I just stood up for myself for the first time ever to my mom.

austxgrl

I've told y'all a little bit about the crap that I have been through with my mom.  Well, I have never stood up for myself becuase I was raised to always respect your elders, blah blah blah; and quite frankly; I don't want to deal with the additional drama that sticking up for myself would cause. Well, I finally hit the end of my rope and I stood up for myself. 

My mom is a pathalogical liar and will do anything to get attention mainly in the form of people feeling sorry for her.  Anyway, several months ago she told a lie about me to her side of the family.  Ok, whatever, this is an accurance that has happened ten million times throughout my life.  My family knows who she is and who I am and any other time I would have just laughed it off but this time it brought my character, integrity and morals into question and that was the final straw for me.  I have waited for several months to address it so that I could make sure that I approached it with class and not out of hurt or anger.  So I did it.  I sent her an email that I have re-read ten million times and I feel good about it.  I was mature and kind while letting her know how much her lies have hurt me and that I won't stand for it anymore.  One part of me feels so much better and very empowered while another part of me is just waiting for the shitstorm to begin but I don't regret sending it and maybe, just maybe, it will make her think twice before telling more lies.  

Just had to share becuase I'm totally shaking.   

flymansWife

good for you!! 

Nessia

Good for you!! Be strong and don't let her do it to you again.

bobcatsteph

Way to go! I hope she reacts positively.

AdamsKitten

Good for you, for standing up for yourself!  My DH has similar issues with his father, so I know how hard it can be!  Hopefully she takes it well and you can have some peace/resolution about the situation.

balihaigirl

good job!

lwoods422

Good for you!! It was going to happen sooner or later. Hopefully, she will surprise you and react differently and maybe even apologize ;-)

colleenor

good for you for standing up for yourself!

Jess.O

Way to go!  I know how hard that can be; I'm proud of you for standing up to her.  IMO, people will continue to behave poorly until they aren't allowed to anymore.  (Not saying that this is gonna fix everything but it's a GREAT step!)

 

((hugs))

shanwalk2

I know how crazy good it can feel to send emails like that.  Honestly, I've had to do it a lot... but each time I'm hopeful it can get us to a sense of understanding.  

I'm hopeful this is just want is needed to begin healing for your relationship!  good luck! 

PrincessBrideSarah

Good for you! I hope you get a positive resolution.

carlinlp

I'm so proud of you hun.

FeistyFille

Sounds like it's been a long time coming.  Good for you.  Stand your ground. 

NoVA-grl

I know it's nerve-wracking but I'm sure it feels good to get it out there.  Good for you!

AustinAggie01

I know about that shaking feeling when it comes to dealing with mothers!  Good job for standing up to her!  I hope this leads your relationship in a more positive direction.

HSartteach

LLCoolH

I hope it turned out well.  Either way, good for you!

userdeleted

Good job!

As the daughter of another pathological liar, I really understand how difficult that was for you. It's so important to take that first step though. I mean look - the world didn't end! I bet you feel like a weight was just lifted off of your shoulders

I just want to say though - don't be surprised if she either a) flips out, b) completely ignores you, or c) denies everything. Don't let her manipulate you into thinking you were wrong to confront her. Stand strong. You are in the right and you are doing the right thing. Don't let her goad you into an argument either. Just stick with the facts. 

((hugs)) I know it can be tough. You're doing good