Non-Clicky Poll

Aubs13

For just a minute, let's pretend we're FHs.  Other than the obvious PgAL fears, what are you most afraid of/most nervous about at this stage in your pregnancy?

I know we all share the same fears because of our past experiences, but I'm curious about other fears, too. 

(Basically...am I normal?!) 

kathymarie

I'm really, really nervous to go back to work. I am scared that I won't be able to balance it all, pump, nurse, be a good mommy & teacher, and still be a happy person. I want to stay home.

Karen1998

SIDS.  I can't figure out if I'm registering for the right things, though to be honest, I think the miscarriage shook my confidence in my abilities to make good decisions.  Oddly enough, the thought of completely natural birth doesn't even phase me.  I wonder how realistic I'm being on it because of that!

BritanyV

Being able to handle a baby and ds at the same time.  

nekillo

My non-pgal (and just parenting in general) fear is that my kid will be bratty or snotty/rude to other people and people will be afraid to tell me.  My mom was so proud that me and my brothers were very kind, compasionate and considerate kids (except to eachother... hahaha) And I hope my kids will be the same.

Teresa1896

I'm pretty much in denial about the labor process.  I don't want to think about any part of it, and I'm pretending that the baby will just appear one day without her having to squeeze out of my hooha.

PiperS

kathymarie:

I'm really, really nervous to go back to work. I am scared that I won't be able to balance it all, pump, nurse, be a good mommy & teacher, and still be a happy person. I want to stay home. 

 I am also a teacher and I know exactly how you feel. I am thinking about just being a sub for a year, but I'm not sure if I will actually  do it. 

I am also worried about getting my figure back. I know that is shallow, but I really don't want to be heavier with stretch marks

ColleenS629

kathymarie:

I'm really, really nervous to go back to work. I am scared that I won't be able to balance it all, pump, nurse, be a good mommy & teacher, and still be a happy person. I want to stay home.

All of this. I always thought I would be a SAHM until my kids went to kindergarten. We can't afford that. I won't get to take very much time at all and I'm very sad about that. 

tew213

I'm afraid of taking care of a newborn (crazy I know). I have been around babies, but never cared for one so little. I hope my mom instinct kicks in once LO is here (or even before would be great) and either way I'll learn real quick what baby needs  But the unknown of how it's all going to go now scares me!

jillcanada

Terrified of labor!

lauralizabee

My pregnancy related fear right now is that my water will break in front of my students...they.would.flip. And never let me forget it. Ever. I would need a new job at a new school asap.

itsmegin

I am and have always been scared of giving birth. I just cannot imagine a baby's head coming out of my vagina. I keep trying to tell myself that it has happened billions of times and my body was made to do this, but dang I am scared of the pain and tearing. 

I have grown up always assuming I'd need a C-section, my mom needed one because she didn't dilate enough, and so did my grandma for the same reason. Considering with my missed m/c, 5 weeks after the baby died and 2 rounds of Cytotec I didn't dilate enough and had to have a D&C, I'm thinking my assumption was correct. But of course who knows. While I'm a little scared of a C-section, I'm  actually less scared of one than regular vaginal birth. 

Junebug060609

My non-PGAL worries are mostly the adjustments to motherhood.  Caring for an itty bitty newborn especially.  I have a lot of experience with kids in general, but my experience with newborns is a little lacking.  There's also just a general worry of keeping the kid safe and raising him right once he's an outside baby.

ETA: And breastfeeding.  I know probably it will all work out fine, but one of my worries is that it will be the middle of the night and the kid won't be getting what he needs and will be bawling and hungry.  Plus I've heard it hurts at first.

SheLovesMrHip

Some sort of random cord accident......

PrincessDi80

I am petrified of labor and delivery.  And I mean PETRIFIED!!!!!!!!  I am a wimp and cry baby when it comes to pain and I have never EVER experienced any real physical pain.....never broke a bone, never needed stitches, etc.  This will be the most medical thing I have ever gone through and I am scared so bad. 

 

krissymac

tew213:

I'm afraid of taking care of a newborn (crazy I know). I have been around babies, but never cared for one so little. I hope my mom instinct kicks in once LO is here (or even before would be great) and either way I'll learn real quick what baby needs  But the unknown of how it's all going to go now scares me!

This is not crazy at all - I have had these doubts/fears for several months. My friend had a baby a month ago and I had told her before she even gave birth not to be offended if I don't want to hold her baby very much.

