I need support, not negative ramblings. (long)

Mysterious_wife

I called my family today to let them know we had dates to move.  Not a one told me they were proud of Dh for getting a promotion.  They all asked if he has heard from other companies in the area.  They asked why I haven't found a job.

My brother flat out said he didn't know why I would do this to my mom.  Really?  Last time I checked we were doing this for OUR family not my mom, my brother or anyone else.

MIL is being the worst of them all.

I am looking forward to a new start. I am looking forward to having DH to depend on.  I am looking forward to finding a career.   I just need someone other than DH to tell me what I good job we are doing for our family.  

:sobs quietly:

Sorry for ranting and moaning.  I just needed to get this out.  

CWinfree85

Hugs. You have to do what's best for your family, and if they can't understand that, it's their own problem. Hopefully they will understand.

bumpuser794640

Some people are too self-centered, pessimistic, and flat-out not supportive.  I'm sorry you seem to have quite a few of these types in your family.  You are BOTH doing an amazing job building a life for your family, and if your parents/siblings can't see that and be happy for you, then eff them!  Good luck with your move and looking for a career that's right for you.

Kate621

I'm sorry, MW. It sucks when your own family can't give you the support you need. FWIW, I think it is awesome that your family has this opportunity. Everything will shake out. In the mean time tell everyone else to bugger off.

joanithegreat

I am sorry your family is being so shiitty.  For what it's worth, I think it is great that your DH got a promotion and I think that the move will be a great thing.   Like you said it will be a fresh start.

ElieFin

I think you are doing the right thing.  It is going to be good for you and DH. You need to do what  is good for you and not the rest of your family. Do they really expect you to stick around for their sakes?  You are  an adult.  Heaven forbid you should branch out on your own.  Sorry you have to deal with their crap.

heather_09_15_07

I'm so sorry, MW. It really hurts when you can't get that support from the people who are supposed to support you most of all.

+diana82+

I'm sorry. This sounds like a great opportunity for you guys and it sucks that they can't get behind you and be excited.

Elaine&Matt

It sucks that your family & DH's family can't be supportive.  You do what you have to do for your family.  They are your priority.  {{hugs]]

DrBeepersWife

::hugs::

You're doing your best.  End of story.  It is sad that the people who should be supportive aren't.  Just know you are supported here!!!

Mysterious_wife

Thanks ladies.  I am just a little disappointed that we are dealing with this. 

akalutts

One of the best things I ever did was move away from my family. I love them, they are awesome, but I didn't stand a chance at becoming the person I am now by staying.

You are doing an amazing thing - it is the right thing, and all the negativity from your family is their selfishness speaking. Family can suck sometimes, but you knew that already.

Excitedtostart

Hey MW, I just heard about your exciting news!! OMG congrats!! That's really awesome, and I'm so proud of you guys. It's scary to make this huge change in your life, but wow.. this is going to be so awesome for you two. I was so nervous when I thought your DH was going to lose his job, and I'm bummed you're moving far away, but I think it's so awesome that he had the initiative to go after that promotion. He's such a hard worker, you must be so proud of him.

I'm going to miss you!!!! ::hugs you to death:: I know that this is just the start of really fabulous things for you, and now it means I get to come see Georgia when I visit you!

Okay, if you were my IRL friend, that is what I would say to you. No sarcasm, no nastiness, I really would be that excited for you. It would suck losing the physical closeness that we might share, going out, having fun, whatever. But bottom line? This is awesome, I'm proud of you and your DH, and I'm really happy and excited for you. I'm sorry that not everyone can be that way too.  

zeesbride

I have a family like this....I am sorry you do, too. FWIW, I am a random internet stranger and I am proud of you guys! Best wishes on your move and your new life!!

Dee1028

People are selfish and rude. I am sorry. I think it's great that you are making this move and change. Good for you guys.