S/O of Circumcision poll...

My.ABC.Life

With regards to amri's question...  

amri1978:

If our DS grows up in the Bay Area, what will be the norm for his generation?

 

I think Libby brought up a good point...  

soon2Bkranz:

I will say out of all my friends that have boys unless I have changed their diapers I have no idea if they are or are not.

 

My question... At what point do you think our boys will even ever be talking about their penises (sp?) with their fellow male friends? 

 

My.ABC.Life

I was talking to DH about this last week.  He's a HS PE teacher.  When I was in HS, we all took (group) showers after each class (UHG!).  Apparently, they don't do this in school anymore (at least not at DHs school). 

I guess my point is... I worried a lot about the "norms" of circumcision and how that would effect DS... but now I'm thinking - how the heck are they even going to know!?!  Its not like its a hot topic of discussion!!  (Maybe amongst the mom's it is!).

mcunningham

my son is almost 4 and circ and our neighbors son is the same age and not circ and when i take them both to go the bathroom they are definietly aware that theirs are different.

My.ABC.Life

mcunningham:

my son is almost 4 and circ and our neighbors son is the same age and not circ and when i take them both to go the bathroom they are definietly aware that theirs are different.

  Interesting.  What's the discussion like?

mcunningham

oh and my husband played college football where you HAD to take a shower after games so obviously they are quite aware of who is and who isnt.

everydayeve

My.ABC.Life:

My question... At what point do you think our boys will even ever be talking about their penises (sp?) with their fellow male friends? 

 

Based on a (hilarious) conversation that Eve and I had about vaginas two days ago, I'm going to say that this conversation will happen around 3.5 or 4. After that, they won't really care. 

mcunningham

basically "why do they look different" - kind of like the same conversation i have with him when he asks why girls dont have them as well.

My.ABC.Life

everydayeve:

My.ABC.Life:

My question... At what point do you think our boys will even ever be talking about their penises (sp?) with their fellow male friends? 

 

Based on a (hilarious) conversation that Eve and I had about vaginas two days ago, I'm going to say that this conversation will happen around 3.5 or 4. After that, they won't really care. 

Shareable!?! 

everydayeve

My.ABC.Life:

everydayeve:

My.ABC.Life:

My question... At what point do you think our boys will even ever be talking about their penises (sp?) with their fellow male friends? 

 

Based on a (hilarious) conversation that Eve and I had about vaginas two days ago, I'm going to say that this conversation will happen around 3.5 or 4. After that, they won't really care. 

Shareable!?! 

When she went to the bathroom in the morning, my DH hadn't flushed the toilet when he woke up in the middle of the night to pee. Eve looked at me with a shame-on-you look for leaving pee in the potty. I told her it was daddy. She said, "Oh, he forgot to wipe his vagina." I giggled and reminded her that daddies don't have vaginas because they are boys.

She said, "Oh that's right. Girls have vaginas." She then asked to see my vagina (which I did not show her) and said "Cause, Mama, you have a BIG vagina and I have a little vagina." DH assures me that my vagina is not that big. 

ladipale

everydayeve:

My.ABC.Life:

My question... At what point do you think our boys will even ever be talking about their penises (sp?) with their fellow male friends? 

 

Based on a (hilarious) conversation that Eve and I had about vaginas two days ago, I'm going to say that this conversation will happen around 3.5 or 4. After that, they won't really care. 

My DH is not circumcised and he says that it was really never an issue. He did play sports in high school and I'm assuming he has showered in front of other boys before during that time. Sure, our kids will be curious as young children, but will they carry that with them their entire life?

I swam my entire life and have always showered and changed in front of my friends. All our boobs, nipple area, etc developed and look so different but I never cared or wondered why.. KWIM? We didn't tease each other because I had big boobs and my BF had small boobs when we were 16. Isn't it kind of similar?

2bearichards

Interesting question.

I can tell you for us, at age 4, Peyton has not really asked anything about girls or boys.  They have group bathrooms at school (one room, 6 toilets, no doors) and he still hasn't asked anything.

Mrs.K&C

All I'm going to say is there was only one guy in my HS who wasn't circumsized and we all knew about it b/c he was given a nickname I won't share. Granted this was more than 15 years ago, and I'm not from a huge town (read: can be backwards) but it was definitely known, discussed, pointed out, etc.

StefandTodd

My H was on the swim team his whole life, so he was aware of the guys that were and weren't from an age that he could comprehend there was a difference - young.  But because of that, he really thinks it's not something boys are examining critically about each other, talking about, or making fun of.  It just...is.  Which is why, though he is circ'd, he is opposed to circ'ing any sons we (may or may not) have.

My.ABC.Life

everydayeve:

When she went to the bathroom in the morning, my DH hadn't flushed the toilet when he woke up in the middle of the night to pee. Eve looked at me with a shame-on-you look for leaving pee in the potty. I told her it was daddy. She said, "Oh, he forgot to wipe his vagina." I giggled and reminded her that daddies don't have vaginas because they are boys.

