Are you fb friends with your SO/DH?

zazzu

I'm not. I see him everyday and get to talk to him in person. We don't have many mutual friends either. Some of my fb friends like to vent about their husbands too which I find odd.  Just wondering how many of you are/ aren't.

~Lynchie~

of course I am!   I would find it odd if we both had accounts and weren't "Friends" with eachother... its not like clicking the "friend" and "accept friend request" button is a lot of extra work or something??

MrsKatie

Of course, we are friends.  In my situation, it would be very odd if we weren't.  We have very few mutual friends, but still... I was the first person he added when he got FB.

Ciaram22

I am. I do see him every day but we were friends on FB before we started dating and just don't feel like deleting him.

ohyeahdollface

We are friends with each other, and always have been! 

We started from a totally online/dating relationship. It was our way of keeping touch when we could not get on skype at the same time. 

CDMay2006

We're fb friends.

preston18

Yes. I?m also friends with my parents.  FB is not a platform for b!tching and moaning about spouses, moms, ILs, or anyone other than the barista who screwed up your latte.  At least not in my world.

MrsEditorJax

I was DH's first friend -- actually, I think I forced him to set up a FB to begin with. I find it really weird when people are NOT friends with their SO/DH. It makes me wonder what they don't want their SO to know. My BIL is not friends with his wife and I know it's because he has photos and is friends with several exes and I think it's total asshatery. If I were her, I'd continually send him requests.

StellaZ

preston18:

Yes. I?m also friends with my parents.  FB is not a platform for b!tching and moaning about spouses, moms, ILs, or anyone other than the barista who screwed up your latte.  At least not in my world.

Agreed. We work together, share ALL our friends, and are FB friends. However, I'm on multiple times per day, and he is on maybe once a week. He is way cooler than I am...

 

MelodyFerg

My H doesn't have a Facebook, he uses mine...just to lurk, not to post   But we would be if he did.

tfarabians

MrsKatie:

Of course, we are friends.  In my situation, it would be very odd if we weren't.  We have very few mutual friends, but still... I was the first person he added when he got FB.

Yep this!  I also tag him in all the pics of the kids : )

zazzu

preston18:

Yes. I?m also friends with my parents.  FB is not a platform for b!tching and moaning about spouses, moms, ILs, or anyone other than the barista who screwed up your latte.  At least not in my world.

This. Except for the part about bing friends with a spouse since I'm obviously not.

Alli923

Of course I am!  I don't know why I wouldn't be.  I see him every day but we still talk on the phone and email back and forth...wouldn't those things kind of fall into the same category?

And I agree, I don't think FB should be one's personal gripe platform!  It drives me insane and makes me want to unfriend people who only use it to complain about anything and everything, no matter how petty.

mrssmith717

I don't think seeing someone every day means you shouldn't be facebook friends.  The whole goal of FB in the early days was to see who was single, who was hooking up with who, who was in a relationship with who, etc.... So yeah, we're definitely friends.  As I am with my parents, friends, some coworkers, etc.

To be completely honest, I think you could put "I'm not FB friends with my husband" on your list of things that make people say "What?!"

 

suzie711

Yep .. although he is rarely on and I am on a lot (mostly because I have nothing else to do most of the time at work... and we are allowed to surf the web during down time).  It would be strange to me if we weren't 'friends' though ..

MissLauraQ

Yes, we are friends on FB - and we are linked all over each others pages and in pictures.  I'm MUCH MORE active on FB then him, (he used to be but stopped) and we have MANY friends in common...but I update him on FB happenings all the time "Hey you friend John is on a date night"  We also use it to IM each other while at work - it's quite nice.

We also email ALL.DAY.LONG - not as much as we used to do - but still lots.  And it's kind of one sided - he doesn't usualy email me, he just replies to all my emails.

And we text all day too.  Honestly we dont' talk much at all at home.  We're too busy with the kids then we crash in bed.

