alone and thus you will learn that people are not around to pick you up and play with you all the time. Maybe the two of you don't see it as punishment but i do 

I don't think you understand what punishement is. She didn't put her daughter in time out or isolate her every times she wanted attention. If you are afraid of the water and I teach you to swim that is not punishment (even though it may feel like it at first, I promise it isn't). If I dunk your head under every time you show fear that is.

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Heather R

Ezzo is estranged from his own kids, and they don't allow him contact with his grandchildren. He advocated smacking babies to teach them how to behave in high chairs. Healso lied about his credentials to apply to ministry school, having not even finished his Associate degree. He was forced to step down as church leader because he was so unpopular. I think his publisher actually dropped him. I prefer to get my parenting advice from doctors and researchers, not liars with no credentials, but that's just me.

delg23

Kate621:

yankeebaby2:

Right but this blog is saying that at 9 or 10 months she was leaving the baby alone in the baby's room.  You guys were doing that?  

I'll leave him in the other room to play while I do dishes or something. Not for long periods of time but he is technically alone, I guess.

This but I am not following Babywise. I have never read it. A couple Christian people I know have suggested it and I ignore them because I don't see why I would read parenting advice for a child that young by a pastor. I mean if it was about teaching your child morals or something I could see a pastor writing a book but I don't get a pastor giving advice on feeding schedule. I listen to my pediatrician and my son.  I have been tempted to read it anyway because all these babywise people's kids are sleeping through the night & I'm just curious but I don't know that I want to support it $ wise.

mm&m2010

The way that I have seen people use it irl is child neglect & abuse.

ehair

THIS! I am not a huge fan of the AAP but they don't even like babywise.  I got the book as a gift, I read it and I threw it out.  I am sorry I don't agree babies need mandatory independent time.  THey rely on us for EVERYTHING and the idea that babies need to learn independence is a western concept.  I bed share.  I breastfeed and it makes night nursing easier.  I hate that babies are suppose to be "managed".  The back of the babywise book says it is an infant management system - um my daughter is a person not something to be managed.  I love her and I recognize she is an infant. As she grows she will need to learn to sleep in her own bed and that breastfeeding does not last forever but right now I just want her to be secure, fed, happy, and developing well.  Right now she needs me and her father.  I will change my life for her, this is such a small part of her life overall.  I also am Christian and I found it a horrible book.  Babies give cues as to what they need - food, milk, a hug, etc.  My daugher has nap times that are the same time each day, she is rocked to sleep by a trusted caregiver.  I breastfeed her to sleep.  She is a very happy well adjusted little girl who chooses to play on her own without any encouragement from me.  How can you lump all kids into one or two methods to make them sleep through the night for you conveniece?  Geez I was up twice last night myself how can I expect her to sleep through the night all the time? Babies are babies not something to be managed.

snansley

yankeebaby2:

Right but this blog is saying that at 9 or 10 months she was leaving the baby alone in the baby's room.  You guys were doing that?  

DS's room still has some hazards so he isn't allowed to be in there completely unsupervised.  But leave him alone in his crib? Absolutely.  We put him in his crib when we can't watch him, like when we are getting ready in the morning.  If he wakes up from a nap and is happily babbling, we may let him continue doing that for a few minutes instead of rushing right in. Many nights he isn't quite ready to go to sleep but is too tired to be up and playing.    So we give him soft toys and books in his crib and he plays with those until he finishes winding down and falls asleep.  Some nights it is 30 minutes for him to go down.  I think it is good that he is learning to amuse himself.   He doesn't feel abandoned.