LO1... having a hard time, I think.

AutumnBride929

He is 21 months old and it's pretty obvious that he acts out to get my attention.  He throws objects that shouldn't be thrown (random toys, mostly) at me while I'm nursing DD.  If I walk into the room with her or get her so she can be fed, he will climb into the glider so I can't sit there and nurse her, or he will take the Boppy and say "No no no".  It's really quite heartbreaking.  And yesterday he brought the Ergo to me so I would wear him which was the cutest thing ever... but also kind of sad because he is so desperate for my attention.

If DD is in her swing, DS will walk over there to lure me in and then turn around and reach his arms up to get me to hold him.  In bad situations, he will hit her before I have a chance to run over (yikes, that's rare though).  He just snaps so quickly.  Like, he will carry a blanket or diaper over to the swing and gently place it on DD; then, all of a sudden, he will randomly just start hitting.  I feel terrible that I can't give him the attention he wants.   I can't wait until DD is older and a little more independent so I can spend more time with him and they can play together.  It's tough right now. I try to interact with him as best as I can while I'm tending to DD but it's hard to keep up with his wants... they change every second and it feels like the tantrums are endless.  And he is everywhere.  One minute he wants outside but he wants to be held or worn; then he wants to go inside so I walk inside and he throws a fit because he really wants to be outside, etc.

Phew, I guess I just had to get this off my chest.  2U2 is madness in the beginning; I think DH wishes we would have waited now but I still wouldn't change it, lol.

CaitlinJ22

hang in there. Our Pedi told me once that DS wasnt just acting out bc we had DD, but bc thats what they do at that age. They are testers, and try your patience A LOT.

I would try your hardest when DD is in the swing or napping, to get excited and bring out some playdoh, or stickers and sit down with him alone. Even a few minutes will help. They are little creatures that love attention, good or bad....so when they arent getting the good kind, they seek the bad kind. Try to praise him A LOT. I always tried to make a HUGE deal when he brought me a diaper, or was gentle with DD. Its very hard, but in a few months you'll see how great it is. DD and DS are BFFs He was so sad this morning when she slept in and was crying because he wanted to see her. Hang in there girl!

kristalovesjared

Don't know if this will make you feel any better, but my nephew is the same age as your DS and acts exactly the same around my DD who is 16 months. Maybe it's just something common for boys around that age to go through! Hang in there. Sounds like you're doing a good job!