Pregnant after a Loss

:::MrsAtch, Izabella, and Tapatio if you are out there?::

MrsAtch, I just want to thank you so much for being so supportive and praying for my family.  We sure have had a rough go of things lately.  The "finding closure" thing is going to be difficult, I am sure, but I suppose I am working through the stages of grief pretty well.  I am moving towards anger, feeling that it's just not fair that my stepdad died so suddenly and that I never got a chance to say goodbye or saw him even very recenlty because we've been in Boston all year.  Oh, and I am so sorry that you are on extended pelvic rest!  I commented on your post, but I will say it here, I would want to call the doctor and talk about it a little more, the situation about exercising but being on pelvic rest.  Hopefully that will give you a little more peace of mind.

Izabella, I also must thank you for being there for me too.  You ladies are so wonderful to be so prayerful for my family, and I certainly appreciate it and feel the love coming my way.  I hope that I can be as a good a friend to you as you are to me.  Oh, I almost forgot, about the doppler checks....I *think* that after a certain point (10-12 weeks), you will probably get a doppler check each time you go to the doctor.  I had to ask for my first one at 11w5d, the doc said it was too early but I insisted and with some searching, she found the heartbeat.  She did the doppler on her own this time, so I am guessing that a doppler check will be standard from here on out.  That is really good news for both you and me, especially if you are not going to buy a home doppler (I didn't, but am so jealous of those, ahem, MrsAtch, that do have them!)

And Tapatio!  I am all twisted up in knots from crossing every limb in my body for you.  I really hope that your move and unpacking has gone well and it would be super duper terrific if you had internet now and were able to update your chart.  I checked TTCAL but that was a couple of hours ago, so I will check again.  No matter how the dice rolls, I am here for you and you have good things to look forward to.

Now come on in everyone for a group hug....you too, myaddiwaddi (I didn't think you went to PGAL much, but if you're reading this, then I would love to hear today's thought from you!).

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BFP 12/05/10 (EDD 8/8/11), empty gestational sac 12/31/10, natural miscarriage 01/05/11
BFP 03/03/11, EDD 11/09/11, We love you so much already, our sweet little munchkin!!!
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*Congrats to buddies MrsAtch, cflocco, MommyandKate, luckylady55, opallover, trishiepoo, stephsteph77, and Pachita! Praying for healthy babies for all of you!*
*Congrats to my buddy, Izabella22 (BFP 5/11/11)!!!Sending you Ts and Ps for a healthy, take-home baby!
*Congrats to my buddy, myaddiwaddi06(BFP 10/31/11)!!!Sending you Ts and Ps for a healthy, take-home baby!

Re: :::MrsAtch, Izabella, and Tapatio if you are out there?::

  • HadleySHadleyS member
    Awwww, Tapatio, {{{{{BIG SQUISHY HUGS}}}}  I missed you lady and I am so glad you are back.  I am so so sorry about stupid AF.  I am actually feeling down right angry over it this time, but I know that you have a good head on your shoulders and see that you are moving forward gracefully.  I am in awe and just admire you so much.  Now let's get you that RE and look toward a bright future! Paradise
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    BFP 12/05/10 (EDD 8/8/11), empty gestational sac 12/31/10, natural miscarriage 01/05/11
    BFP 03/03/11, EDD 11/09/11, We love you so much already, our sweet little munchkin!!!
    BabyFruit Ticker
    *Congrats to buddies MrsAtch, cflocco, MommyandKate, luckylady55, opallover, trishiepoo, stephsteph77, and Pachita! Praying for healthy babies for all of you!*
    *Congrats to my buddy, Izabella22 (BFP 5/11/11)!!!Sending you Ts and Ps for a healthy, take-home baby!
    *Congrats to my buddy, myaddiwaddi06(BFP 10/31/11)!!!Sending you Ts and Ps for a healthy, take-home baby!
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  • Ugh I just responded to Tapatio's post over on TTCAL... damnit damnit damnit... Well the RE better be good and have a good plan for her is all I can say!

    Big *HUGS* Hadley, you have been through so much lately and you are just so strong. I've been amazed by you and how relaxed you have been through this whole process of being Pgal and your work craziness and now family stuff. Lots of love coming your way sweetie, I hope things settle down quickly. I am so excited for your A/S upcoming! *HUGS*

    Same to your MrsAtch, I seriously don't know if I'd be half as sane as I have been if I didn't have you ladies to lean on and go through this with. It really does test your everything. *HUGS*

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  • HadleySHadleyS member

    Aw, Izabella, you are TOOOOOO sweet to me.  I know that part of this is my personality, to seem relaxed.  I have grown up always trying not to cry over "spilt milk"...there is just only so much I can do and I have to realize what is in my control and what isn't.  But of couse as you know, there's been a lot of milk spilt in my life over this past year, that's for sure!  It does get to me at times, but it's usually when I am alone or just get settled into bed that I let my emotions go flying.

