Does anyone else get nervous . . .

keado

when your husband travels without you? 

I am pacing the house right now, trying to relax, while hubby is on a plane.  He has traveled his entire career - when we were first married he spent every week gone and still travels regularly - but I don't think I will ever be able to let go of the worry that consumes me when he is flying, and to a lesser degree, driving.

I should be past this by now, but I get butterflies every.single.time.  

Am I neurotic, or does anyone else feel the same way when their significant other is gone?  I'm hoping I'm not the only one.   

 

AmethystBride

You're not the only one.  I'm always nervous when he travels.  I have him call me as soon as he gets to the hotel, and when he travels home he calls at every layover. 

:-)

kellenickle

My husband doesn't really travel, but along those same lines...

I've always been fine flying, but since having DD, I've developed severe anxiety when I travel. Like, I have to take xanax in order to not get kicked off the plane b/c I'm making a scene.  But, it's really only bad when I'm traveling alone.

 I have this fear that I'm going to die in a plane crash and DH is going to take DD and move in with his [batshitcrazy] parents.  Not a healthy attitude, but I can't help it.

intheatx

Dude, I get nervous when DH goes to a happy hour with colleagues and comes home later than expected (he's TERRIBLE about letting me know if he's running late. TERRIBLE.). So yes, I definitely worry when DH travels. I feel the same anxiety when my parents travel, especially if it involves flights.

JayandJack

I'm WAY more nervous about him being gone since Jack than I ever was before. Now I insist he at least sends me a text when he lands at each connection and before I would go all day with out talking to him with out a second thought. I use to tell him not to wake me and now I get a call or text no matter what time.

mlf625

Just when he drives long distances.  He has epilepsy, and though he's never ever had a medicated seizure (and hasn't had an unmedicated one since 2004), I still worry myself sick when he drives alone. 

Big planes don't scare me at all.  I did worry in college when my pilot-in-training DH (then my boyfriend) would take solo flights in small planes.  That freaked me the eff out.

SareBear30

intheatx:

Dude, I get nervous when DH goes to a happy hour with colleagues and comes home later than expected (he's TERRIBLE about letting me know if he's running late. TERRIBLE.). So yes, I definitely worry when DH travels. I feel the same anxiety when my parents travel, especially if it involves flights.

Mine does this too and I can't tell you how many arguments it's caused. I don't worry that much when he travels without me (it's also not that frequent) but I'm sure I will a lot more once we have a family.

AustinAggie01

I don't think I'll ever get over my anxiety when it comes to DH travelling.  And, he does it weekly.  The first night I usually stay up way too late and eventually pass out in front of the tv.  Makes for a rough day the next day.  I'm especially worried right now due to the whole 'revenge' thing that may happen any day.  When he drives I worry because I KNOW he's on the phone the whole time or messing with his music, GPS, etc.  Drives me crazy.  DH knows the drill though about texting me at every landing/layover/hotel, etc. and he's thankfully really good at it.

But, even when he is in town I get myself worked up because he's in a band which puts him driving when all the drunks and crazies are out, just about to crash into him (in my mind, anyway).

Another worry which sounds stupid, but it really is a fear of mine...puke.  I am super scared that the kids will throw-up and DH won't be around to help me handle it.  I can deal with all kinds of other bodily fluids but I seriously get worked up about the thought of puke.  Stupid, right?

SaraLouiseBride08

intheatx:

Dude, I get nervous when DH goes to a happy hour with colleagues and comes home later than expected (he's TERRIBLE about letting me know if he's running late. TERRIBLE.). So yes, I definitely worry when DH travels. I feel the same anxiety when my parents travel, especially if it involves flights.

I could have written this. DH travelled 24 days of each month for 3 years and I was always worried. He's only been on one trip since DD was born, and it was much worse. Not just what could happen to him, but me too. I was so worried that someone would come kill me and just leave Olivia abandoned in her crib. It was a long week with my stress and imagination going crazy.

AustinAggie01

I also get freaked out at the thought of someone killing me or me passing out or having an anuerysm or other crazy scenarios and what would happen to my kids.  They can't work my phone, DS can't get DD out of her crib, they are trapped in the house alone for a week and DS could have fed them both, except that I shut the pantry door with the childproof doorknob right before going to bed so they are left starving...  The list goes on and on depending on the level of crazy in my head on any given night.

It sucks.  I never sleep well.

OrangeFelt

You are normal! No worries. We both do a fair amount of travel, it feels like one of us is always prepping for a trip - and we both get anxious over each other's travel.  I think he gets a little bit more anxious when I do, and that's just making sure the dogs are taken care of!  I can only imagine what it'll be like when a LO comes into the picture, eek. 

keado

Thanks everyone.  Its really only the airplane and car travel that bother me, but its something that I just don't think I will ever relax about.  I lost my grandfather when I was 16 in a car wreck, he was like a father to me, to say we were close was an understatement.  The anxiety from people traveling doesn't seem to fade with time.

I was talking with some friends about this, and neither one of them really minded their husband's being gone, or got worked up on the travel thing, so it had me thinking maybe I needed to get professional help for this.  I very likely do, and maybe soon.  

Thanks for letting me know I'm not alone

brooke152

You are not alone.  DH rarely travels without me, but I do worry a lot and usually stay up very late drinking wine to help me sleep.  Healthy, huh?  He goes to Big Bend with a group of guy friends every year for about a week and I am WAY more nervous about it this year.  Hmm, maybe that is because I'll be about 35 weeks pg this time.  I can only imagine what next year will be like.  Not looking forward to it.

jgb2000

Nervous when DH travels w/o me and nervous when I have to travel w/o my family.