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Stacy092306

I talked to my RE today.  She said that the head of their lab did the ICSI on the eggs and that she thought both the eggs and sperm looked great.  After the ICSI was done, the head of the lab thought we would have at least 5 or more out of the 7 fertilize.  She was very hopeful.  She was so shocked the next day when she looked and saw that none of them fertilized.  They are at a total loss as to what is causing this.  They are 99% sure it is a sperm issue, but they don't know what it is. (She wished we would have done 1/2 donor and 1/2 DH's this time, just so we could have ruled out completely any egg issues. But since we didn't, there is always the small chance it is an egg issue along with MFI). 

So, our options are to use donor sperm and do IUIs, do a donor sperm IVF cycle, or do a 1/2 donor, 1/2 DH IVF w/ ICSI cycle.  She recommends doing the donor IUIs if we are willing to use a donor because it is most cost effective since we are OOP.

I am freaked out at the prospect of ever doing IVF again after what happened this time.  My RE said there would be a one in a million chance it would happen to me again since I am the first person in their practice to ever have to be transported to the hospital due to abdominal bleeding. However, she doesn't recommend IVF unless we are willing to do at least partial donor.

Not sure what route we will take next.  I would be willing to try using a donor.  DH not so much. We will take some time and think about it.

gidge

Stacy - I'm so sorry you're left with so many questions.  It peeves me that there is still so much up in the air about this process and that it's so hard for them to say if it's an egg/sperm issue without guessing or using the"trial and error" method.

Lots more (HUGS) and I hope you and your DH are able to talk things through and come up with a plan that works for both of you.

Dr.Loretta

It looks like you at least have options. Maybe your DH won't be so resistant if you're going the IUI route instead of the IVF route that landed you in the hospital.

Take all the time you need. GL and let us know what you decide.

lyse2143

I'm so sorry you are totally stuck right now in limbo. No real answers and not sure what to do. I hope you and your DH can get on the same page and figure out the best plan for you both.

Jenny829

Oh Stacy, I'm so sorry you have to deal with all of this.  It is a tough thing for a guy to have to swallow, the possibility of using a donor.  I know my H's first instinct was to say no.  But then after he had time to think about it, he decided it was something he would be okay with, that dna isn't what makes a family.  I hope with all my heart that you and your H are able to talk things through and come to an agreement that you are both okay with.  ((BIG HUGS)) We are here for you!
If you want to talk about any of this, you can always pm me too!  I've been where you are as far as the donor issue goes.

katt3233

I'm sorry you have to deal with all that, Stacy. (((HUGS))) and good luck with your decision.

MrsO1111

(((hugs))) what a crapfest.  I hope you can come to a decision and plan you're all good with soon.

HazelEyes730

I'm so sorry you have to go through all of this. Good luck with whatever you and your DH decide to do. ((HUGS))

staycee

I hope he comes around about donor sperm - since that gives you more options in the long run.   Good luck to both of you in discussing/thinking all this over.

JenniferL923

staycee:

I hope he comes around about donor sperm - since that gives you more options in the long run.   Good luck to both of you in discussing/thinking all this over.

Ditto!  {{{Hugs}}} 

pmarie33

staycee:

I hope he comes around about donor sperm - since that gives you more options in the long run.   Good luck to both of you in discussing/thinking all this over.

Good luck.

shotzie

HazelEyes730:

I'm so sorry you have to go through all of this. Good luck with whatever you and your DH decide to do. ((HUGS))

This and more ((hugs)).

Serendipitie

(((HUGS)))

DeputiesWife

I hope you and YH can come to a conclusion that works best for you! I am so very sorry you have to go through this.

QCinOct

{{hugs}} thinking of you

wndrwmn1998

DeputiesWife:

I hope you and YH can come to a conclusion that works best for you! I am so very sorry you have to go through this.

MarcyIam

I'm sorry things are so in limbo right now.  Hopefully with some time to think, you guys can discuss and come to a conclusion that works best for both of you.

Good luck and keep us posted!

Nikki1007

((HUGS))  I think he just needs some time to get over what happened this time and to think.  I hope you can both come to a decision that you are both happy with.

Mainer-in-Texas

I'm sorry you are faced with all this. (((hugs)))