Had a panic attack

Lisamarie913

last week I found out I was pregnant with #2.  DD is only 7 months old.  It was an unexptected shock to both of us.  I don't think it really sunk in I was really pregnant until yesterday night.  All I could think about was how it was all going to work!  How am I going to take care of a 15 mnth old and have a newborn. 

I guess the point of this post is... did any of you have these panic attacks if your 2nd wasn't planned?  I know in my heart in the end it will all work out, but it just freaks the crap out of me!! 

CaitlinJ22

I had moments like that and DD was planned! Take it one step at a time. Know that you are not in the right frame of mind to overthink everything right now. Take some time to just rest. Of course you have to let your thoughts process, but acknowledge them and let them go. You will work it all out, you have 9 months to do so. Keep reminding yourself that your DD will be a lot older, and more independant by then. It will be ok, we've all survived

congrats! 

SeaMama

DS is 19 months and DS2 is due in a week and I still freak out and feel not ready.  I am just hoping / knowing that when LO arrives we will love him and work it all out.  Sorry, I know that's not much help but you're not alone )

bridgeybride

Yep.. I feel the same way.. although mine will be about 20 months apart.  You'll get through it.. but from what I can tell.. once they're older.. many people say it is sweet to see how close they are.

 

karatechrissy

I found out I was pregnant again when DD was 3 1/2 months old. To say I was devastated would be an understatement. I cried for days. Now I am 4 weeks from giving birth and while I'm scared, I know I can do it. I think you just need to give it time to sink in. Hang in there!

StefB28

I'm terrified. DS was VERY planned (we were doing fertility treatments) and this baby (which we think is a DD-- we find out for sure in two weeks) was a total shock. I was hysterical when we first found out, then I started feeling ok about it...but I still have my moments. '

Tonight I started thinking about how exhausted I was for the first few months of DS's life-- I have no idea how I'll do that again with a 14 month old. My family is wonderful and I know they'll help as much as they can. I also signed up DS for Mother's Day Out 2x/week starting in Sept to give me a little break. I think that'll help.

Everyone seems to suggest that life will be hell for the first 6 months or so & I can accept that. Once everyone is STTN things will get easier. (DS started at 5 weeks-- maybe I'll be lucky again!!) I know it'll be rough, but I know I can do it. Good luck!

TonyaCody06

i went thru this with the surprise of #3! I cried for at least the 1st two weeks. I lost sleep worrying about how I would finish grad school being so close to graduation. Once I saw the heart beat things started getting less scary for me. I started accepting the idea and although I still am not really planning (like I was with my previous two) I know the excitement will come. Graduation will now be delayed about 2 months...but what's two months if I get a wonderful child in exchange?!

I agree with the previous comment that your LO will be much older by the time the next baby comes. It is amazing at how much changes. At 15mo my DD1 started becoming vocal (which really sprouted at 18mo). Communication is key with young toddlers in minimizing tantrums.  

You can do this! 

Lisamarie913

Thank you so much for all your encouraging words!  I have been in a better place in mind... (as much as my hormones will let me).  I know there will be good days and bad days... right now I'm just taking it one day at a time.  Thanks for reminding me I'm not having this baby tomorrow.  I have to keep telling myself that everyday. 

DD is such a good baby I know she will be a wonderful big sister!!  I do look forward to seeing them play and grow up together.  My sister and I were not very close in age and we were never into the same things.  Hopefully these two will be closer and have more things in common. 

Thanks again for everyone's comments they brightened my day!!!