Parenting after 35

FFFC lonely

Okay, so I been feeling not so happy lately.  I thought I would be happierth 2 kids, rather than 1, but I am finding I am really lonely.  I am so busy with working, then playing with the kids, and cleaning the house. I am just exhausted by the end of the day, and hven't made time to do much for me or with friends. I am finding I am resentful of my kids. OK, I wrote it.  Just writing that has made me feel better, and made me realize how much I need to schedule time for me and a friend, or just to have a date with DH.

Sorry this is so depressing! I know things will get better,and it is my power to make myself feel better.  Thanks for listening.     

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  • Awww!  I'm so sorry you feel lonely!  I know I sure feel like that sometimes.  I hope you get some "you" time soon!
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  • It isn't depressing - more like reassuring because I definitely feel the same way.(except I end up resenting my husband, not the kids).   I try to plan something with friends every weekend.  It isn't anything formal or fancy.  All the children are always included in all of the plans, but if I don't connect with people outside of the house I start feeling down really quickly.  I don't have any plans for this weekend I am feeling blah because of that.  Really try to do something for yourself - whatever it is that makes you feel good - lunch with friends, shopping trip without children, a mani/pedi, sometimes all I need is an uninterupted phone call to change my mood.  Little things can go a long way.  Take care.
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  • I think we're all guilty of this.   I recently started going to a Mommy & Kid group at my church on Wednesday mornings.   Yes, I'm one of the oldest ladies there, but I'm starting to meet a few more people and just getting out of the house is important.

     

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  • Same here- super lonely!  I resent just about everyone!  LOL!

    I joined a moms' group in my area and we do stuff with and without the kids.  Plus, I have been having playdates with a friend from high school that just had a baby as well. 

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  • mwdmwd member

    Thank you all for your reassurance. i know if i just schedule some "me" time I will feel better.

     

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  • When MH is home, I take that time to run errands sans our LO & I totally take my time.  I treat that time as "me" time.  And I am trying to be better at scheduling things with my girlfriends.  Right now we go to a paint your own pottery studio once a month & we have a blast.  Each month the studio hosts a "Diva Night".  It's BYOB, the studio provides food (sometimes from a local restaurant), there's a certified massage therapist, it's all women, & there's no one under 18.  Oh yeah, and you paint a piece of pottery ;~p

    We all need some "me" time.  It's important to have it. 

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  • steverstever member

    I'm so sorry you're going through this. I really hope you get some time to take care of yourself soon.

     ::hugs::

  • Totally not flame-worthy. I spend 8 months as SAHM and it wasn't my cup of tea. Now I work part-time 3 days a week and the rest of the time I schedule play dates with my son or I'll schedule outings with moms, WITHOUT husbands or kids. And I look forward to LO's nap time and bed time on most days. Nap time is my "me" time and bed time is our couple time. We would seriously go nuts if we didn't have time to ourselves. I think it's really important to carve out some time to do the things you love or just go get a pedicure. Sounds like someone needs a well-deserved break! Smile
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  • Another thing that really helped me, especially when we moved to a new state last year, was meetup.com. I belong to 2 mom groups, a book club, and I take LO to Toddler Time at the local library. Most of those things are free, except when the moms meet at a restaurant or something like that. And I met a couple of really nice ladies at Gymboree. I don't take LO to that anymore but I was able to get at least one very good friend of of that. It's important to stay social, if that's your nature. For me, going to work and going to activities helps me have adult conversations, which are really important to me.
    Me: 44 DH: 42. DS born healthy at 40 weeks 8/24/09. TTC since then with no luck or ART. Surprise BFP 8/6/14... MMC @ 8 weeks 4 days... Miss you everyday sweet baby angel.
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