Update on FK situation

Stella's_PUMPED

I've decided to call the DHS worker and see if the kids can stay somewhere else.  (see previous post below regarding 3 FK ages: 2, 4 and 10).

We found the 4 year old had been peeing in his room on nights that he didn't get dessert because of bad behavior, the 2 year old was caught trying to stuff a blanket into my 3 month old's mouth twice, and the destruction of property and toys is too much to list.  I reached my limit after the 2nd time the 2 year old was trying to stuff a blanket in my son's mouth.

I feel really bad for the kids, and even worse that we took them in the first place, because now we're their 3rd foster home.  I don't like not feeling like my children are not safe in their own home, and that takes precident over all other feelings.

MamaB2009

I think this post is why a lot of people feel so strongly about birth order.  It can definitely work if you foster or adopt out of birth order, but among other issues, it is just so hard to give older/hurting children the attention they need while you're also trying to juggle younger/non-hurting children.

Best of luck to you -- it sounds like it is in everyone's best interest that these kids find a home where they can receive enough attention and nurturing to address some of their behavior issues and hurts and you can deal with what sounds like your own personal stresses with your own kids/family.  Sometimes knowing your limits is the best thing you can do!

CaptainSerious

Oh, I know how much you are torn about this, but you made the only decision you could, given the circumstances.  No child should ever be at risk as a result of a foster placement, and this situation just wasn't safe for your family or conducive to providing the kids with what they needed to help them overcome their trauma and resulting behaviors.  Please don't beat yourself up about making this decision; it sounds like the only healthy solution for everyone involved.

I wish you all the best, and peace as you move on.

hillaree

CaptainSerious:

Oh, I know how much you are torn about this, but you made the only decision you could, given the circumstances.  No child should ever be at risk as a result of a foster placement, and this situation just wasn't safe for your family or conducive to providing the kids with what they needed to help them overcome their trauma and resulting behaviors.  Please don't beat yourself up about making this decision; it sounds like the only healthy solution for everyone involved.

I wish you all the best, and peace as you move on.

I totally agree. Thinking of you as you take this difficult step, and I wish you, your family, and these children all the best. Hopefully their next home will be the perfect fit for them.