She said, "Oh that's right. Girls have vaginas." She then asked to see my vagina (which I did not show her) and said "Cause, Mama, you have a BIG vagina and I have a little vagina." DH assures me that my vagina is not that big. 

Ha!!!  Out of the mouths of babes!!

My.ABC.Life

ladipale:

My DH is not circumcised and he says that it was really never an issue. He did play sports in high school and I'm assuming he has showered in front of other boys before during that time. Sure, our kids will be curious as young children, but will they carry that with them their entire life?

I swam my entire life and have always showered and changed in front of my friends. All our boobs, nipple area, etc developed and look so different but I never cared or wondered why.. KWIM? We didn't tease each other because I had big boobs and my BF had small boobs when we were 16. Isn't it kind of similar?

I agree... it is similar.  I notice differences in the girls at my school, but I certainly didn't talk about it. 

KellyMRocks

all of my male friends who were born outside the US are not. The ones born stateside are. Both sets love their own junk and think the other is crazy. 

SJBride05

KellyMRocks:

all of my male friends who were born outside the US are not. The ones born stateside are. Both sets love their own junk and think the other is crazy. 

Ha!

My.ABC.Life

SJBride05:

KellyMRocks:

all of my male friends who were born outside the US are not. The ones born stateside are. Both sets love their own junk and think the other is crazy. 

Ha!

Haaaaaaaa!!!!

secretkeeper321

All I know is that in college we knew exactly which guys weren't, lol. Maybe my friends and I share way too much information.

Oh, but we also talked about which gals had huge nipples or who had barely any. Gee, I guess we really do just love to talk, haha.

MommySteph2009

Good point.  I am not sure if any guys do talk about it or compare if circumcised or not, and I do not think showers are done regularly in front of others anymore.

soon2Bkranz

I agree I am so smart

mythreesons03

I think that it will be like Kelly either side will love their junk so much it won't be a teased thing. I know D may have more non-circ in his class but i think there will be circ to so if anything where the non-circ was the odd guy out it would be more 50/50 now.

soon2Bkranz

mcunningham:

oh and my husband played college football where you HAD to take a shower after games so obviously they are quite aware of who is and who isnt.

But I think the key is does anyone care. I know from being in the gym whos carpet matches the drapes but I dont take a mental note of it...KWIM.

I would guess for most men that are more self conscience of the size or how well their balls hang than if they are snipped or not...

And if my son gets teased for being circ'ed I have a who bag full of comebacks for him to make so I am just not worried about that..

AvaLikeLava

ladipale:

everydayeve:

My.ABC.Life:

My question... At what point do you think our boys will even ever be talking about their penises (sp?) with their fellow male friends? 

 

Based on a (hilarious) conversation that Eve and I had about vaginas two days ago, I'm going to say that this conversation will happen around 3.5 or 4. After that, they won't really care. 

My DH is not circumcised and he says that it was really never an issue. He did play sports in high school and I'm assuming he has showered in front of other boys before during that time. Sure, our kids will be curious as young children, but will they carry that with them their entire life?

I swam my entire life and have always showered and changed in front of my friends. All our boobs, nipple area, etc developed and look so different but I never cared or wondered why.. KWIM? We didn't tease each other because I had big boobs and my BF had small boobs when we were 16. Isn't it kind of similar?

I kind of always wondered why being the same circ.-wise was so important. I mean for girls, shape, size of breast is different. For boys shape, length and girth is also different. Those don't seem to be topics of concern for parents (mostly probably on account of control). To me it seemed like size would be a much bigger deal than presence, or lack-there-of foreskin.

tiki_t

A lot of my guy friends, that I talked to about the topic, said that they never really thought about it until I asked about it. They said it isn't like anyone really looks cause you get teased if you are caught looking.

KellyMRocks

AvaLikeLava:

ladipale:

everydayeve:

My.ABC.Life:

My question... At what point do you think our boys will even ever be talking about their penises (sp?) with their fellow male friends? 

 

Based on a (hilarious) conversation that Eve and I had about vaginas two days ago, I'm going to say that this conversation will happen around 3.5 or 4. After that, they won't really care. 

My DH is not circumcised and he says that it was really never an issue. He did play sports in high school and I'm assuming he has showered in front of other boys before during that time. Sure, our kids will be curious as young children, but will they carry that with them their entire life?

I swam my entire life and have always showered and changed in front of my friends. All our boobs, nipple area, etc developed and look so different but I never cared or wondered why.. KWIM? We didn't tease each other because I had big boobs and my BF had small boobs when we were 16. Isn't it kind of similar?

I kind of always wondered why being the same circ.-wise was so important. I mean for girls, shape, size of breast is different. For boys shape, length and girth is also different. Those don't seem to be topics of concern for parents (mostly probably on account of control). To me it seemed like size would be a much bigger deal than presence, or lack-there-of foreskin.

I think it is just another way for guys to tease eachother, especially  regarding females. I mean, its not like a REALLY cares if another dude has a smaller penis than he does, but it is a way to promote your own superiority. I think guys who are circ'd think that females prefer it. I've never personally been with anyone who wasn't...but I don't think I would ever turn down a guy that I really liked if he wasn't.