 

zazzu

This is interesting. I didn't realize I was so out of the ordinary. It's certinaly got nothing to do with fishy business, we just never friended eachother. But I guess not much about me is traditional.

iHeartHimMore

StellaZ:

preston18:

Yes. I?m also friends with my parents.  FB is not a platform for b!tching and moaning about spouses, moms, ILs, or anyone other than the barista who screwed up your latte.  At least not in my world.

Agreed. We work together, share ALL our friends, and are FB friends. However, I'm on multiple times per day, and he is on maybe once a week. He is way cooler than I am...

 

All of this.  Pretty much exactly. 

kristalovesjared

Yes. In fact we became friends on fb when we first met in college. Dh changed his account info and added his phone number in hopes I would call him. I thought people who had their numbers on fb were desperate and still make fun of him for it! But it did work.. One drunken night I got his number off fb to see if he wanted to go out with my friends and i and we've been together from then on!

ChubbyCheekiesMom

preston18:

Yes. I?m also friends with my parents.  FB is not a platform for b!tching and moaning about spouses, moms, ILs, or anyone other than the barista who screwed up your latte.  At least not in my world.

DING DING DING.  I agree 100%.  I am friends with my entire family and DH's family as well.  I even have them listed as family.  But for me now it's more important with family since we live far from them.  Dh and I don't really "talk" to eachother on FB, but it's nice that I am listed as his wife and vice versa.  We also don't have a ton of mutual friends (other than family).  I don't vent (at least anymore) about anything other than day to day things.  I use other platforms to vent about the other. 

WatchPot

zazzu:

This is interesting. I didn't realize I was so out of the ordinary. It's certinaly got nothing to do with fishy business, we just never friended eachother. But I guess not much about me is traditional.

My H isn't on FB but if he were he would be the same way:  "Why would i need to be your friend?  I already know what goes on in your life". 

He has never used FB though and doesn't "get" it.  I tell him it's great for keeping in touch with people so he probably thinks of it like Friendster, which he used to use back in the day.

We are connected to each other on Linked In , though. 

dawnies79

preston18:

Yes. I?m also friends with my parents.  FB is not a platform for b!tching and moaning about spouses, moms, ILs, or anyone other than the barista who screwed up your latte.  At least not in my world.

I agree 100%! In our case I'm the one that actually set up DH's page for him. He doesn't use it very often.

Seattle_JiLLn

Yes we are FB friends.  I would think it'd be weird not to be.  I'm not hiding anything from him.  If he wants to see my stupid posts, he can.

sarahphoto

Yes.  We use FB to keep in touch with family and share baby photos. With Emma's pregnancy he posted weekly ultrasound videos/pics etc.  I don't use FB to vent about hubby.

Irishsapphire

Yes, we are friends. It is funny to see what he posts about some of the crazy shows that I watch like the Batchelor.  And he is really good about posting about our baby boy. 

ThePolishHammer

Yes, we're friends.  

Seattle_JiLLn

zazzu:

This is interesting. I didn't realize I was so out of the ordinary. It's certinaly got nothing to do with fishy business, we just never friended eachother. But I guess not much about me is traditional.

Why wouldn't you just friend him though? I guess I don't see the point of NOT friending him. 

coribecca

preston18:

Yes. I?m also friends with my parents.  FB is not a platform for b!tching and moaning about spouses, moms, ILs, or anyone other than the barista who screwed up your latte.  At least not in my world.

Ditto.  I'm also friends with my boss and my assistant. 

coribecca

Seattle_JiLLn:

Yes we are FB friends.  I would think it'd be weird not to be.  I'm not hiding anything from him.  If he wants to see my stupid posts, he can.

Your posts aren't stupid!  I'm always excited when you show up in my news feed.  I love the Ben stories!

iheartstuart

~Lynchie~:

of course I am!   I would find it odd if we both had accounts and weren't "Friends" with eachother... its not like clicking the "friend" and "accept friend request" button is a lot of extra work or something??

Ya, this.  And it even says we are "married" on facebook.  I think if we had accounts and weren't friends it would be really odd. 

