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someone just asked me via email

if i was done with my "child-bearing pursuits"

WTF?

i will not be done until we are parents either via ART or adoption.

 

i am really upset and then it makes me question if i should just give up.

i hate dumb people with rude questions.

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Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles, It empties today of its strength. ~Corrie ten Boom
Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says I'll try again tomorrow. ~Mary Anne Radmacher (thank you beadinglady)

It's been a long journey. TTC since 9/06. multiple IUI's and IVF's and 4 m/c's. IVF#3 = BFP, twins, induced at 34w6d due to baby b passing away (no explanation). Delivered on 35w1d, Baby A - baby girl, and Baby B - baby boy, our little angel.
MTHFR A1298C & C677T, Immune Issues and Factor II
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Re: someone just asked me via email

  • I hate dumb people with rude questions too.

    HUGS !!!!

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  • emcaemca member
    I hate dumb people with rude questions too! 

    After 1 IUI, 3 IVF's with CGH/CCS testing, 10 early miscarriages, and lots of tears and frustration, we are moving on to Domestic Infant Adoption!  We are so excited to see what the future holds.

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  • Grrr!  Really??  Is it any of their business anyways?  And I agree...dumb people with rude questions make my blood boil!  So sorry you had to deal with that... :(
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  • OMG!

    WHAT IS WRONG WITH THEM?

     

    I'm sorry wormsie..try not to let stupidass people bother you. :(

     

    TTC #1 since June 2008 *SAIFW*

    TI, IUIs, IVF = c/ps and BFNs

  • ugh I am sorry you had to deal with that a$$hat. hope your day get sbatter hun!
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  • Worms, you and YH are meant to be parents!  Don't let one ignorant person let you think anything different.

    What a crappy person.  You should sign their e-mail address up for lots of spam! Devil

    *P/SAIFW* TTC since 1/08 Clomid, 2 IUIs, 4 IVFs, FET 7 losses Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
  • WOW!!!  The nerve!!!  How rude!!! 

    "Yeah, I'm done as soon as my baby is in my arms.  When will you be done being a douche? That must take some time to get rid of, huh?"

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  • STL34STL34 member
    Whoever asked you that just sucks!  ((HUGS))  Don't  let dumb people with rude questions get you down!!

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    ~SAIF/PAIF/Everyone Welcome~ 

    Me= 37 and DH = 41 

    Dx: DOR, Endo, APA+ (really high beta 2 glycoprotein antibody and high everything else tested), heterozygous MTHFR mutation, positive for lupus anticoagulant, high FSH, low AMH and both tubes blocked (per HSG on 3/8/11)

    IVF #1 - long lupron (with HGH, intralipids, lovenox and BA); 4 retrieved, 3 fertilized; ET 2 blasts and 1 frozen = BFN

    IVF #2 - a version of antagonist with EPP (with HGH, intralipids, lovenox and BA); 6 retrieved, 4 mature, 3 fertilized, 2 blasts and 1 frozen blast transferred on day 5 = BFN.

    IVF #3 April was postponed to May, May was canceled. June/July was canceled. Had a cyst aspiration and then began IVF #3 in August. ER on 8/22; ET on 8/24 with AH. +HPT on 9/5. Beta #1 (11dpo) = 3; Beta #2 (15dpo) = 29; Beta #3 (17dpo) = 60; Beta #4 (19 dpo) = 118. Heartbeat at 6 weeks 6 days =132.  Lil is here!

    TTC#2:  Trigger + TI = BFN; Clomid + Trigger + IUI = BFN.

    IVF #4:  BCP + MDLF + Lovenox = 7R, 1F = Transferred 1 6-cell embryo on day 3 = BFN

    IVF #5:  MDLF + Lovenox = 4R, 1F = Transferred 1 10-cell compacting embryo on day 3 = BFN

    IVF #6:  (New RE):  Long Antagonist November 2014 (transferred two 8 cell grade 1 embryos and froze one blast) = BFN

    FET#1:  BFN

  • imageMrs.Voz:

    When will you be done being a douche?

