CP: Do you want to watch?? WIll you use the mirror?

rock-elle

(admit: I kind of miss CPW, so here's a CPT instead!)

Some coworkers and I were talking about this and when you start pushing and LO is actually making its way into the world, do you want to watch?

[Poll]

Eris-Alexis

I haven't decided yet.  In fact, I am still trying to decide if I am going to try to go for a vaginal delivery or a C (have had previous uterine surgeries). 

Junebug060609

I'm really ok with not seeing my vag in all its glory like that.  Plus I'm pretty sure by DH would pass out if he saw that image.  I'm undecided on the hand thing, probably will decide in the moment.

rock-elle

Junebug060609:

I'm really ok with not seeing my vag in all its glory like that.  Plus I'm pretty sure by DH would pass out if he saw that image.  I'm undecided on the hand thing, probably will decide in the moment.

Ditto.

That is absolutely my thought, I do not want to see and same for my DH.

PrincessDi80

rock-elle:

Junebug060609:

I'm really ok with not seeing my vag in all its glory like that.  Plus I'm pretty sure by DH would pass out if he saw that image.  I'm undecided on the hand thing, probably will decide in the moment.

Ditto.

That is absolutely my thought, I do not want to see and same for my DH.

Yep!

allybaby85

I know dh watched while Lillyan was being delivered. That whole experience was crazy and emotional (not in a good way). As long as everything goes well this time I might want the mirror there but Im not so sure I would actually watch. I think I am just going to decide at the time.

jertie

I don't really want to watch and I'm pretty modest with my lady bits.  I get embarrassed when they pull out the vagi-cam for the first couple of ultrasounds and DH is in the room for that.    I asked DH to be next to/behind me when it comes time to push and nowhere near the "drop zone".  Using a mirror would most likely mean that DH could see and I don't want to take that chance.

martinimomma

jertie:

I asked DH to be next to/behind me when it comes time to push and nowhere near the "drop zone". 

Jertie, I think I love you.  LOL plus ::gigglesnort:: at the use of the term "drop zone". 

I think I will know what is going on down there and have no desire to have to look at it in a mirror in addition to feeling it (assuming I don't have an epi and can feel, you know what I mean there).  I have had the distinct privilege of being at numerous vag deliveries in my lifetime both in my former career and attending the deliveries of a couple close friends, so I have seen enough perineum action shots to know that I don't need to see mine.

MrsAtch

PrincessDi80:

rock-elle:

Junebug060609:

I'm really ok with not seeing my vag in all its glory like that.  Plus I'm pretty sure by DH would pass out if he saw that image.  I'm undecided on the hand thing, probably will decide in the moment.

Ditto.

That is absolutely my thought, I do not want to see and same for my DH.

Yep!

Yeah, I really don't need that visual of my who-who. Neither does my DH. There are a couple of other people that want to be in the room (my two best friends, and my mom) but we may end up kicking everyone out and just having the time with the two of us. Either way, the only one that is going to be near my rear is whomever is taking this LO out of me.  

sept9107bride

they didn't offer when our first was born and I was kind of glad.  I had planned on watching but now that I look back on it.....I had enough focus just trying to get the kid out.  no need to gawk at myself, especially in the baby delivering area.

Karen1998

sandyd:

jertie:

I asked DH to be next to/behind me when it comes time to push and nowhere near the "drop zone". 

Jertie, I think I love you.  LOL plus ::gigglesnort:: at the use of the term "drop zone". 

I think I will know what is going on down there and have no desire to have to look at it in a mirror in addition to feeling it (assuming I don't have an epi and can feel, you know what I mean there).  I have had the distinct privilege of being at numerous vag deliveries in my lifetime both in my former career and attending the deliveries of a couple close friends, so I have seen enough perineum action shots to know that I don't need to see mine.

Nothing short of sheer brilliance!

I'm not interested in seeing the action, though if I'd had a Brazilian and fully v-jazzled the sucker right before, I'd be curious to see just how it all bent around and wound up during the heat of the war in the drop zone.  (love that term, BTW).  That'd be kind of entertaining.

I am curious to see and touch the placenta though.  I know it's weird, but I'm curious to see what it looks like (from me, not from online pics that I know I can pull) and to see just how squishy it is.  I have to remember to ask my doctor to let me take a peak.  However, I have no interest in eating and/or ingesting it in any form.

ColleenS629

jertie:

I don't really want to watch and I'm pretty modest with my lady bits.  I get embarrassed when they pull out the vagi-cam for the first couple of ultrasounds and DH is in the room for that.    I asked DH to be next to/behind me when it comes time to push and nowhere near the "drop zone".  Using a mirror would most likely mean that DH could see and I don't want to take that chance.

All of this. 

martinimomma

Karen1998:

sandyd:

jertie:

I asked DH to be next to/behind me when it comes time to push and nowhere near the "drop zone". 

Jertie, I think I love you.  LOL plus ::gigglesnort:: at the use of the term "drop zone". 

I think I will know what is going on down there and have no desire to have to look at it in a mirror in addition to feeling it (assuming I don't have an epi and can feel, you know what I mean there).  I have had the distinct privilege of being at numerous vag deliveries in my lifetime both in my former career and attending the deliveries of a couple close friends, so I have seen enough perineum action shots to know that I don't need to see mine.

Nothing short of sheer brilliance!

I'm not interested in seeing the action, though if I'd had a Brazilian and fully v-jazzled the sucker right before, I'd be curious to see just how it all bent around and wound up during the heat of the war in the drop zone.  (love that term, BTW).  That'd be kind of entertaining.

