Early terrible twos, wanting attention or both?

angelproberts

Although we've only been home for a week DD was doing so well with DS. I even posted about how well their meeting was. Well the past couple of days DD has been completely defiant.  I'm a single mom but I do have my mom when she's home (she has a very busy social life/calendar) and today I was home alone and she went nuts! She has always been busy but she stood on one of her chairs and climbed on the coffee table. I was nursing DS and with him being so small I figured I would just tell her to get down and she would..........not the case she stood up on the table and as I was trying to get to her she was backing up on the table and came very close to the edge. I had to hold DS, in what I'm sure was uncomfortable for him, and get up to grab her before she went tumbling down.

 Is this a ploy for attention, her knowing I was busy so she was doing what she wanted, early terrible twos, or all the above?  TIA 

CaitlinJ22

At 14 months old, Im not sure if she is really trying to push your buttons, or she is playing a game etc. BUT I can tell you that as soon as you sit down to feed a baby, they know and act out in some way. I am not a single mom, but my husband is gone for weeks at a time, so I call myself a part time single momma. DS would act out more when I was alone with both kids (which was often). 

I would suggest baby proofing the crap out of your place. Make sure you feed the baby in a safe zone, and so even if she is climing on stuff she can't get hurt. Sometimes ignoring the bad stuff (if its not dangerous to her or the baby) and then praising her when she is doing good things, works well. 

Good luck, 14 months is a hard age because they are not quite old enough to do time out, but they are old enough to kind of know how to push your buttons.  

kcisthebombdotcom

I vote normal toddler behavior. Kids LOVE to climb. Since my DS figured out how to climb stairs at 7 months old, he's been climbing everything he possibly can ever since, and that kind of behavior started long before we brought DD home.

Ditto the PP who just said babyproof the crap outta your house so you dont have to worry about watching her and ignore bad behavior/praise good behavior.

hellopoppyseed

Congrats on the new baby. I think it's normal toddler behavior. We have very few rules in order to keep it simple for ds but when he was doing something he shouldn't, I too would go get him off of something with a baby on my boob. It was when he was first learning No and I wanted him to know I was serious so I had to get up and redirect him. Now he's better at stopping something on his own when I tell him no or "sit on your bottom" or whatever. hang in there.

bridgeybride

I don't have much advice.. but wanted to congratulate you on your baby! 

Sounds like it is attention getting??   I agree with babyproofing the heck out of your place so she can't get hurt.  Yikes.. this is exactly what I'm anticipating.

 

angelproberts

Thanks ladies. I think the pp that said not quite old enough for time out but definitely knowing how to push buttons is exactly it. I will baby proof more and hopefully she learn no as serious and not a game.