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JuneBridexoxo

Hi Ladies,

      I just miscarried this week at 5 weeks. This would have been my second pregnancy, my first pregnancy was fraternal twin boys My loss happened very early, but it doesn't make it hurt any less as I am sure all of you know. I am just so conflicted on when to try again. A part of me is so afraid that this will happen again that I just want to forget all about the whole idea of having another baby. But a part of me thinks, if I do not try again, I will never get to experience the joys of having another child. How long after a loss did you wait to try again?  TIA

julesjb

I'm so sorry for your loss....I think you will find most of us went with the recommended wait time our doctors gave us. After my first loss( and 2 d&c's) I was told to wait two cycles. Every doctor and situation is alittle different. I hope you are back with us soon!

RN0107

I am so sorry for your losses.

I had an early loss at 9w3d and my dr advised us to wait two cycles. We chose to wait 8 months. 

Good luck to you and I hope you get your  take home baby soon.

Karen1998

I'm sorry for your loss.  My doctor recommended we wait three cycles, which we did.  We were very lucky and got pregnant again on the second cycle trying. 

kathymarie

I began trying as soon as my Dr. gave me the green light.

Eris-Alexis

I'm very sorry for your loss.  The decision to try again is very personal and needs to be whatever you feel comfortable, as well as what your Dr recommends. 

We decided to start trying again as soon as our Dr cleared us because to us it felt better to be focusing on something positive.  A lot of women chose to wait longer. 

ETA: You may want to check out the TTC After a Loss board.  The women over there are fantastic and are so supportive.  They were a great comfort to me through both of my losses.  ((Big HUGS)) 

BritanyV

Ditto what everyone else said, we started trying when the doctor gave us the green light to do so. 

ellebelle2384

Eris-Alexis:

I'm very sorry for your loss.  The decision to try again is very personal and needs to be whatever you feel comfortable, as well as what your Dr recommends. 

We decided to start trying again as soon as our Dr cleared us because to us it felt better to be focusing on something positive.  A lot of women chose to wait longer. 

ETA: You may want to check out the TTC After a Loss board.  The women over there are fantastic and are so supportive.  They were a great comfort to me through both of my losses.  ((Big HUGS)) 

This. I am very sorry for your loss. Our doctor told us to wait 1 cycle so we did. We debated waiting longer but wanted something positive to focus on. We were very lucky and got pg when we started trying again. I really recommend the TTCAL board as well. The ladies are fantastic and helped me keep my sanity during the healing/trying process. Big hugs.

mariekl04

First off, I'm so sorry for your loss. I posted something similar to this earlier today and I received a great deal of information and support on the matter. I had 2 MC's the latest this past March at 9weeks. Because it was the second, my doctor told me no sex for 2 weeks (because i had a D&C), and use protection until we discussed my blood work. Blood work came back normal as did the fetus so i had to wait one cycle before trying. My second cycle is ending now and my husband and I decided to try again. He asked if we went through another loss if i would be able to handle the pain again (recently i've been so down and can't watch commercials with babies in them with bursting into tears). I didn't know how to answer so i sought help on here. Many of the woman said they knew they were ready to try once the feeling of wanting a baby overpowered the feeling of fear of losing again. This was the perfect answer i had been searching for. I am determined to become a mother of a healthy child, that i won't let fear of loss come between it. This is how i know i am ready to try again, and for the right reasons. So, in short, I waited until i got my 1st cycle out of the way, and then have been trying since. I hope this helps, and I wish you the very best. If you need anymore help or have questions, feel free to message me anytime

Junebug060609

I'm really sorry to hear about your loss.

I think the matter of when to try again really depends on when you're ready.  For some people, thats as soon as possible (once you have the doctors ok, of course).  For others, they need month(s) to sort out the emotional side of things.  For some, the emotions of loss are just too much and they don't try again. 

To answer your question: My loss was also at 5 weeks.  I was definitely was in the 'get back in the game as soon as possible' crowd.  I felt a need to be proactive and for me learning about my post-m/c cycle and trying again for a take-home baby was a way to do that.  I TTA for a month (docs orders) and then started TTCAL. 

Best of luck in whatever you choose!

damabo80

I'm very sorry for your losses. For me, the desire to have a child significantly outweighed any fear over another loss, so we started TTC as soon as the dr gave us the green light.