    Yes

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  • Tell them you will be done once you have a baby in your arms, and that will be sooner than when they are done being rude & inconsiderate!!! Morons! ((HUGS)) 
  • How rude!! Please don't let this person get you down. You & Mr. Worms have made the decision to have a family & you 2 will have a family!!
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    TTC #1 Since 3/2010 Diagnosed with POF
    6/2010-IVF #1 Cancelled after ER b/c 0 eggs recovered
    On to Donor Eggs
    9-30-10 IVF w/ DE begins & Donor started stims 10-4-10
    Donor ER 10-14-10 14 Fertilized Eggs ~ ET 10-17-10 (7 Frosties)
    IVF #1 11-18-10 M/C @ 7 Weeks~Stopped growing @ 5 Weeks
    FET #1 2-1-2011
    Beta #1 13dp3dt 2-14-2011~722
    Beta #2 15dp3dt 2-16-2011~1942
    1st U/S 3-3-2011~Twin Girls

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  • I would like their email address please. I have a whole email composed in my head already. It includes numerous throatpunches and "you're a douchebags"

    I can't believe the things some people think it's okay to say. 

    ((hugs))

    TTC with severe MFI since 9/08 IVF w/ ICSI #1 May/June 2010= BFP twins
    Callan George and Bennett Charles born and died 11/7/10
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    FET #2 July 2011= no transfer because my lining sucked
    FET #3 February 2012= BFP! 1st beta 9dp5dt=314 2nd beta 11dp5dt=977 1st U/S 3/20 Twins- Heart rates of 111 and 138 Pregnancy Ticker
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  • imageMrs.Voz:

    WOW!!!  The nerve!!!  How rude!!! 

    "Yeah, I'm done as soon as my baby is in my arms.  When will you be done being a douche? That must take some time to get rid of, huh?"

    Love this response!!

    Sorry Wormsie. Some days, I really do hate people.

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  • ::GASPS::
    Married '02, TTC May '05

    Dx -Ute cancer, DOR from cancer treatments, and embryo quality issues. NOV 2010 CANCER FREE
    2005-2011= 3 Rounds of Clomid, 5 IUI's, 3 IVF's- ALL BFN's
    After 7yrs TTC, 5yrs of ute cancer, and 11 failed IF treatments, we got a surprise BFP! So thankful!

    Gemma Grace born 09/30/12

    Phillipians 4:6,7

  • WHAT AN IDIOT. What a rude and stupid question!
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  • Don't you DARE even think of giving up - I firmly believe that you were put on this earth to be a mother.

    Who needs a *** slap?   

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  • who the hell says these sort of things??! I'm so sorry hun -- dumb/rude people are awful :(

    (((hugs)))?

    TTC since 8/09
    DX: PCO, ENDO, High NK, MTHFR
    8/10 = Lap to remove Endo

    2 Femara TI, 3 Follistim IUI = BFN & 1 c/p
    IVF #1 - BFP - boy/girl Twins!

    Ben and Reese born at 34w2d!
  • wow, that was kind of rude.

     

    TTC #2 since June '08

    ~*DD 10.21.07*~

    dx unexplained

    IUI #1-4 BFN

    IVF#1 June 2011 BFN

    IVF#2 Dec 2011

    Beta#1 12/21 : 812 Beta#2 12/23 : 1634

    EDD 8/25

    *PAIFW/SAIFW*

  • someone you know? Ugh. Some people have no filter. Sad and Angry
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  • Huge hugs. That is awful... Why would someone do such a thing?
    TTC #1 since October 2008. Dealing with MFI.
    IVF #1 w ICSI in July 2010 = BFN
    IVF #2.1 in Oct 2010 converted to IUI = BFN
    IVF #2.2 w ICSI in Dec 2010 = BFN
    Met with new RE in new city on 1/31/11.
    IVF #3 w ICSI in April 2011. HPT on 5/9 = BFP!
    Beta #1 on 5/10 (10dp5dt) = 99.4. Beta #2 on 5/12 = 284. First u/s on 5/26. = Fraternal TWINS!
    Twin boys born & lost on 8/16/11 at 18w1d due to PPROM & preterm labor.
    IVF #4.1 in Jan 2012 converted to IUI on 1/7/12 = BFN
    IVF #4.2 w ICSI in Feb 2012. Lupron on 2/10. Stims on 2/18. ER on 2/29- 7R,6F
    ET scheduled for 3/5/12- nothing to transfer :(
    Dh seeing new MFI uro & Dh starting meds- June 2012.
    IVF #5 in Dec 2012 = BFFN.
    IVF #6 planned for Spring 2013. Praying for our take home baby/ies.
    **P/SAIF and P/SAL always welcome!**

