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Baby Showers
no baby shower:(
so Im due this month and nobody threw me a babyshower, DH wants me to do it myself but I feel dumb and sad doing this myself, so my question is should I do it? or should I just forget about it?
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Re: no baby shower:(
Is this your first?
Maybe you should have something after the baby is born?
I agree.
I can understand the disappointment, but don't throw your own shower. A shower is a gift, so if no one offered one then unfortunately, you don't get one.
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This is your first?
Not getting a shower for your first is horrible! But I wouldn't be totally shocked if it happened to me. Family is really spread out and friends seem to be at different stages than myself (still dating or engaged).
It's so late in the game and throwing a shower for yourself seems tacky. I would (even though it's upsetting) let it go until LO is here. Then throw a "welcome baby" party.
Throw a welcome party after LO arrives.
Sorry no one offered to throw you a shower. I probably won't be having one either. I've had plently of my friends tell me to just throw one myself but I couldn't bring myself to doing that. I'm only 20 weeks so there's plenty of time but if no one offers one we'll probably just do a little welcome party after.
From the picture in your profile it looks like you already have a child. Is this your first or second?
I agree with PP and throw a Welcome Baby party after the baby is born.
In another thread she says she has a six year old boy. So yeah, she's looking for a pity party because no one has thrown her a shower for a second child.
do whatever you want to do.
be a rebel.
I am teaching my child to have manners, to learn etiquette and not expect everyone to give her gifts.
A shower is a gift, not a right. It's to welcome a young woman to motherhood. Also, by choosing to have a child, it is her and the father's responsibility to provide for it, not everyone else.
If by bully, you mean socially skilled, gracious and responsible enough to be self-sufficent, then yes, I'm raising a bully.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
Ditto. Guess I am too then.
StepanieDrake- Tacky is throwing yourself a last minute shower when you already have a child.
harsh much? We should all be so lucky as to be as well off as you all seem to be.
Since when do manners equate to the size of ones bank account?
It is acceptable to throw your own meet and greet or welcome baby party, etc. It is possible the reason no one offered a shower is because this baby is not your first and many people believe showers are for first time mothers only - regardless of the distance between children/different sex/first baby for the father, etc. If you only have a month before your due date you don't have time for a shower (getting invites out, etc) even if someone did volunteer. If someone steps up just ask if they can make it a welcome baby party instead of a shower. We had one with our second and it was a lot of fun. Got a lot of diapers, outfits, and a few people actually asked me what I needed (like a 2nd monitor since we were still using the other one with our first born).
This!!
As the PP said, what does someone's financial means have to do with manners and etiquette? If you're poor, it's okay to be tacky and rude???
And since when it is it the responsibility of friends and family to provide for someone's child? If the OP is having financial issues, she can look to buy stuff used on Craigslist, at garage sales (guess what - a ton of my kid's toys come from garage sales and flea markets! Not to mention the swing we used for her and some other stuff) or if she is really struggling there are various governmental agencies she can look to for assistance.
This. If you can't afford the responsibility, don't ttc. If you were using protection and had an oopsie, you find a way to work it out. If you're that desperate, there are programs to help you.
Plus, I can't help but feel if someone is that hard off, friends and family would give her stuff for the baby, even without a shower. If you can't buy your own baby stuff (thus needing a fundraiser---err, I mean a shower), you don't have the money to host and throw your own shower, ykwim? Cancel cable, stop eating so much take-out, etc--you find ways to trim the fat.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
Says who?
Exactly what I was thinking! Use the money you would take to throw a party and buy what you need for the baby, be responsible.
They only attack one another when it comes to this topic, which over the past month have been like 4 threads. All in which they've all attacked each others morals, whether they're being responsible, whether they want to take care of their children, and whether they're being gift grabby. I've come to the conclusion with this topic that the person can do whatever it's not like they're inviting us. It's all about what's tacky and what's not, but in the end it's this persons kid and it's their decision. So if you see another thread that has "throw my own shower" or "throwing their own shower" don't read it because it's like history it keeps repeating itself.
Let me get this straight, you're cranky because you see people giving their opinions (when asked for by the op, 99% of the time) on the etiquette surrounding a topic---on an etiquette board?
If you don't like it, go find something more your speed....like https://tinyurl.com/3px88hy
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
If you want to get something straight it would be that i'm not cranky and I wasn't speaking to you. I was actually trying to help her and justify this craziness. I'm not cranky about anyone posting on this board because uh IT'S A MESSAGE BOARD!!! People are going to post their opinion and view points, that's what this is for. So maybe you should grow up and stop posting stupid pictures on a message board being an baby board internet gangster. LIKE REALLY?? LMBO who does that?? You need a real chill pill because I am not cranky, I'm telling her how this topic goes every time it's posted the 99.9% of the times that it is posted. So if she's offended then don't read, and to you maybe next time you should skip my post since i'm so cranky and let it go before telling me how i feel through a post I didn't know you could feel my emotions that well geeze you're good!
PS I think i'll add another ticker for the last time I actually was cranky over posts on a message board devoted to baby showers lol
Seriously, do you make sense irl or do you only maniacally ramble on like this when you are trying to prove how not cranky you are?
The only thing that comes to mind as I read your reply was that bit from Billy Madison. At no point in your rambling, incoherent response were you even close to anything that could be considered a rational thought. Everyone in this room is now dumber for having listened to it. I award you no points, and may God have mercy on your soul.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
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and how old are you again?? Again to the original poster don't click on these type of posts because this is what you see. CASE PROVEN. And yet still she's still speaking to me when ... I was not talking to her geeze these Internet Gangsters they're just on their *** today!
I don't know how old I am, I don't have two tickers telling me the exact same number. I do know, however, that I'm old enough to understand sentence structure. Seriously though, I'm getting concerned. You know you're not even replying in full sentences, right?
"and yet she's still speaking to me when ... I was not talking to her geeze these Internet Gangsters they're just on their *** today!" You don't make sense.
I'm not an internet gangster (correctly or incorrectly capitalized), but a fellow citizen concerned that perhaps you don't realize how stupid you sound to others.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
To the original poster, I would say that is too late to have a bby shwr at this point but I do like the others idea of a welcome home baby get together.
P.S. I think ppl on this board are going a little bit too far... That is all.
PS The movie quote was a nice touch I wonder how long it took for you to google it and put in the post.
I never knew that by commenting on a post that had nothing to do with the original post or your post I'd be attacked by a woman who has big internet balls (did that sentence bother you) or how about the fact I didn't use any punctuation... i can keep going on and on to give Ball sox more to type about in this post
(oh look no period!)
:Waves: Bye! D0n't let the d00r hit you where the g00d L0rd split y0u.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
You guys are sooo rude with your etiquette and common sense! You're like a bunch of gangsters. This is a place for support for fragile pregnant women. I feel sorry for your children. Waaaahhhhhhhhhhh!!!!eleven!!!!
Did I leave anything out? This sh!t is hilarious.
Oh I want one! I want one!
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.