Babiesfree vacation

OrangeSmoke

Have you taken one?  If so, who did you leave the kids with?

We have yet to spend a night away from the boys.  I'm not even sure I would enjoy going on vacation without them... I would just be obessing about what they are up to (I'm trying to work thru that, hence maybe a weekend away).  My biggest concern is that I can't imagine who would take two babies for more than a few hours.  MIL might take one, but not both of them.

Thoughts?  Ideas?

 

AlishaMay

Sorry I don't have any advice to add, but I'm in the exact situation.  I would love to have a night away from them, but I don't have anyone who is willing to take on both of them - and I really don't want to split them up, especially not for their first night away from home.  I just keep hoping that it'll happen.  LOL

kafunder

I don't have any advice either but was going to post a similar question. DH and I need.NEED a night away to reconnect but we're so hesitant to leave the babies overnight. I feel bad asking MIL and FIL to watch them at our house b/c they'd have to sleep there, but I know that the LOs wouldn't sleep well at MIL's and she'd end up holding them all night b/c she hates to hear them cry (and they've been STTN at home and I fear a night away will mess that up).

leslie13510

We've had some long days and nights out, but never an actual overnight thing without them.  (Not because I don't want to, it just hasn't worked out that way with his work and all.) 

We're actually going away for our first night, or maybe two, without them this summer after he gets back, and during that same time I will be going overnight with my mom to a concert and leaving the babies with DH and his family.  I'm so excited for both that I can't stand it.  Hahaha

Of course my kids are older, I've been "stuck" with them by myself for the last 10 1/2 months, and I fully trust both of our families to care for them properly while we're away, so that is a big part of my looking forward to getting away. 

momtwins19

There is a lady in our area that owns an at home day care. she always said she would take the babies if DH and i needed to be away for a weekend. i have been away from the babies for 2 nights when i went on my scrapbooking retreat, but i left them with DH. maybe see if you have both your MIL and your mom they could both maybe stay at your house and watch the babies together? or have a  couple people over at your house to stay and babysit while you're gone.

redtop40

It took us over a year to leave our older child....and even then it took me a good 24 hours on our vacation to finally RELAX about it. But once I did, it was awesome. Now that we have 3 we feel bad asking anyone to watch them all. My in laws live a mile away, and they would be the people to ask. We'd have them stay in our home and I think that would make things really simple for everyone. They constantly offer....and I turn 40 at the end of the summer so maybe we'll take them up on it for a night. We'll see.

sylver408

It seems like we all have the same problem... Last weekend we had to go to a wedding and since it was out of town all of our friends stayed the weekend but of course we couldn't. My MIL agree to watch the boys but she wasn't having it when we mention if we could stay overnight. I mean I understand since she is doing us a favor but just sucks. So if we ever decide to go on vacation it has to be with the boys.

kaiteedidit

We are going on a long baby free weekend in August. We are gonna fly out to California to see my brother. I'm so excited but really nervous about leaving the kids. My MIL and FIL will be coming to our house to stay and watch the kids. I've instructed my Mom to come, check on the kids once a day, just to ease my mind a little more. I plan on skyping with them every day.

SpinningJess

what's a "vacation"  ??  haha

amanda31H

We've done it twice. Once for my bday- we did a 24 hour trip into the city, and once because we had a wedding to go to and needed a break- we slept at home though.

My parents took the girls both times.  The first time they were 3.5 months old, but sleeping through the night, the next time they were 9 months old.

Have you asked your MIL- or are you just assuming she couldn't handle both?  Does your DH  have a sister or someone that might stay with your MIL to help? 

I think the most important thing is to leave them with someone that your VERY comfortable with.  Otherwise, you will be miserable and worrying the whole time.  Or you'll have someone calling you the whole time to ask dumb sh#t, and you'll want to come home. 

meagamomma2be

We're taking our first one in July.  My parents & my in-laws live 5 min from each other, so they will take turns w/ all 3 or split them up.  Not exactly how it will work, but this is a much needed vacation.  I'm excited, but when it gets closer, I may start to panic!

LightBlue

DH and I have had 5 nights away overnight, all only 1 night at a time. I am very lucky that my parents live near by and they see my DDs atleast once a week and are very close. My mom feels totally comfortable having the girls alone with her, she is a daycare/preschool teacher  My parents have bought us gift certificates for a night away at a resort twice, they love to take the girls overnight and show them off.

I know there are some daycare centers and private child care workers that do overnights. Maybe you could try something like sittercity to see if there is anyone availible in your area overnight. Your MIL could maybe have them in the day for a few hours then a sitter come for an overnight??

We have found going away for a night to make such a HUGE difference in our relationship. We come back feeling closer and more connected. Good luck, I hope it works out for you and you can go away soon!