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thethomps
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Settle a debate for me, please
thethomps
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This is so dumb but DH and I got into a big argument over this the other night. I recently hit a certain weight loss goal of mine and my trainer wants to take a picture of me holding a dumbbell plate of said weight with a caption saying "thethomps lost XX lbs. since having her baby." I'm sure the hope is that people will see this picture on their website and think, "Gee, I want to lose weight, I should join." (Obvs.)
Anyway, DH says that it is misleading to say that I've actually lost that much weight since 8.4 lbs was baby and there was amniotic fluid, etc. My view is 1) I gained some weight while BFing, so the majority of what I have lost has been through diet and exercise (and HARD exercise, fwiw) 2) Baby + amniotic fluid = maybe 1/4 of the weight I've lost and 3) when I went in for all my freaking prenatal appointments, they didn't say (for example), "Well, you've gained 35 lbs. so far, but the baby weighs about 5 lbs. right now, so we're going to call it only a 30 lb. gain." Nope, they told me I'd gained 35 lbs. so, IMO, I get to say that I've lost that weight.
Am I misrepresenting my weight loss? If you think I am, is there a way to phrase the caption differently so it doesn't seem that way? Or should I not even take the picture at all?
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Re: Settle a debate for me, please
Your DH is overthinking it and he's totally discounting what you've done.
I say that I delivered my kids at 168 and 204 and I've lost xxxx amount of lbs since. I don't count for what the baby weighed and I didn't start counting my weight loss until a certain date post-partum.
ETA: My last sentence is confusing. I mean that I started counting my weight loss immediately. Its not like you wait to see what you weigh at 6 weeks post-partum and then start tracking your weight loss.
I'll make it simple. Your DH is wrong!
I totally agree with Ali. I say I've lost xx pounds - that's going off of my highest weight that I hit right before I delivered until now.
You HAVE lost all that weight since having a baby - who cares if 8.4 lbs of that was baby? You still lost it!
Yep. And congrats!!
(read it. you know you want to.)
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mabel . august 2012
Yep.
I think you've got the right idea and your DH is over thinking it.
I've lost 38 pounds since delivering Molly in January. I know that 90% of that was fluid, baby, placenta, etc. because of how swollen I was. However, you can be darn sure when people ask me how much weight I've lost, I tell them 38 lbs! lol!
I think you've worked hard and should be recognized for that hard work. Great job!
this!
Totally. No matter how it got off you, the weight is gone. I'm SURE delivering that 8.4 pounds was at least as difficult as the diet and exercise has been for the rest of it. Count it, sister!
Yep. Anyone who sees that will know you're counting weight loss from your highest PG weight, which of course includes the baby.
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Sigh. I'm totally going to get beat up for this...
I see "since having the baby'' = the minute after baby was born. Like your leaving the hospital weight.
Awesome.
i definitely see it both ways. no matter what- be proud of that loss and flaunt it!
Nobody counts the weight that they put on during pregnancy that way. No woman that gained 30 (for instance, I myself gained more) pounds during pregnancy tells everyone that she gained 15 since some was the baby, fluid, etc. So it's not misleading to count the weight coming off in the same way, it's just logical.
ETA: Not to mention, I worked harder to "lose" the 8 lbs that was DD than I've ever worked to lose weight in my entire life. It counts!
And I'm about to get flamed big time...
First of all, CONGRATS on your weight loss. Who cares from what part you are starting to count?? A healthier weight is just that- more healthy, no matter the starting point.
Having said that, if I read that sign, I would assume (wrongly) that you were starting from when your weight regulated after your baby was born. I had edema w/ Jack and, like carlinlp said, GAINED weight after he was born. The swelling went down completely after a month and that's when I started counting. With Tommy, I waited until three weeks after to get my "before" weight.
It's more than just the baby + placenta. It's all the other fluid that your body carries. We're talking (according to the google), 8 lbs of baby, 2-3 lbs of placenta, 2-3 lbs of amniotic fluid, 2-3 lbs of breast tissue, 4 lbs from increased blood supply, 2-5 lbs from uterus increase. So, conservatively, that's 20 lbs that *should* come off on its own just from time.
Now, if your trainer was to change the wording to, "TheThomps weighed XX on the day she gave birth. Today, she's down YY pounds!" Then, I think it would be perfectly clear.
Let's say you lost 25 lbs since the day your baby was born. That's great! Buuuuut, your trainer only get to take credit for 5 of that. It's still a big deal that the weight is gone, but for the trainer to use it as an advertisement for his services, I think he would need to make it more clear.
I just re-read that, and it didn't sound like I intended it to. I meant any time after the baby was born. I like how MC worded that better, though.
First - congrats on the weight loss. That is awesome! I need to get off my butt and lose the last 5 pounds of baby weight myself!
Second, I totally agree with MC in that I think it could be misleading to other people to include the weight just before you delivered the baby. I gained 42 and 34 pounds with my pregnancies, respectively, and I immediately dropped about 20 of those pounds within 3 weeks. I worked/am working on losing the rest of the weight, so that is what I've really thought of as my "before" weight.
I would say that overall, women think of weight loss in terms of our "most fat" and "least fat" weights. It doesn't matter if some of that was baby, it was still the number on the scale.
Definitely, however, if Thomps photo is going to (basically) be used as an advertisement for this trainer, I think he needs to be (beyond) honest about just how much of her weight loss was w/ his assistance.
i agree with your point mcurban that for an advertisement, it seems odd for him to 'take credit' for the entire loss, however 5 months later i am still not even 20 pounds down from what i assume i weighed when i delivered annie... so i stick by my statement that i got MY starting weight the week after she was born. (at which time i had 22 pounds to lose and now have 10 still to go and they are NOT 'falling' off. hah!)
DS born 8/2010 - preliminary stages of SN int'l adoption - fur mama to 2 shelter dogs; cloth diapering, babywearing, EBFing mama
Thanks for the input! I will say that I did not lose a ton of weight by my 6 week pp appointment, maybe 5 more than V weighed? (And from what everyone had told me, I was expecting at least 20 lbs. to be gone! HUGE disappointment!) So for some reason all that fluid weight and stuff didn't drop off for me - I actually had to work to get it off.
And KA, you totally made me laugh. It did cross my mind...