Poll: Did you talk about the possibility of IF?

rsrs807

Yes, because I was diagnosed with endometriosis at age 15.  H doesn't like to talk about it - he's very "we'll be fine, don't worry about it" but I forced the issue a few times just to make sure we knew where the other one stood.  I also had an aunt on who couldn't have kids and I saw how deeply that affected her so I've always been aware that it was a possibility, although people don't like to think about it.

 In our case it wasn't a super in-depth discussion because neither of us are opposed to IVF or adoption - had one of us been very Catholic for example and opposed to IVF the discussion likely would have been more in-depth about what we would do.

johnson617

We did talk about it, but it honestly came up because MH's brother and SIL we're experiencing IF and discussing their options, which spurred our own conversations. We were both on the same page as to what we felt would be right for us, should we have problems.

psychgirl33

sulfababy:

Not at all. And that might have been a good thing.

We got married 5 years ago. I wonder, had we discussed it, would I have voiced an opinion against IVF at that point? Would he have? It's possible. Would I have ended up feeling weird changing my mind and deciding I was okay with IVF later on? Would he have gotten used to the idea of no treatments and been surprised by my change of heart?

Actually living through it is different than merely considering the possibility though. You might end up making decisions you never thought you would.

Although I have only been trying 8 months, I have to agree here because I know that TTC and my feelings about TTC are very different than I expected.  So I'm guessing IF is even more different than I could have imagined before we got married. 

Before I would have probably said I wouldn't try anything if I couldn't get pregnant on my own, I'd just adopt (that's what my parents did with me).  I'm glad I didn't say that because each month that goes by, my opinion on that seems to change a little.  And if we got to the point of testing and determined IF, I think by that point I would have a completely different view on it.