    But I do have an amazing support system, especially with people like you around, so that helps tremendously.  You all help me to get excited when I should be, and I have to say, I was more anxious for yesterday's appointment than nervous, and I never thought I would be able to say that truthfully.  I hope and pray that some day you will get to that point too, where you can shed some of the nerves and worry and enjoy the small pleasures of pregnancy as they come along.  I will be helping you all along the way, and so will your other friends here.  Izzy, today you are pregnant and you love your baby.

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    BFP 12/05/10 (EDD 8/8/11), empty gestational sac 12/31/10, natural miscarriage 01/05/11
    BFP 03/03/11, EDD 11/09/11, We love you so much already, our sweet little munchkin!!!
    BabyFruit Ticker
    *Congrats to buddies MrsAtch, cflocco, MommyandKate, luckylady55, opallover, trishiepoo, stephsteph77, and Pachita! Praying for healthy babies for all of you!*
    *Congrats to my buddy, Izabella22 (BFP 5/11/11)!!!Sending you Ts and Ps for a healthy, take-home baby!
    *Congrats to my buddy, myaddiwaddi06(BFP 10/31/11)!!!Sending you Ts and Ps for a healthy, take-home baby!
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    I'm thinking of all of you *hugs*

    ::butting out::

  • MrsAtchMrsAtch member

    I'm pretty sure I just ran and jumped into this group hug. 

    Shel, you know that I'm here for you 24/7/365. You've been handing several really crappy situations with an amazing amount of grace- while being PGAL. That really says something. I know it's going to take a LONG time to heal from the loss of your stepfather, especially without a service for closure. Just know you can vent/cry/talk about it anytime you need to. I'm really glad your appointment went well yesterday. My last one was almost identical to what you described. My doc said the middle appointments are "boring". I'll take boring any day.

    I'm really excited that your scan is scheduled too. Two weeks! That seems so crazy to me. My next appt is on the 7th and our anatomy scan is on the 15th. Time is moving pretty quickly now. 16 weeks tomorrow.. holy cow!

    Liz- You know I'm just a stones-throw away and if you ever need anything you know how to find me. We help each other through the rough moments, because that's what friends are for. Being PGAL friends just means we understand each other better. You know I'm definitely cheering you on, and celebrating every single milestone that you hit. This WILL be your take home baby. I'm praying for it every single day.

    Tapatio- honey I'm SO sorry about AF. I really hate that old b!tch. I haven't had a chance to comment on your post yet (been running all day) but I want you to know I'm thinking of you and keeping you in all my T&P. I can't wait for you to be on this side so we can all wrap you in bubble wrap and duck tape your feet to the PGAL floor. (HUGS)  

    After two losses, a rainbow arrived! DD born 11.5.11
    Dx with severe Asherman's syndrome after a botched PP D&C (pursuing med mal)
    Hysteroscopy Oct '13, not enough progress 
    Hysteroscopy Jan '14, given an end-of-the-road diagnosis
    Joined International Asherman's Association April '14 
    Not ready to give up yet.
    Hysteroscopy with Dr. Isaacson (an expert in the USA) 6.2.14: Good prognosis, at least 50% of cavity open.
    Repeat hysteroscopy scheduled with Dr. I on 6.16.14. Great progress. Unbenched!!!!
    Discussing actively TTC with DH after the heartache of the last year. We're both reeling.
     
    Please, please, please. 
  • Hadley honey, I'm so sorry about your stepdad. Kerri texted me the news and I just wanted to say that I'm so sorry for your loss ((huge hugs)).

    Natural MCs 2/4/09, 8/22/09 & 4/7/10
    Dx with Antiphospholipid Antibody Syndrome (APS)
    BFP #4 5/14/12
    5/17/12...1st Betas- 176, P4 3.6
    5/22/12...2nd Betas- 207, P4 6.1 (MC confirmed)
  • Also, I love each and every one of you. That is all Big Smile.

    Natural MCs 2/4/09, 8/22/09 & 4/7/10
    Dx with Antiphospholipid Antibody Syndrome (APS)
    BFP #4 5/14/12
    5/17/12...1st Betas- 176, P4 3.6
    5/22/12...2nd Betas- 207, P4 6.1 (MC confirmed)
  • MrsAtchMrsAtch member
    imageTapatio:

    Also, I love each and every one of you. That is all Big Smile.

    Yes back atcha! 

    After two losses, a rainbow arrived! DD born 11.5.11
    Dx with severe Asherman's syndrome after a botched PP D&C (pursuing med mal)
    Hysteroscopy Oct '13, not enough progress 
    Hysteroscopy Jan '14, given an end-of-the-road diagnosis
    Joined International Asherman's Association April '14 
    Not ready to give up yet.
    Hysteroscopy with Dr. Isaacson (an expert in the USA) 6.2.14: Good prognosis, at least 50% of cavity open.
    Repeat hysteroscopy scheduled with Dr. I on 6.16.14. Great progress. Unbenched!!!!
    Discussing actively TTC with DH after the heartache of the last year. We're both reeling.
     
    Please, please, please. 
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