vent- not disclosing pg yet

punkin06

so here i am at 12+ weeks pg and i'm visiting my family and trying to hide the pg.  my great aunt noticed it right away and asked ... i couldnt lie to her but i asked her not to say anything.  it's so hard b/c i'm used to wearing clothes that show my shape and now i'm wearing big shirts.  i think they can tell, but no one wants to say anything.  my sil's mom made a reference to it, but i just deflected it back to the food i was eating.

to make matters worse, my nephew's 19 y.o. gf is here visiting too and pg with an unexpected child.  she's 10 weeks with nausea and fatigue all day.  i have the same symptoms but i'm tryign so hard not to show it ... 

it's so unfair, but after two losses, i just cannot experience another 'public' loss of  a pg.  my great aunt tells me to just trust God and i'm really trying to do that. i wish i wasnt pg with a teenager who's not even taking pnv bc of the nausea!!  here i am taking pnv and extra FA, hoping it's enough!!

sorry for the long vent.

BritanyV

punkin06:

so here i am at 12+ weeks pg and i'm visiting my family and trying to hide the pg.  my great aunt noticed it right away and asked ... i couldnt lie to her but i asked her not to say anything.  it's so hard b/c i'm used to wearing clothes that show my shape and now i'm wearing big shirts.  i think they can tell, but no one wants to say anything.  my sil's mom made a reference to it, but i just deflected it back to the food i was eating.

to make matters worse, my nephew's 19 y.o. gf is here visiting too and pg with an unexpected child.  she's 10 weeks with nausea and fatigue all day.  i have the same symptoms but i'm tryign so hard not to show it ... 

it's so unfair, but after two losses, i just cannot experience another 'public' loss of  a pg.  my great aunt tells me to just trust God and i'm really trying to do that. i wish i wasnt pg with a teenager who's not even taking pnv bc of the nausea!!  here i am taking pnv and extra FA, hoping it's enough!!

sorry for the long vent.

I'm sorry you are are having a rough time.  I know you are going to announce when you are ready but you will have to do it at some point or everyone will just know and talk about it behind your back instead of with you.  

I've been told by both my OB and my RE that if the PNVs are making me too sick that I don't have to take them.  We usually have enough stored in our bodies that the pregnancy will get the nutrition it needs, we may not (if we don't have enough) but the baby will.    Unless you have a folic acid problem then it's not going to help "save" a pregnancy, although I know that when you are PGAL sometimes doing *something* even just taking PNVs seems like you are doing something to save the pregnancy, when in reality we have no control over it, unless it is a medical problem (like clotting disorders, low progesterone, folic acid absorption and etc).

I hope things get easier with time.  ((HUGS))

 

punkin06

thanks!  yeah, i've been on extra FA for about 6 months now to prevent an ONTD.  my last loss was from this. hopefully the FA has worked!!!  i'll tell them at some point, it just doesnt feel right at this point.

BobbiJanay07

Hugs.

ksulli

That's tough. I'm glad you have the great aunt to talk to though! And maybe the other pregnancy being a tad dramatic will take the attention away from people noticing your symptoms. Hope the family time is flood for you.

Willosious

We have told our parents only, but everyone at work knows because I can't hide anymore. But we are wtg until we get past the six month mark to tell our remaining friends and family. It has been hard trying to isolate ourselves with out everyone thinking we are being rude, but once we tell them I know they willm understand. You have to do what makes you feel comfortable.

BritanyV

punkin06:

thanks!  yeah, i've been on extra FA for about 6 months now to prevent an ONTD.  my last loss was from this. hopefully the FA has worked!!!  i'll tell them at some point, it just doesnt feel right at this point.

((HUGS)) It's scary...dh wanted to tell his parents right away, I still haven't told mine and don't know when I will either but I'll have to eventually because I see them a lot more often as they only live a few miles away from us!

 I hope that the 6 months of extra FA does the trick!!!

haziedaze

((HUGS)) hang in there!

jldubb0626

((HUGE hugs!))