So Stressed Out! (vent)

emily1414

I am so stressed out I feel like I am going to break!

First, I am on bed rest and have been for the last 2 and half weeks. Most likely I will be on it until I deliver. My husband works pretty part time so is home by 11:00 a.m. every day. I am able to work from home, but he is so sick of me. He's sick of cleaning, he's sick of being around me, he sick of my family coming to visit, and he is just really stressed out. Which in turn makes me feel terrible, like I am intruding in my own home. He tells me not to take it personally but how is one not supposed to do that?! He doesn't mean to make me feel bad, but I feel terrible.

 We just bought a new house and he moved us all by himself. More stress.

To add to it, his work has been really slow. Because of his lack of attention to finances I didn't see a paycheck from him for a month. My pay check alone can not cover all of our bills. So, now I'm playing catch up. To top it off, I have a side business and I have a client that has owed me $1,400 since January and still hasn't paid. I also have a personal relationship with this guy so I can't get too pushy with him. We'd be fine financially if this guy would pay is flipping bill! Last week he said he'd put it in the mail. He obviously didn't, I called his office and he's in Vancouver this week. ASSHAT!

All this is making my blood pressure get even higher (why I'm on bed rest). I'm so worried about everything that I can hardly eat and force myself to get something down because the baby needs it.

I just need a little break from the BS and I need my husband to deal with his stress in a more constructive way.

My husband sounds terrible in this vent, but he has done so much and has just hit his limit lately.

babydreamsj

Sounds like your both dealing with alot.  Does your Husband have any buddies he can go hang out with?  You should encourage him to get out of the house and enjoy himself.  I think it would do you both some good to have time apart to destress.

 I've been really sick most of my pregnancy but anytime Dhs friends call I push him out the door for a few hours, go get a drink, have a laugh, enjoy yourself.  I know I'll need his help soon enough, one of us should be having fun while they can.

exoh

Oh, honey, that sounds like a stressful situation!  Take a deep breath if you can and just remember that you will not be pregnant forever!  Don't get yourself sick over it (I know, easier said than done!), because it's not worth it.  You said you need a break, so take one!  You can rest in a bed somewhere else if you need to!

 

Good luck with everything!

JrsGurl1823

I dont think he sounds too bad, sounds like my husband before he got his new job,i am a nurse so i worked nights and we were both home all day, a recipe for disaster eventually lol. I dont think that you should feel bad though, You cant help that your on bedrest. I mean I would feel that way too but its something you cant avoid. As for the financial situation, im sorry that your going through this, and hope it gets better before the little one comes. Best of luck!!((Hugs)))

emily1414

babydreamsj:

Sounds like your both dealing with alot.  Does your Husband have any buddies he can go hang out with?  You should encourage him to get out of the house and enjoy himself.  I think it would do you both some good to have time apart to destress.

 I've been really sick most of my pregnancy but anytime Dhs friends call I push him out the door for a few hours, go get a drink, have a laugh, enjoy yourself.  I know I'll need his help soon enough, one of us should be having fun while they can.

 

I've been trying to get him to go do stuff or go to his parent's for a weekend, but his is so worried about me that he doesn't want to be away for a night. It's totally sweet and frustrating at the same time. I'm trying to get him to let me go to my mom's for a night soon. Poor guy is just so worried... like if he lets me out of his sight something terrible will happen. This is so uncharacteristic for him because he's normally Mr. Independent.