CF for other reasons?

lglf4

I'm wondering if most ladies are here primarily for medical reasons.  I've had two failed pregnancies.  However, I almost wonder if it's a sign that we just shouldn't have a baby for financial reasons.  We were in the military for a while, which slowed down our educational and career paths quite a bit.  DH is in law school, and I just finished grad school in '08.  We bought a little condo in 12/06 and then the housing market really bottomed out, so we're stuck here, underwater (figuratively, not literally, thankfully).  There are some pretty significant crime issues in the area, but we didn't know that when we bought the place.  We're stuck here for a few more years yet before we can get a safer, larger place, since we live in a pretty expensive part of the country.  We also have about $1,000 a month in student loans for a couple more years.  DH is 32, but I'm 34.  So, in about 5 years, when things might be looking better educationally, jobwise, and housewise, I'll be 39--not my ideal time to start ttc AGAIN--that was a long journey the first time around.  I'm starting to think the we'll just be cf.  I also rescued 2 kitties and 2 chihuahuas that I adore, so perhaps that is what I'm meant to do....?  So, back to my original question I suppose--any other reaons for ladies to be here, aside from the difficult medical issues that most of us have?  Maybe I'm just crazy and need to see what others think.

babygirlpriest

The details of your situation may be different, but I think there are many here who can relate to issues including failed pregnancies, financial concerns or decisions regarding age and reproduction.

maddyishere

I am CF Fencesitter.  I came here to find out what is so appealing about having children vs not.   I love kids, but I don't love teenagers.  We always planned on it, I have baby clothes, etc., but they are a huge responsibility. I don't want to to worry about someone and it seems like a never-ending project that is uncontrollable.  You have to help them through school years, boyfriends, girlfriends, inlaws, hope they get a good job, health insurance, good marriage, etc. , then worry about their children.  I would love to enjoy life to the fullest and that includes peace and tranquilty and simplicity.   I love little kids, yes I do, but they grow up into teenagers with their own lives.  People make kids the center  of their universe and then put themselves last and forget their own lives.  Their happiness becomes dependent upon the happiness of their children.  There is a saying, as a parent you are only as happy as your saddest child.

Enjoy your life and your doggies! They need pet-parents like you who love them and give them a good life. God Bless You for rescuing them.  I donate to the aspca every month (i'm a guardian - auto payment) and it makes me happy to do so. My money will be left to these types of dog and animal charities when i go. They deserve it. 

We have a dog and that is our child for years and we enjoy that love we have.

I think that's what also satisifed us enough to not have kids all these married years.  I'm over 35, close to 40, so my time is running out.