None of my non-circ'd friends have ever had trouble with the ladies, (OMG, including Carlos...I don't get it), so the whole, "girls like circ'd better" argument goes out the window. I could see though, that for inexperienced teens it might be a concern. 

I've seen a lot of teasing about the the way girls vaginas look in pics. Guys saying itl ooks like roast beef or their labia is too big or what not...but when it comes down to it, I dobt a guy is about to get laid and then be like, "Oh your p*ssy is too ugly." and leave.

My point is, all genitals are funny looking, but that ish doesn't matter when you're horny and trying to get some.  

 

 

My.ABC.Life

OMG Kelly, you are crackin' my *** up!!!!!

soon2Bkranz

KellyMRocks:

AvaLikeLava:

ladipale:

everydayeve:

My.ABC.Life:

My question... At what point do you think our boys will even ever be talking about their penises (sp?) with their fellow male friends? 

 

Based on a (hilarious) conversation that Eve and I had about vaginas two days ago, I'm going to say that this conversation will happen around 3.5 or 4. After that, they won't really care. 

My DH is not circumcised and he says that it was really never an issue. He did play sports in high school and I'm assuming he has showered in front of other boys before during that time. Sure, our kids will be curious as young children, but will they carry that with them their entire life?

I swam my entire life and have always showered and changed in front of my friends. All our boobs, nipple area, etc developed and look so different but I never cared or wondered why.. KWIM? We didn't tease each other because I had big boobs and my BF had small boobs when we were 16. Isn't it kind of similar?

I kind of always wondered why being the same circ.-wise was so important. I mean for girls, shape, size of breast is different. For boys shape, length and girth is also different. Those don't seem to be topics of concern for parents (mostly probably on account of control). To me it seemed like size would be a much bigger deal than presence, or lack-there-of foreskin.

I think it is just another way for guys to tease eachother, especially  regarding females. I mean, its not like a REALLY cares if another dude has a smaller penis than he does, but it is a way to promote your own superiority. I think guys who are circ'd think that females prefer it. I've never personally been with anyone who wasn't...but I don't think I would ever turn down a guy that I really liked if he wasn't.

None of my non-circ'd friends have ever had trouble with the ladies, (OMG, including Carlos...I don't get it), so the whole, "girls like circ'd better" argument goes out the window. I could see though, that for inexperienced teens it might be a concern. 

I've seen a lot of teasing about the the way girls vaginas look in pics. Guys saying itl ooks like roast beef or their labia is too big or what not...but when it comes down to it, I dobt a guy is about to get laid and then be like, "Oh your p*ssy is too ugly." and leave.

My point is, all genitals are funny looking, but that ish doesn't matter when you're horny and trying to get some.  

 

 

I was going to say mine is lovely...then I realized you have seen it and decided I dont want to go there with you

AvaLikeLava

KellyMRocks:

AvaLikeLava:

ladipale:

everydayeve:

My.ABC.Life:

My question... At what point do you think our boys will even ever be talking about their penises (sp?) with their fellow male friends? 

 

Based on a (hilarious) conversation that Eve and I had about vaginas two days ago, I'm going to say that this conversation will happen around 3.5 or 4. After that, they won't really care. 

My DH is not circumcised and he says that it was really never an issue. He did play sports in high school and I'm assuming he has showered in front of other boys before during that time. Sure, our kids will be curious as young children, but will they carry that with them their entire life?

I swam my entire life and have always showered and changed in front of my friends. All our boobs, nipple area, etc developed and look so different but I never cared or wondered why.. KWIM? We didn't tease each other because I had big boobs and my BF had small boobs when we were 16. Isn't it kind of similar?

I kind of always wondered why being the same circ.-wise was so important. I mean for girls, shape, size of breast is different. For boys shape, length and girth is also different. Those don't seem to be topics of concern for parents (mostly probably on account of control). To me it seemed like size would be a much bigger deal than presence, or lack-there-of foreskin.

I think it is just another way for guys to tease eachother, especially  regarding females. I mean, its not like a REALLY cares if another dude has a smaller penis than he does, but it is a way to promote your own superiority. I think guys who are circ'd think that females prefer it. I've never personally been with anyone who wasn't...but I don't think I would ever turn down a guy that I really liked if he wasn't.

None of my non-circ'd friends have ever had trouble with the ladies, (OMG, including Carlos...I don't get it), so the whole, "girls like circ'd better" argument goes out the window. I could see though, that for inexperienced teens it might be a concern. 

I've seen a lot of teasing about the the way girls vaginas look in pics. Guys saying itl ooks like roast beef or their labia is too big or what not...but when it comes down to it, I dobt a guy is about to get laid and then be like, "Oh your p*ssy is too ugly." and leave.

My point is, all genitals are funny looking, but that ish doesn't matter when you're horny and trying to get some.  

 

 

LOL! I'm glad I wasn't drinking anything, because my monitor would be covered right now.

KellyMRocks

soon2Bkranz:

I was going to say mine is lovely...then I realized you have seen it and decided I dont want to go there with you

OMG!!! HA!