JRS72206

We are. I've never heard of married/dating people who aren't.

preston18

JRS72206:

We are. I've never heard of married/dating people who aren't.

My sister seriously dated a guy for 18+ months and they never friended each other on FB. Talking marriage and moving in, but no FB friending.  They were FB friends with each other's friends, but never each other.

They're over with now.

Therefore, not being FB friends with your SO = Doom!*

 

*I put a lot of faith in my anecdotal evidence.

itskacie

MelodyFerg:

My H doesn't have a Facebook, he uses mine...just to lurk, not to post   But we would be if he did.

This was us, so I made D get his own. I was sick of friending some of his crazy family on his behalf too

keri1013

It would never occur to me to not be friends with him. He doesn't post a lot on there but it's still nice to be connected that way.

nykola

Of course we are. I think you have to be friends to indicate in FB that you're "married" to someone don't you? I swear, people think about this stuff too much. It's FB for goodness sake.

nykola

Would also like to add that I find it majorly TACKY when people announce major relationship changes like divorced/separated/it's complicated, with their spouses on FB. Gross. I have had relatives do this and it's just drama every time.

doublem

My H and I are friends both IRL and on FB.

Seattle_JiLLn

nykola:

Would also like to add that I find it majorly TACKY when people announce major relationship changes like divorced/separated/it's complicated, with their spouses on FB. Gross. I have had relatives do this and it's just drama every time.

A high school acquaintance/FB "friend" went through a break up - moved out, announced he had cheated AGAIN, etc... then without any fanfare, they were back together because she was talking about him... now I want to gag whenever she makes a post like "I have the best husband ever"...  

nykola

Seattle_JiLLn:

nykola:

Would also like to add that I find it majorly TACKY when people announce major relationship changes like divorced/separated/it's complicated, with their spouses on FB. Gross. I have had relatives do this and it's just drama every time.

A high school acquaintance/FB "friend" went through a break up - moved out, announced he had cheated AGAIN, etc... then without any fanfare, they were back together because she was talking about him... now I want to gag whenever she makes a post like "I have the best husband ever"...  

Yeah that's just obnoxious. Not to mention, the Internet is irrevocable. Why put all your personal crud out there for future generations to know? Tacky to the max!!

I swear - Facebook has made me dislike human beings more than any other Internet application around.  This is tough to do given how horrible stuff on the Internet can be.  I used to think Facebook was so innovative and was awesome at reconnecting people, sharing pics with family, yadda ya.  But now I've decided that because I only connect with people I know on FB, it sucks because I now realize I don't want to know that much about everybody.  That's the sucky part. Now I don't like people I even KNOW.  Therefore, I've decided Facebook is not making society better. lol.

Let's go back to letter writing.

koosh ball

Of course we are... how else would we argue with each other via facebook comments?

jcyahne

nykola:

Seattle_JiLLn:

nykola:

Would also like to add that I find it majorly TACKY when people announce major relationship changes like divorced/separated/it's complicated, with their spouses on FB. Gross. I have had relatives do this and it's just drama every time.

A high school acquaintance/FB "friend" went through a break up - moved out, announced he had cheated AGAIN, etc... then without any fanfare, they were back together because she was talking about him... now I want to gag whenever she makes a post like "I have the best husband ever"...  

Yeah that's just obnoxious. Not to mention, the Internet is irrevocable. Why put all your personal crud out there for future generations to know? Tacky to the max!!

I swear - Facebook has made me dislike human beings more than any other Internet application around.  This is tough to do given how horrible stuff on the Internet can be.  I used to think Facebook was so innovative and was awesome at reconnecting people, sharing pics with family, yadda ya.  But now I've decided that because I only connect with people I know on FB, it sucks because I now realize I don't want to know that much about everybody.  That's the sucky part. Now I don't like people I even KNOW.  Therefore, I've decided Facebook is not making society better. lol.

Let's go back to letter writing.

This is SOOOO true.  I liked my friends a lot better before FB.