Could you/would you work with your H?

ashleyaugust7

The new job I start next week is in the same building and for the same company as my H.  I am really excited about it, for multiple reasons, but one is being able to have a lunch with him once a week or so, or being able to drive together if we need to.

I have a friend who said she talked with her H about it and they said they could never work in the same office.  (We won't be in the same department and our work won't affect each other at all).

WDYT?

xbrooklyngrl

In your situation, Yes I could. Now if I had to see him IN the office all day, every day, then NO. I love him and we are great together but we worked together when we were dating (that's how we met) and I would never do it again.

Plus, where would I go to complain about him if he was right here?! lol

ridesbuttons

I do and I have for 15 years.

We have some rules but overall it has worked out.  Not perfect, some bumps.

joseysbride

My dh and I get along really well, and we are actually both in the same profession, so it could have been a possiblity for us.  I wouldn't mind working with him, and I don't think we'd have any problems with it.  The thing I wouldn't like, is it would be so hard to not talk about work when we were home; even if it was just work gossip/drama/whatever you want to call it.  When I come home, I want to leave work behind me.  We really don't talk about our jobs to each other much at all, and I like it that way.

veloelle

For the same company in totally different areas? Yes. Side by side? Eff no! We work well together at home and are in the same industry. But there is good reason most married couples work separately.

Starr57

DH and I worked in the same complex (though different buildings). We hardly saw each other because we were on such different shifts. I would have liked to see him more and carpooled. I think your situation might be perfect.

peekaboo716

BTDT - both side by side, same role on different "teams", same company, and different roles/companies, but same building. When in the same role at the same company, we made sure we didn't interact during the day (no lunches, running for coffee, etc.). It sometimes made people uncomfortable, so it worked for us to just let him have his stuff there, and I have my stuff there. When we were in the same building, we met for lunch frequently. I liked that a lot.

We now work completely separate from each other, and that's great too.

shouldbworkin

not at my current company b/c it's too small and I worry about putting all of our eggs in one basket.  But at a larger company and in different depts, for sure.  DH and I used to eat lunch together 1x a week when his office was closer to mine, it was awesome! 

Andrewsgal

In the same building? Yep would love to, in the same office, hell no! DH works with a married couple and hates it to his core.

jend062505

I have in the past.  We worked in the same office, he was in sales and I was an Acct Mgr.  The hardest part for us was visiting clients and trying explain we were hus/wife or not telling them.  For the most part we kept things pretty high level.  It did suck on the days I left the house angry and knew I would see him in 10 mins.  It does work, just set boundries if you need to.

ccm1203

In your situation, yes I could work for the same company as him. 

AnnapolisLari

If I didn't have to see him, sure.

If I did, hell no.

ashleyaugust7

AnnapolisLari:

If I didn't have to see him, sure.

If I did, hell no.

lol!  I won't HAVE to see him, but I probably will- did I mention we will be both on the same floor?   I think it will work well, we have been together forever, so we know how to handle ourselves in public without being disgusting, all over each other, and/or constantly bickering.  I am sure I will be a little irritated over all the "so, you're _____'s wife, huh?" though! (He's worked there for 10 years)

AggieCouple

H and I met at work and were sort of cheesy about each other and did a lot of fenangling to try to at least be in close proximity, if not working on the same project, from the time we started dating to when I left the company.  People made fun of us because we almost always had to have lunch together.  Whatever.  We loved it, and the commute was our 2 hours (back and forth) to talk and connect.  Work can be frustrating, and it's nice to b*tch to someone who is actually there and knows all the people and back stories.  When I left to be a SAHM mom, he started to hate his job.  He freely admits that he mainly enjoyed work because I was there, and I felt the same way.  

It worked best, though, when we were not directly working on the same piece of work.  

DandelionMom

God no!  I can barely stand doing home improvement projects with him!  Not that I don't love him to bits, we just could not work together! 

Ciarrai

DH and I used to work for the same company on the same project in the same "position" (he was much older/more experienced) when we first met but we were in different groups under different leads.  We sat in cubes almost across from each other, but didn't actually "work" together.   DH and I could and would happily work in the same place (and have many times), though it'd be an adjustment with boundaries and such (mostly because of me), but we couldn't/wouldn't work "for"/"with" each other very well.  You should see us try to put together furniture from IKEA.  I have to leave the house.  And the fights we used to have about work stuff before I quit to start my business...  Stupid but messy.  So yes and no.  As long as we weren't in the same group working on exactly the same thing, we'd manage.  He does all my tech support now for my business but that can get messy anyway.  It'll be an adjustment, but you'll do fine.

Mominator

I actually met my exH at work. We were on the same floor but in different departments. We continued to work in the same building for the first year we were married and then I got a new job for the same company in a different office. I left the company in 2008 and him in 2007. We both were back at the same company for a few months in 2010 shortly after our divorce, he has since left again and I am still there.

All that said, I think it was a little overkill for us, or at least for him. The best 2 years of our marriage were when I was still working but we were not working together.