please talk me out of it

vanessaNOV2 · May 2011

Dh & I are going to disneyland for our anniversary & my bday. We planned to not bring kids & schedule my parents to watch them. But now dh & I are thinking we might take ds#1 who is 16 months. He would fly free & get into park free. But we wouldn't be able to ride on big rides together & wouldn't have a true break. Anyway please tell me its OK for us to go on a 4 day trip without kids. . I know I will miss them so much but they will Be in great hands & wont remember this One weekend.

bacala1 · May 2011

Don't do it! First of all he won't remember it anyway and God knows the next time you will be able to have a break like this...sleep as long as you want, eat in peace, no poopy diapers!

Meow71 · May 2011

dont you see all those hot, sweaty, miserable parents pushing a stroller around disneyland! im not taking DS til he is at least 5

AnnaBanana0327 · May 2011

bacala1:
Don't do it! First of all he won't remember it anyway and God knows the next time you will be able to have a break like this...sleep as long as you want, eat in peace, no poopy diapers!

And ride all the rides you want! I would have a really hard time leaving if it was going to be for like a week but 4 days- I say go for it!

kcisthebombdotcom · May 2011

I'd rather shoot myself in the foot than bring a child under 4 to disney.

Strollers, whiny toddlers getting bored standing in line, being hot, etc. No thank you.

Enjoy on your own, and plan a trip with the kids when they're 4+.

howleyshell · May 2011

GO WITHOUT HIM!!!!

Seriously.

GO.

Without.

Him.

If you don't do this now you're gonna find yourself in my shoes - it's been 7 YEARS since DH and I have had a vacation with just the 2 of us.

Look at it this way - your marriage is the foundation of your family. When that foundation is strong you can weather any storm (including small children).

Go.

Consider it an investment in giving your kids happy and healthy parents who are recharged and able to be the best parents possible to them.

GO.

GO!!!!!

caymanbride · May 2011

howleyshell:
GO WITHOUT HIM!!!!
Seriously.
GO.
Without.
Him.

If you don't do this now you're gonna find yourself in my shoes - it's been 7 YEARS since DH and I have had a vacation with just the 2 of us.
Look at it this way - your marriage is the foundation of your family. When that foundation is strong you can weather any storm (including small children).
Go.
Consider it an investment in giving your kids happy and healthy parents who are recharged and able to be the best parents possible to them.
GO.
GO.
GO!!!!!

This is great advice. DH and I went on a 4 day trip to Vegas when DS # 1 was 1 year old, and this summer, we're planning on another 3-4 day trip somewhere - just the 2 of us. I think what howley wrote is a wonderful way to look at it.

mlf625 · May 2011

LEAVE HIM! He'll love the time with his grandparents, they'll love the time with him, and you and DH will be better parents for taking a break. I've left the kids every now and then and I come home refreshed and much more appreciative of my babies.

Plus, I think Disney is miserable with kids that little. My parents are near Disneyland and there's no way we'll take DS for at least another year (when he's around 4). And even then, we'll only do it because we're close enough to just make a half day trip out of it.

Raffes484 · May 2011

I was there exactly a week ago with both of our kids. Don't get me wrong, it was great for DD to get to see some of her favorite characters, but she only got to go on 3 rides because the lines were long and well beyond her patience.

We basically paid to walk around the park.

Go without them. I would kill to have a vacation with just my DH.

ZTAsunshine · May 2011

Please go without your toddler. He will not remember the trip to Disneyland at this age. It will be great bonding time for him and his grandparents. Plus it will be a fabulous time for you to reconnect with your husband. Parents need alone time too.

HBaylies · May 2011

Be childfree! How often do you get a chance for something like that, never mind it being at Disney! I would take that opportunity in a heartbeat if we could afford a trip!

star173 · May 2011

I say go, but if you think you will be so preoccupied thinking about your DS, is there any way to arrange a sitter to join you guys?

sweetpea2003 · May 2011

Go go go go!

They will be FINE. You will have a blast. And when you get home you will feel rested and they will be so happy to see you.

I think it is good for couples to get away. The most important thing to your kiddos is that their parents are happily married. These getaways are priceless.

WhitePicketFence · May 2011

DD is 16 months and I can't imagine having any fun pushing her stroller in the hot weather or dealing with her tantrums (we're at that stage). Also, I'd be bummed that I couldn't ride most of the rides I'd want to.

Leave the kiddo and go have fun! I'd kill for a 4 day kid-free vacation right now.

elliesinclair · May 2011

We live near Disneyland and have taken DS (19 months) several times. He always enjoys it but honestly he loves looking at the ducks and sitting on the benches as much as the rides at this point.

This past weekend, we took DS for the first half of the day, and then my mom took him home. DH & I had the best afternoon on our own. We had forgotten how wonderful it was to walk around the park without a stroller and without having to stop and change diapers every hour or so. I wholeheartedly recommend leaving the kids at home and having a wonderful trip with DH.

apronstrings · May 2011

I read somewhere that couples who take time for them-are more likely to stay married. Which makes a lot of sense. I know it's hard-but there is no better gift you can give your children other than a happy marriage.

That said-I've managed to leave my two under two for one night. Save yourself!

CaitlinJ22 · May 2011

Raffes484:
I was there exactly a week ago with both of our kids. Don't get me wrong, it was great for DD to get to see some of her favorite characters, but she only got to go on 3 rides because the lines were long and well beyond her patience.
We basically paid to walk around the park.
Go without them. I would kill to have a vacation with just my DH.

I agree. We have been to Disney world twice, once when the kids were 3 months and 21 months, and once when they were 2 y and 8 months. We get in for free, so that was good, but we felt like we went on 2 rides and that was it. it is too hot in the summer, and not worth it. I have a friend who took her 15 month old and said it was the worst age to go. He didnt get it, was antsy and didnt want to wait onlines ofcourse, and was just a hastle.

have fun!!!

shopgirl78 · May 2011

I loved taking my (almost) 4 year old and 2 year old a couple of years ago. DD was completely in the princess phase and it was magical. In fact, I think the prefect age for girls is when they are in the princess stage.

****However, at 16 months, I totally feel guilty but he wouldn't get it and you guys wouldn't have as much fun. I'd go without and take them in a couple of years.

I much prefer to have my kids PTed before they went...the last day DS started getting blow-outs...eww! (At least the baby changing places are nice).

We plan to go again next summer (with kids : ) Can't wait!