Push gift?

PiperS

Did you ever hear of this? It is when your husband buys you a present for having the baby and according to my BFF it is supposed to be jewelry. What do you think?

I think it would be kind of nice to get something sentimental that I could have or wear forever to remind me of having the baby. It could just be a little nic nac or something and not anything extravagant though.

BritanyV

I heard of it when I was pregnant with ds.   It's not something we do. 

GPickles

Some people I work with have done this.  It would be nice to get a gift, but I would rather have the money spent on something we could do together instead of some jewelry that would prob. sit in my jewelry box. 

Aubs13

DH got me a charm bracelet for Christmas this year, similar to a Pandora.  The first charm he bought for me was a heart that said, "Mom".  I know he's planning to purchase another charm for the bracelet.  But, I'm not considering it a "push present", as we'll continue to add to this bracelet for a long time.

Personally, I don't like the "expectation" of buying me a gift.  If DH wants to get something special, that's fine, but I'd rather he just hang out with us during his time off instead of shopping.  Just my opinion.

quezzo

I first heard of it here on TB, but then my husband mentioned it because a guy he is friend's with at work does it for his wife. Get this, he buys her a piece of jewelry that has the same number of stones (the birth stone for that month) to match the day his wife delivers. If example, If she had a baby on July 7 then she would get something with seven rubies. 

She was just due and had a baby in April - diamonds. Her due date was at the end of the month and her husband was freaking out because he thought he was going to have to get something with like 25 diamonds. Luckily for him, and their bank account, they induced her early in the month at 37 weeks. 

Now my husband is thinking about this, but honestly, I think it's a lot to expect so I'm not going to mention anything to him. My present is the baby. If he does it on his own it will be really nice and unexpected. 

PiperS

Aubs13:

Personally, I don't like the "expectation" of buying me a gift.  If DH wants to get something special, that's fine, but I'd rather he just hang out with us during his time off instead of shopping.  Just my opinion.

I totally agree with the expectation part. I don't want DH to feel obligated to buy me something. It would be sweet if he did something on his own. I just heard of it for the first time when BFF mentioned that she chose a diamond bracelet at Jared for her push gift/anniversary present.

pennynjon

I have heard of it.  My cousin actually got an upgraded wedding band for a push present.  For me personally, my baby in my arms will be all the present I want!  I would rather save that money for things we need for the baby.

mundayem

I've heard of it but don't expect to get anything. I do like the charm bracelet idea though.

I watch Real Housewives of Orange County and one of the girls got a Bentley as a push present

PrincessDi80

Some of my friends DHs do it, others don't. I don't expect anything other than LO. Besides my birthday is the same month LO is due so another present would be overkill. My BFFs DH got her two cases of her favorite wine as a push present, that would be kinda cool....I am really really starting to miss my wine now that summer parties are starting.

MCH77

I have not talked with DH about it.  I am sure he has not thought about it (which is fine), but his mom works in a jewerly shop and will bring it up to him (not good).  DH has bought me a few things from his mom's shop, which means his mom and her friends pick it out.  Things that are great for older women, but what do I need with 3 pins?!

Anyway... if DH thinks of it and picks it out... great.  If it is something his mom pushes/picks out, I would just prefer nothing. 

shoefreak85

DH bought me an aquamarine ring that matches my wedding band after my m/c.  He said that he wants to keep that up for every child.  Thankfully, it's nothing too extravagant. 

rvandiver0705

DH got me a pair of amethyst earrings for Bryce; he actually ordered them early and was able to give them to me right after he was born.  I wear them constantly.   I won't pretend they were cheap, but they weren't outrageously expensive.

I think different areas and even different families have different traditions.  In my family and his, it is traditional to get the new mom a gift of appreciation for giving birth (or making it through the adoption process, i.e. my mother).  We kind of think of it like Mother's Day but only a one time deal.  Honestly, my father gave me a set of pearls and DH gave me diamond earrings for our wedding.  It is just what both families do for really big occasions.

I did get DH a "squirt" present (you're welcome ) this spring; he got a new fancy camera with all the bells and whistles that he wanted.  I gave it to him early so he would be very familiar with it when she makes her appearance.   I thought he deserved a present for going through all of this will me and being such an awesome partner and father.

JoAnna914

I think that the tradition of the push present is very regional, as are a lot of different traditions.  I am originally from upstate NY, and I had never even heard of push presents until I moved to New York City fifteen years ago (actually, I had never heard of engagement parties, engagement photos, the alleged tackiness of the dollar dance at weddings, Sweet Sixteen parties, or the giant hoopla parents throw for their very young children's birthday parties until I moved here, either, lol).  

Since I staunchly protect my upstate tradition of being tradition-less, I will not be requesting a push present. 

Froggy76

I would love to get something sentimental, and I'll probably drop a few hints.  However, the women who demand an extravagant gift are ridiculous!

rock-elle

I'll be honest, I think the idea is ridiculous. I would never expect my H to buy me something, my son arriving will be present enough.

ksulli

PrincessDi80:

My BFFs DH got her two cases of her favorite wine as a push present, that would be kinda cool...

Now this is brilliant. DH asked last night what kind of drink he should have waiting for me, and I love him for it! I also have a suspicion that he may be looking at jewelry since I heard him talking to his dad about the jeweler he uses, but that could be since my birthday is just a few weeks after LO arrives. I didn't ask for anything, but won't turn it down. Like everyone else, I really just want a family in my house.

MrsAtch

rock-elle:

I'll be honest, I think the idea is ridiculous. I would never expect my H to buy me something, my son arriving will be present enough.

I'm in this camp. I've heard of women demanding a new car or something huge an ridiculous, which seems WAY over the top for me. My DH is pretty thoughtful and he does nice things for me when the mood strikes him. I don't want a present when our LO is born. I just want to hold our baby in my arms. 

krissymac

I've NEVER heard of push gifts before, so yeah, I won't be getting anything and I would feel weird even telling him of this tradition. My DH does joke that he wants to make me a push mix - an arrangement on my ipod to pump me up to push the baby out. I don't think he'll actually do it, but we like to laugh about it.

Eris-Alexis

I don't like the idea of a push present.  A healthy baby is all I want.  Besides, our anniversary is 5 days before my EDD, and it is just a few weeks after the holidays, so it just seems like overkill.  However, I do like the idea of a charm bracelet to not only commemorate each child, but major events in our lives as well. 

hugs&hissyfits

My husband gave me a "pushin present" with DD. Actually, it was a "cuttin present" since I had an emergency c-section. I'm not going to lie it was totally sweet and it was diamond earrings that I wear every day. Of course, my daughter in my arms was all I needed as seems to be what all of us want but it still was an extremely awesome thought from DH! He is a major jewelry giver though and if there is an occasion it is almost guaranteed that I will get some type of jewelry.

jertie

I've heard of it - and when I was pg last year my co-workers said they were going to call DH and tell him he had to get me something.  Personally, I think it's an awful tradition - for the only reason that it's expected.  I knew that childbirth and being pg wasn't going to be a cakewalk, but it was something that I wanted (both of us actually) and I knew what I was getting into.  I don't think there's any reason to reward someone for doing something they agreed to.  Plus, the men have to put up with a lot too:  m/s, crankiness, not sleeping well b/c we can't get comfortable, we snore like machine guns, less sex, peeing at all hours (and having to find a bathroom every 300 yards) - what do we get them?  I figure that having a heathly baby is its own reward.