If your oldest was rough with the younger one

allie_smalls07

Was this something they outgrew??  I am at my wits end with DS.  DD is so happy now that she's crawling and standing and I'm pretty sure DS is nervous that she's taking over.  He has been shoving her/hitting her for awhile now but it's gotten to the point I'm not sure what to do about it.  He will get a time out in his crib and will say he's sorry and kiss her only to hurt her again 5 minutes later.  Yes - he is doing it on purpose because he will even tell me flat out "I go hit Tate."  Two breaths later he will say "I sorry Tate.  Kiss you."  WHY is he doing this??!??

ak1234

Have you tried any other discipline methods?  Like 1-2-3 Magic?  Or plenty of positive reinforcement?  Sticker charts?  Etc?  Or going overboard on the positive praise...

Erika654

Hi I had 2 under 2 so maybe I can be of some help here.  My girls are 11 months apart.  The only thing that worked for us was looking soooo sad when my older one did something naughty and giving the younger ones loads of attention, and also going over board on the praise when they do things nice and giving them tons of attention.  I had to be on top of my girls CONSTANTLY when they were small, it was ridiculous, I totally feel your frustration girl, all I can tell you is IT WILL get better I PROMISE! (((HUGS)))

Mr.&MrsS

Erika654:

Hi I had 2 under 2 so maybe I can be of some help here.  My girls are 11 months apart.  The only thing that worked for us was looking soooo sad when my older one did something naughty and giving the younger ones loads of attention, and also going over board on the praise when they do things nice and giving them tons of attention.  I had to be on top of my girls CONSTANTLY when they were small, it was ridiculous, I totally feel your frustration girl, all I can tell you is IT WILL get better I PROMISE! (((HUGS)))

This. When DS1 was mean to DS2 I would just shower DS2 with attention. Are you ok Nolan? Dont cry baby, its ok. I would hug him, kiss him, etc. When Brady was nice to Nolan I made a point to be over the top excited and shower the praises. This didnt work overnight, but for the most part Brady is good with his little brother now. Time was the biggest thing that helped. But I really do think that ignoring the bad behavior and focusing on the other child, and then showering the praises really helped. At night before going to bed Brady would tell me, "I didnt push Nolan today!" And he would be so proud of himself. This is not to say that we never have issues, but they have decreased dramatically.

(And Brady was a little like your DS, he would look right at me and tell me, "I go tackle Nolan." Nice huh?!?! Lol)

allie_smalls07

Mr.&MrsS:

Erika654:

Hi I had 2 under 2 so maybe I can be of some help here.  My girls are 11 months apart.  The only thing that worked for us was looking soooo sad when my older one did something naughty and giving the younger ones loads of attention, and also going over board on the praise when they do things nice and giving them tons of attention.  I had to be on top of my girls CONSTANTLY when they were small, it was ridiculous, I totally feel your frustration girl, all I can tell you is IT WILL get better I PROMISE! (((HUGS)))

This. When DS1 was mean to DS2 I would just shower DS2 with attention. Are you ok Nolan? Dont cry baby, its ok. I would hug him, kiss him, etc. When Brady was nice to Nolan I made a point to be over the top excited and shower the praises. This didnt work overnight, but for the most part Brady is good with his little brother now. Time was the biggest thing that helped. But I really do think that ignoring the bad behavior and focusing on the other child, and then showering the praises really helped. At night before going to bed Brady would tell me, "I didnt push Nolan today!" And he would be so proud of himself. This is not to say that we never have issues, but they have decreased dramatically.

(And Brady was a little like your DS, he would look right at me and tell me, "I go tackle Nolan." Nice huh?!?! Lol)