conflicted and I know it seems a little crazy

Court0026

Probably finding out tomorrow if the blood work shows any "red flags" for Mia.  I am SO conflicted about this.  Of course, I want her to be healthy and allergy-free.  However, I am still so broken-hearted about my son's allergies.  It makes me sick to think about him being singled out even more, even within this family.  We will remain a nut-free and egg-free household, but still.  My mom was dying for the results and when they called with 1 of the results today, I didn't even want to know.  I feel crazy, but I want to protect my son and not have him feel "alone" as weird as this is.   

puterbaby

You know, kids are amazingly resilient.  My nephew (age 4) is type 1 diabetic.  His brother (age 2) so far is not.  He's on a pump, so their diets aren't that different, but their lifestyles are completely different. 

Good luck with the test results.  And you're not crazy, just a worried mom, there's nothing wrong with that.

DandelionMom

(((hugs)))  He's going to amaze you with how well he's going to handle all this. 

Court0026

Thank you.  Really.  Some days I just need some understanding and support.  Today was one of those days. 

magdusia

I can't tell you how i get the same feelings.  I'm pregnant with number two and of course i don't want him/her to have allergies like DS1.. Buuuutt.. I'm already getting comments from family that they hope there is no allergies with the second baby so they can take him/her places. WTF? The first words out of my mouth were.. Baby #2 goes where DS1 goes.  I can't imagine how that will make my son feel if grandma or grandpa or his aunt/uncle come over and take my second child to a park or something and my poor son is watching them leave -hell no! 

I never though about it until i started getting comments like this.  I wish and hope my second child does not have to deal with these allergies but i also wish and hope that my family will treat both children the same.  DS is already singled out from many things, this would make him feel terrible.

i'm glad you brought that up b/c i was feeling like i'm crazy also for having feelings like deep down inside i hope DC2 also has allergies so he/she is not treated differently -even though i really don't want him/her to have allergies.  it sucks.

Miller238

Court0026:

I feel crazy, but I want to protect my son and not have him feel "alone" as weird as this is.   

Not weird or crazy at all!  I think these fears/concerns/worries are very normal.  I also go back and forth about a second child and allergies.  Of course I don't want to go through this again, and the thought of seeing another child suffer and have to deal with this is depressing.  At the same time, keeping which kid has what allergies straight makes my head spin.  I don't want my daughter to feel alone, but at the same time, she will never know what she is missing out on (food wise).  She may not feel as if she is missing anything good.  I can completely understand wanting to protect your son.  Not crazy!