Baby Shower for Baby #2?

SmithMomma2

In my family, I've always grown up thinking you only have a baby shower for your first baby. However, my friends tell me its ok and that I should have a baby shower for baby #2. Any thoughts or opinions? Whats the correct thing to do if any??

cherokeemomma87

Do what you feel is right, but be warned that this topic will/can blow up on this board. So there is a good chance that you could get flamed for just asking.

Liz4444

I feel like you should only have a shower for the first baby, but if someone wants to throw you a shower it's OK, don't throw one for yourself.

LittleNatural

Liz4444:

I feel like you should only have a shower for the first baby, but if someone wants to throw you a shower it's OK, don't throw one for yourself.

 

I agree with this.  I would just add that if someone does throw you a shower for a second I think it should be their idea/doing and should be kept simple with just close family and friends. More of a celebration for the soon to be born.  That's just my opinion though...

Kvitale87

I heard about having a baby sprinkle. You have friends come over have some food and chat but gifts are not typical, people can if they like. Its more laid back and kind of a girls day/night.

EastCoastBride

If someone offers to throw it, it's fine. But keep it small. This isn't an event to invite every person you know.

RoxyLynn

You're right - showers and registries are for first-timers only.

weddingbells2010

I don't think showers are appropriate after your first, but "sprinkles" are more and more common.  A sprinkle is a small get-together that is more about celebrating the new arrival and not about "showering" mom with necessities; gifts shouldn't be mentioned or expected, although most will probably bring a small something to help prepare for baby (a pack of diapers, an outfit, etc...).  It should be small, casual, and you definitely don't register for it.

Mrs.B6302007

A sprinkle is okay, but I wouldn't go for a full blown shower.  Sprinkles are good for more diapers (if you use sposies) and some new clothes (if baby #2 is the other gender).  Like several others said, keep it small and intimate.  Have just a few snacks/light food, a cake and some social time.

varkeyr

Have a sprinkle instead of shower. You know diapers, books and toys.

SmithMomma2

Thank you all!! This really helps. I've never heard of a "sprinkler" before, but it sounds like a GREAT idea!

TrendyTina

I'm very traditional, so I say no. If you do have a second shower, I would only invite your closest friends and family. 

pradanurse

I think it depends on how close your children are in age .  I would say a good gap of atleast 5 years. Otherwise, no, unless it is given to you and don't get upset if certain ppl dont attend because they don't agree with second showers. Good luck.

vglovesme

I think having a shower for any baby subsequent to the first is perfectly fine. I'm having my second boy and my sister and cousin are throwing me a surprise shower shhhh not supposed to kno. Every child that you carry is special and should be treated as such. It's not fair to have pictures and memories for the first and not the others. However depending on the age gap you could have a sprinkle if the children aren't far apart in age, or if the first was a boy and the second is a girl or vice versa. For example my first is 6 years and I donated all his baby gear and clothes a longtime ago, so for me it starts all over. Have a full blown shower if you want it, who cares how many you have, as I said every BABY is special, and being able to have one is a CELEBRATION everytime.

rhubarb123

IMO...if someone is offering to host a shower for you then it is OK to accept.  It should be a smaller, scaled down version of your first shower though.  Keep in mind that you will less of a turn-out (most likely) since the people in your family probably feel like you - showers are for first time mothers.

MsShib

I am also on baby #2 and they're going to be only one year apart...! So I consulted a lot, because my friend was insisting on throwing me a shower. Basically, here are my two cents: If the babies are far enough apart and if they are a different gender, it would be fine to do another shower. If that's not the case, then a baby sprinkle is in order. That's what I'm doing (next weekend). My friend specifically said in the invitation (which was an evite, so much more low key than a formal shower) to not spend any money on gifts. I bought some onesies for my friends to decorate, as that is the main reason I agreed to this sprinkle - so that both my daughters will have onesies made with love especially for them from my loved ones.

bethann3181

EastCoastBride:

If someone offers to throw it, it's fine. But keep it small. This isn't an event to invite every person you know.

 

Agree 100%.  In my group of friends, a 2nd shower is called a Sprinkle, and we do a small brunch out with immediate family and very close friends only.