I am curious to see and touch the placenta though.  I know it's weird, but I'm curious to see what it looks like (from me, not from online pics that I know I can pull) and to see just how squishy it is.  I have to remember to ask my doctor to let me take a peak.  However, I have no interest in eating and/or ingesting it in any form.

Karen, as one who has felt a placenta or two in her day (for educational purposes only - not for social placental fondling or culinary reasons)  it is really super interesting to see and feel.  One of the neonatologists I used to work with took time to educate both his residents and the nursing staff on various placental conditions, and made us all put on gloves and "feel" the problems if they were palpable (like calcifications).  The term "vascular pancake" is a pretty good descriptor.

That being said, I think I might pass on checking out my own.

MCH77

I don't know.  I guess I will decide in the moment.

Karen1998

sandyd:

Karen1998:

sandyd:

jertie:

I asked DH to be next to/behind me when it comes time to push and nowhere near the "drop zone". 

Jertie, I think I love you.  LOL plus ::gigglesnort:: at the use of the term "drop zone". 

I think I will know what is going on down there and have no desire to have to look at it in a mirror in addition to feeling it (assuming I don't have an epi and can feel, you know what I mean there).  I have had the distinct privilege of being at numerous vag deliveries in my lifetime both in my former career and attending the deliveries of a couple close friends, so I have seen enough perineum action shots to know that I don't need to see mine.

Nothing short of sheer brilliance!

I'm not interested in seeing the action, though if I'd had a Brazilian and fully v-jazzled the sucker right before, I'd be curious to see just how it all bent around and wound up during the heat of the war in the drop zone.  (love that term, BTW).  That'd be kind of entertaining.

I am curious to see and touch the placenta though.  I know it's weird, but I'm curious to see what it looks like (from me, not from online pics that I know I can pull) and to see just how squishy it is.  I have to remember to ask my doctor to let me take a peak.  However, I have no interest in eating and/or ingesting it in any form.

Karen, as one who has felt a placenta or two in her day (for educational purposes only - not for social placental fondling or culinary reasons)  it is really super interesting to see and feel.  One of the neonatologists I used to work with took time to educate both his residents and the nursing staff on various placental conditions, and made us all put on gloves and "feel" the problems if they were palpable (like calcifications).  The term "vascular pancake" is a pretty good descriptor.

That being said, I think I might pass on checking out my own.

That just makes me even more intrigued.  Though, if they pointed out issues in my own, that might make me worry more during the next pregnancy.  Maybe I can just poke it to see how squishy it is and they can then take it away.  I tried to get them to save the bits they removed from my knee in my knee surgery years ago (also tried to get them to let me stay awake), but they sent them off to the lab before I could see.  I just wanted to see what the bone chip that'd been giving me so much pain looked like!  They did show me a few pictures from the surgery though. but none of the chip. 

DH actually felt his brother's placenta.  He was seven and went right over and poked away.  His brother was born via c-section and DH was a super curious child (still is - ha!) so the doctors were actually really cool about explaining things to him after the fact.  He poked it but the doctors actually stopped him from picking it up (ew).  Can you imagine how much of a nasty mess a seven year old would make while carrying a placenta?

jillcanada

I think I'll be too busy asking for more pain meds and cursing at DH...

Manderlin923

Yep! I did with DS and I will for sure look again. I think a lot of people change their minds in the moment, kwim? I didn't think I'd be looking but when they offered to me in the heat of the moment I could NOT not look!

 

Aubs13

hellz no.

I respect those that want to, but it is definately not for me!

704bride

I don't think I'd want to watch, but I think I'd have to decide in the moment.  I'm not sure if DH would be scarred or not, but he did see my uterus after my c-section and that didn't seem to phase him.  A few questions - what are the abbreviations you mentioned at the top of your post?  And what's special snowflake?

maymaymia

I know I want to feel the head coming out. Watching? Not so sure about that.

rock-elle

704bride:

I don't think I'd want to watch, but I think I'd have to decide in the moment.  I'm not sure if DH would be scarred or not, but he did see my uterus after my c-section and that didn't seem to phase him.  A few questions - what are the abbreviations you mentioned at the top of your post?  And what's special snowflake?

CPW=clicky poll Wednesday (popular activity from when we/I was on ttcal....CPT=clicky poll tues. (because today is tues & not wed!) And special snowflake option is for those that want to explain usually b/c none of the answers applied to them. Hope that helps!

Aubs13

704bride:

I don't think I'd want to watch, but I think I'd have to decide in the moment.  I'm not sure if DH would be scarred or not, but he did see my uterus after my c-section and that didn't seem to phase him.  A few questions - what are the abbreviations you mentioned at the top of your post?  And what's special snowflake?

CP:  Clicky Poll
CPW:  Clicky Poll Wednesday (on TTCAL)
CPT:  Clicky Poll Tuesday (rock-elle made that up!)
LO:  Little One
Special Snowflake:  Someone whose answer does not fit into the options in the clicky poll....click on SS and explain below.

Hope that helps!

emmeelou

I can't decide if watching will make it harder for me to focus on the task at hand.  That seems counter-intuitive, but I can see myself getting so interested (freaked out) by the anatomy/biology lesson that it wouldn't help the situation.

Manderlin923

emmeelou:

I can't decide if watching will make it harder for me to focus on the task at hand.  That seems counter-intuitive, but I can see myself getting so interested (freaked out) by the anatomy/biology lesson that it wouldn't help the situation.

I only looked for a moment but I felt the opposite- if felt like seeing my son's head peeking out of my body really motivated me to push! I was soooo close, kwim? It helped boost my spirits!

VeilSdeGTO

jillcanada:

I think I'll be too busy asking for more pain meds and cursing at DH...

This!