CIO and Puking

jcyahne

I'd love for Hayden to learn to fall asleep on her own, but anytime I set her in her crib (drowsy but awake) she ends up vomiting the entire content of her stomach within a couple minutes.  At that point we stop (I don't care what Ferber says...I can't keep going after that).  Has anybody else dealt with this?  Just a little worried I'll be rocking her asleep until her 30's.

Mama_v2.0

I nursed DD to sleep until she was 2 and laid with her till she feel asleep until she was 3.5 years. The worst I have heard is until they are 4.5/5 years....not 30

It will be fine (and perfectly normal) if you rock her to sleep until she 3 or 4.   

kristalovesjared

If it was me, I'd just wait another couple months and try again. I could not do that either!

When we did CIO Ella was just learning to stand and she would fall and bang her head on her railings... I had to wait until she was a little more sturdy to leave her in by herself. I guess if it's not one thing, it's something else. Now that she only falls asleep once set into her crib, I wish I could snuggle or rock her to sleep because she never sits still long enough to snuggle.

babyaustin725

We didn't deal with this early on, but Tman went through separation anxiety around 2 years old and bed time was the worst.  He would also throw up, so we didn't do CIO.  We had a twin sized bed in his room and we would sleep in that while he was in his crib or if he was really struggling, we'd bring him in the twin size bed with us.  Unfortunately, nothing "solved" the issue.  We just tried one day (after a few months) to put him in his crib and walk away and it was like a miracle and it worked.

Good luck.  I hope you get a solution soon.

Seattle_JiLLn

No way would I keep CIO-ing if my kid puked.  one of my friends did that and I still can't believe it - cry, puke, go clean it up, throw her back in the bed, leave, cry, HOURS LATER, passed out.  No freaking way is that teaching them to self soothe.  No way.  (and FWIW, she happened to post something on my FB somewhat recently to the effect that she (the mom) hasn't STTN in 8 years... so even though she was all "you have to CIO" to me, her kids are 5 and 8 and still bug her in the night!!!)

Anyway, for Ben and now I'm finally working on it for Cooper, I helped them learn to fall asleep on their own by staying in the room and laying on the floor by the crib.  I was able to move farther and farther from the crib til I was near the door, and eventually I'd just stand near the door, Ben would say "mommy?" and I'd say "night night" and leave.   I havent' started moving away from the crib yet with Cooper... But he's falling asleep in his crib with very minimal or sometimes no crying.  

So maybe try something like that?  I guess it's sort of CIO without leaving?  There definitely was some crying up front, but I stayed with them and put my arm in the crib and rubbed backs or whatever..  

In any event, it won't be forever.  They all figure it out eventually.   

ckmommy

We did a similar process as Jill. We would put C down drowsy but hang out by his crib and each week move a little further away. It was a process and sometimes aggrivating, but about a month ago we got to where we are now. We do diaper, jammies, medicine (he has allergy issues), brush teeth, book, night night hugs and kisses, then one of us put him down, say mommy amd daddy love you goodnight, and close the door. He still sleeps with music on and a night light but he sleeps through the night now. Hang in there.

IdahoGirl

Seattle_JiLLn:

No way would I keep CIO-ing if my kid puked.  one of my friends did that and I still can't believe it - cry, puke, go clean it up, throw her back in the bed, leave, cry, HOURS LATER, passed out.  No freaking way is that teaching them to self soothe.  No way.  (and FWIW, she happened to post something on my FB somewhat recently to the effect that she (the mom) hasn't STTN in 8 years... so even though she was all "you have to CIO" to me, her kids are 5 and 8 and still bug her in the night!!!)

Anyway, for Ben and now I'm finally working on it for Cooper, I helped them learn to fall asleep on their own by staying in the room and laying on the floor by the crib.  I was able to move farther and farther from the crib til I was near the door, and eventually I'd just stand near the door, Ben would say "mommy?" and I'd say "night night" and leave.   I havent' started moving away from the crib yet with Cooper... But he's falling asleep in his crib with very minimal or sometimes no crying.  

So maybe try something like that?  I guess it's sort of CIO without leaving?  There definitely was some crying up front, but I stayed with them and put my arm in the crib and rubbed backs or whatever..  

In any event, it won't be forever.  They all figure it out eventually.   

I'm a huge CIO proponent and THIS!!!  Till they're puking?  Not so much.

Heck, I have my limits with how long my kids can fuss before I do something different....  and I think every baby is different.  Madelyn took to CIO like a duck to water.  It took like 5 nights and she never fussed/cried longer than 20 minutes and would get MORE upset if I went in there.

William is proving to be completely different.  He's getting there, but he soothes much better if I peep my head in and rub his back or move him such that he can roll over onto his tummy.  He's a tummy sleeper bigtime and he hasn't yet figured out that he needs to move himself to one side of the bed and then roll over.  So he tries to roll himself over in the middle of the bed and then is just up against the crib and upset.  I help him scoot to the side so that when he rolls he's on his tummy and he's golden.  If I'd just let him CIO, he never would have settled.

Anyway - my point in this rambling is that each kid is different and you've got to do what feels right to you.

Hang in there!

jcyahne

Thanks everybody.  I think we'll just keep rocking her to sleep and maybe try again in another couple of months.  She is just about to learn to walk and has only been drinking regular milk for a month, so maybe it just isn't a good time for learning to self soothe.  On one hand she will be my last baby, so I get to hold on to that babyhood a little longer.  On the other hand I know how much easier life is when I can just put a kid in bed and walk away.  Someday...

Seattle_JiLLn

jcyahne:

Thanks everybody.  I think we'll just keep rocking her to sleep and maybe try again in another couple of months.  She is just about to learn to walk and has only been drinking regular milk for a month, so maybe it just isn't a good time for learning to self soothe.  On one hand she will be my last baby, so I get to hold on to that babyhood a little longer.  On the other hand I know how much easier life is when I can just put a kid in bed and walk away.  Someday...

ha!  My internal struggle as well!   

scarletii

How old is she?  DS didn't fall asleep on his own until 16 months, I think.  CIO doesn't work for every child.  You won't be rocking her to sleep until she's 30.  She will get it in her own time.  If it doesn't feel right to you, DON'T DO IT!

jcyahne

She is 13 months.  DD#1 started falling asleep on her own and STTN at this age with minimal CIO, so that is probably triggering my expectation that DD#2 should as well.  I just have to remember that every baby is different!