headaches

babyaustin725

I don't know how to say this nice, so I'm just going to say it and hope that everyone understands that my son is my heart.

He gives me a headache - a bad one - almost, no not almost - every single day.  I feel really bad, because he is in full-time school.  I am only with him from 6:30-8:00am and from 3:30pm - bedtime.  I miss him while he's at school and I love him to death, of course, but he is either talking non-stop, constantly, or he's making some weird noises...he is always making some kind of noise.  I often tell him that I have a head ache and need peace and quiet, but he is 5 years old, and how long can I expect him to just sit in silence?  I encourage him to go in his room (or outside if it's nice) if he wants to play super loud or play his harmonica or something, but he's an only child and playing alone (although he's pretty independent) gets old for him.  Our place is small, and then there's the car...

Granted, I am SUPER (overly) sensitive to noise.  I cannot concentrate with noise, I cannot tune it out, etc.  I don't know why not.  Is "tuning it out" a learned ability or just something you have or don't?

Should I see a doctor for some kind of headache medicine or do I just need to try to endure and de-sensitize myself to the irritation from noise?

tfarabians

Ahhh boys!  I feel the same way except now I am even more sensitive because loud noises mean that J get woken up.  I feel like I have to constantly have C doing something to keep him entertained and I feel bad that I'm not playing with him when he asks but on those few moments that J is sleeping sometimes I just want to rest for a moment or pick up the house.  I'm probably overly sensitive to noise too.

coribecca

Do you think that maybe it's stress or anxiety related?  I'm not terribly sensitive to noice, but whining and fighting gets to me after a while and starts to ramp up my stress level.  It might be a good idea to see a doctor, just to talk it through and come up with some solutions.  You also might want to check into acupuncture.  It really does work, and they could work on both the headaches and on helping you to destress.

I hope things get better for you!

indigo91804

We live in a little house. Both my kids talk nonstop. I work to find myself alone time. I read every night before I go to bed to enjoy the silence. I take time to do things by myself. If not, I'd go crazy. I also know if I intentionally spend time with them (ie play a game, read a book, sit down and talk, dance party in the living room) they tend to stop when I need to do something, like make dinner, and play in the playroom. 

babyaustin725

indigo91804:

We live in a little house. Both my kids talk nonstop. I work to find myself alone time. I read every night before I go to bed to enjoy the silence. I take time to do things by myself. If not, I'd go crazy. I also know if I intentionally spend time with them (ie play a game, read a book, sit down and talk, dance party in the living room) they tend to stop when I need to do something, like make dinner, and play in the playroom. 

coribecca:

Do you think that maybe it's stress or anxiety related?  I'm not terribly sensitive to noice, but whining and fighting gets to me after a while and starts to ramp up my stress level.  It might be a good idea to see a doctor, just to talk it through and come up with some solutions.  You also might want to check into acupuncture.  It really does work, and they could work on both the headaches and on helping you to destress.

I hope things get better for you!

Thank you for the suggestions.