I just figure that maternal instincts will kick in. DH and I are just hoping to figure everything out. 

sunflowr0803

I'm nervous about being a parent! I'm also a little nervous something may happen during delivery, but mostly I'm scared of taking LO home & taking care of him - so worried I'll do everything wrong.

allybaby85

Child care...especially if DH gets a K9 position and goes back to rotating shifts. That would put us both rotating days and nights buton different schedules...not quite sure how that would work. And being able to pay for child care and insurance plus all our other expenses.

Eris-Alexis

Labor and figuring out how to be a mom. 

erinlovesdavid

Delivery. I am terrified at the idea of tearing or needing an episiotomy. I wonder if I can actually do it. Do I have the strength to push a baby out of me? Saying I'm not an athletic person would be an understatement. I wonder if I actually have the physical capability to delivery a baby. I'm also terrified at the idea of having a c/s, and the recovery involved with either form of delivery.

Mrs.Leah.Maria

I'm really worried that I somehow lose DS and DH with the care involved of a newborn. DH and I really had to work hard to reconnect after DS and I'm just worried the same thing will happen, but that it will effect DS too.

AmorXAeterna

Being able to handle two newborns at the same time, I'm also scared that I won't be a good mother because of the fact I'm AD navy and I only get six weeks for maternity leave. And also if I reenlist I will have to go back to sea duty and I will deploy for seven to eight months and I don't want to be away from my babies for that long.

luvmyducks

I'm nervous about most things after she's here. Successfully BFing, her sleeping patterns, juggling being a new first time mom and not neglecting my DH.

anonomity

ColleenS629:

kathymarie:

I'm really, really nervous to go back to work. I am scared that I won't be able to balance it all, pump, nurse, be a good mommy & teacher, and still be a happy person. I want to stay home.

All of this. I always thought I would be a SAHM until my kids went to kindergarten. We can't afford that. I won't get to take very much time at all and I'm very sad about that. 

This is me too.  Unfortunately we just can't do it right now, no matter how we arrange our budget.   I'm already so depressed about going back to work.

taurus424

okay this a nice little confessional!!!

I am nervous about needing another csection. i really want my vbac....its weird but i need to take care of DS and know i will be better able to move around if i can have a vaginal birth.

(if i'm allowed to have two things that are making me nervous) also that i wont get this baby to latch (my DS wouldnt latch) and i had to pump for 9 months....not sure if mentally/physically i could do that again.

and also that i really want to be a SAHM....oh i dream of that!

erinlovesdavid

Can I have another one? I took care of my nephew full-time while SIL was at work (50 hours per week) from the time he was a newborn until he was about 5 months old, so I feel like I have a pretty good groundwork laid, but worry that I am overly-confident about my skills/parenting instinct, and am just setting myself up to feel like a failure.

HadleyS

I am scared (a little) about my job situation.  I am on a job hunt, but really, in my heart, I want to stay home with the baby.  DH and I are just truckin' along with the job idea, so if the "perfect" thing comes along, I will take it.  Otherwise, I will stay home, but deep down I know that DH thinks that I am "wasting" my education and it makes me mad/sad.  S-ingAH is not a lesser choice, it's simply a choice.

I am super scared about birth!  I am afraid that I will need a C-section because my mom and sis both had to have this.  I really, really don't want to go there, but I am trying to hold off thinking about it until maybe the third tri!

MommyandKate

That I'm going to go through weeks and weeks of terrible nausea only to find out that LO stopped growing a while ago.  At the moment if someone told me I would have to start 1st tri all over again, I would lose it.

RizziB

I'm actually scared about post-partum depression and dealing with a crying newborn in the middle of the winter.   I'm not sure if I'd be worried about PPD if I wasn't PgAL, but the strange mix of emotions that I feel now in early pregnancy makes me worry about what effect the hormones will have after the baby comes.  

I'm also scared about delivery and tearing, but since I'm still in first tri, I haven't thought too much about that yet.

 

camdenfaithful

I'm starting to get really scared about delivery and especially scared of the whole pp healing process.  I'm in a wedding 10 days after my EDD and I'm really starting to wonder who that is going to work.

Finding a daycare.  It's so effing expensive around here.  It really makes my stomach turn thinking of spending that much.

Going back to work.  I never thought it would be an issue, but I'm starting to have a lot of issues with the idea of coming back.  Staying home and maintaining our current lifestyle is not an option so work it is.  I'm so scared I'm just going to be miserable all day and cry.

Breastfeeding.  I want it to work out SO badly and I'm scared I'm just going to suck at it.