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  • WTf is wrong with people? Totally inappropriate and just rude! Why do people think that this is any of their business? People suck! Big hugs!!!
    IVF #3 = Feb 2012
    beta#1 3/21 (14dp3dt)=413, beta#2 3/23 (16dp3dt)=785, u/s 4/11
    EDD 11/25/12
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  • *kicks that person*  That's a really personal question to ask.  I'm sorry they behaved like such twatwaffles.
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  • Wow, I'm sorry you had to read that. How thoughtless! ((HUGS)) 

    Dx: High FSH, stage IV endo, homozygous C677T MTHFR and PAI-1
    Early loss 10/08
    Lap 1/09
    IVF #1 "natural IVF" - 1 egg retrieved, missed m/c
    Tried several mini-stim cycles with no response
    Switched clinics - dx'd as carrier for Fragile X
    IVF #2 MDL protocol Jan/Feb converted to IUI, BFN
    IVF #2 take 2: Antagonist, one embie, BFN
    IVF #3: Antagonist, no fertilization
    One last ditch effort at OE IVF (antagonist with Clomid) cancelled
    DE cycle #1 Jan/Feb 2011, BFP, ectopic
    DE cycle #2 June/July 2011 - BFP
    10/28/11 Baby girl lost at 17 weeks due to pre-term labor. We love and miss you.
    DE cycle #3 June/July 2012 - BFP, twins, both heartbeats stopped, D&C
    2 frosties but don't know what's next
    FET Dec 2012: BFP! Praying this one sticks for the long haul!
  • Wow - what an assshat.

    You are going to be a momma one way or the other, I just know it - you are such an amazing strong lady, don't let this get you down.

    And yay for it almost being cruise time!

    TTC since 07/2009
    Me: PCOS, Blood/Immune Issues DH: Low all 3
    Jun.- Sep. 2010 IUI#1-#3 = BFN
    Oct. 2010 = IVF #1 = B/G Twins (passed away Feb. 2011)
    May 2011 = Myomectomy and trans-abdominal cerclage (TAC)
    Sep. 2011 = Surprise BFP = C/P
    Feb. 2012 = sFET #1 = BFN
    Feb.2012 = Hail Mary IUI #4 = BFN
    April/May 2012 = FET #2 w/our last two embies = BFP (Please let this be it!)
    Beta #1 8dp5/6dt = 234 Beta #2 10dp5/6dt = 695 Beta #3 12dp5/6dt = 1796 Beta #4 17dp5/6dt = 17,888 U/S #1 May 17, 2012 = Twins
    Baby B's heart stop beating at 9 weeks 5 days
    Our little miracle baby is a boy. :)

    Baby Boy Owen and Baby Girl Avery were born too early on Feb. 13, 2011 due to a pedunculated fibroid, incompetent cervix and suspected placental abruption.
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  • Wow.

     I agree dumb people with rude questions suck! So sorry you had to deal with that.


    After 4 years, 3 failed IUIs and 2 failed IVFs our surprise miracle is here!
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    TTC # 2 BFP 03/02/13 = CP, BFP 05/14/13 = CP, BFP 08/09/13 = CP

    RPL testing = normal

    TI Cycle #1, 50 clomid days 3-7, 150 iu Follistim days 8-11 = BFP! EDD May 22, 2014

    Betas: 13 DPO = 79, 15 DPO = 149, 19 DPO = 788, 22 DPO = 2031

  • I really wish people would think before they speak!!!! I'm sorry Wormsie!!!!

    xoxoxo


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  • THEY should "give up" asking dumb $hit like that.  HUGS!!!!!!!!!!!
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  • i'm so sorry you had to hear that.  people just don't understand and some people are just plain insensitive.

     i once had one of my best friends say to me, " i thought you'd be going to birthdays parties  now, because i thought you were done with treatments."

     

    After 7 years of marriage and 5 unsuccessful IVFs, we have been granted the gift of adopting a baby boy, born 4/21/11.
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  • What??  What a rude, insensitive thing to ask!  I am so sorry sweetie!  Don't let their stupidity make you question yourself.  Huge ((hugs))
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  • Why in the world would anyone ask you that?! That's so incredibly rude and none of their business! I'm so sorry you have to deal with ppl like that!

    We also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And HOPE does not dissappoint.
    Romans 5:3-5

    ~Matt and Jen~
    Married August 26, 2006
    TTC since June 2008
    Severe MFI
    IVF #1 Feb. 2011 = BFN
    IVF #2 (Long Lupron) May 2011 = BFP!!!
    Our sweet little girl, born January 26, 2012

    Time for #2!

    IVF #1 (Long Lupron) July 2013 = BFP!!!

    Beta #1 (8/1) 203! Beta #2 (8/8) 3,677! 1st u/s scheduled for 8/15!

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  • What an idiot.  That is coming from someone who has no clue what it's like to go through IF (I assume).  They have absolutely no perspective on what it's like to be in your shoes. 

    Of course you won't give up until you have a family!  And after you do have your family (which you of course will), you'll be so glad you didn't give up.  It would be silly to give up. 

    It's just a trite comment from someone who didn't think before she spoke.  I'm sorry you had to hear that. 

    No giving up!  Hang in there sweetie.  ((Hugs)).

    TTC in 2008. Stage II/III endo, Hashimotos hypothyroid, low morph (3%).
    2 cycles Clomid/Ovidrel/TI/Crinone=BFN.
    IUI #1 - 4 Follistim/Ovidrel/IUI/Crinone = BFN.
    IVF #1 - Antagonist w/ ICSI 4/10. 17 retrieved, 5DT of 2, BFN :(
    IVF #2 - Long Lupron w/ ICSI 6/10. 15 retrieved, 3DT of 2, BFFN!!
    Lap 7/21/10
    IVF #3 - Clomid/Antagonist w/ ICSI 10/10. 14 retreived, 3DT of 3, BFP 10/20 but m/c. No HB 11/15/10 - D&C 11/17/10.
    FET - 2 blasts, 1 survived the thaw. Transfer 2/19. Beta #1 3/1 375, Beta #2 3/3 885, Beta #3 3/8 4261, Beta #4 3/11 9005. U/S 3/8 1 sac 1 yolk, U/S 3/16 1 heartbeat 114bpm!

     

    James born Oct. 24th 2011 via c-section at 38 weeks!

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    Surprise BFP - Jack born April 28, 2013 via VBAC after PTL at 33 1/2 weeks!

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  • i'm sorry sweetie, people can be so dumb  :::hugs:::
    S/PAIFW
    Tara & Dave - TTC since September 2006
    PCOS - dx 1999 (amenorrhea) | freakishly long fallopian tubes
    Hypoglycemic | thyroid issues | severely anemic
    Multiple Clomid cycles of 50, 100, 150 - absolutely no response
    Follistim 50/100 | Follistim 75/125 | Follistim 100/150 IUI - all BFNs
    Converted IVF - BFP - m/c | FET - BFN | IVF #2 = BFN
    IVF #3
  • That is bizarre!!  I'd tell them to mind their own business and some other choice words.  Hugs. 

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  • I'm sorry.  People are so dumb.  *hugs*
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  • smeyersmeyer member
    WTF?  How rude!  ((hugs))

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  • ((hugs)) What a rude and insensitive person! I'm sorry you had that crap in your inbox.
    Trying to grow our family with both fertility treatments and adoption since March 2009 
    IUIs#1-4 = BFN, IVF#1 = c/p, IVF#2 = OHSS, FET#1=BFP
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  • imageEdwina.McDunnough:

    I hate dumb people with rude questions too.

    HUGS !!!!

    This! I am so sorry hun, how cruel and incensitive.

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  • umm wormsie - some people just have no sensitivity meter...what idiots. ignore them - you are meant to be a mama! praying for you always. :)
  • uggg, what an asshat!  i'll throat punch them for you if you want.  big hugs sweetie. 

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  • koynkoyn member
    That person is seriously in need of a throat punch. 
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