Did you sign a prenup?

fotobird · May 2011

And what does your entail? Or if not, why not?

CinemaGoddess · May 2011

No. Neither of us had any assets of value, so we didn't see the need for one.

MamaLBF · May 2011

No. & I wouldn't even entertain the thought. It's like planning to fail.

wife1014 · May 2011

No, and like CG neither of us had anything coming into it.

hermione76 · May 2011

Nope and I never would.

sodelish · May 2011

No, but neither of us had assets of significant enough value to warrant one. I can understand why people do, though.

Shamlet123 · May 2011

We did't really have anything to protect. We met young and we were both broke as a joke.

I could see having one though if you have a business or properties, just to be safe.

JhawkCE · May 2011

No, I asked my husband if his family would be more comfortable if we signed one, but he said they didn't care so we didn't.

Rach21 · May 2011

No, we didn't sign a pre-nup. We merged everything when we married. That being said, I would have considered a pre-nup if we were both independently wealthy and had been married with children before we came together. That way, we could each be sure that whatever assets were linked to our children would stay with our children. I don't side-eye people who do prenups. Money issues are one of the greatest causes for divorce today. If you took care of all the $$ issues up front, then cool beans. My DH and I didn't really have a whole bunch of $$ when we got married, so it wouldn't have really mattered to us.

franceshouseman · May 2011

hermione76:
Nope and I never would.

This. We didn't have anything when we got married so it wasn't an issue any way.

jana_86 · May 2011

MamaLBF:
No. & I wouldn't even entertain the thought. It's like planning to fail.

Agreed.

HisSunshine1220 · May 2011

Nope. We were both poor college students when we met. Even if we weren't though, I don't think I would have signed one.

Sweeti7307 · May 2011

No because the only assets we had are our backsides.

scoutkate · May 2011

No. But I wouldn't have had a problem signing one if the subject had come up.

Kate621 · May 2011

No. We were married while we were still in college. If thought he wanted to fight me for my hand me down couch and collection of Judd Apatow movies I might have though.

alduarte · May 2011

Sweeti7307:
No because the only assets we had are our backsides.

Haha. Love it. And love the new pic!

NoCode10 · May 2011

Sweeti7307:
No because the only assets we had are our backsides.

ILY. A lot.

To answer the question, we didn't sign a prenup. I agree with the person who said it's almost like planning to fail.

Sweeti7307 · May 2011

alduarte:
Sweeti7307:
No because the only assets we had are our backsides.
Haha. Love it. And love the new pic!

Thank you. As I love yours.

Sweeti7307 · May 2011

kheel1205:
Sweeti7307:
No because the only assets we had are our backsides.
ILY. A lot.
To answer the question, we didn't sign a prenup. I agree with the person who said it's almost like planning to fail.

Lol. I do feel like it is kind of planning to fail as well. DH and I went into it as forever. And thats how we always think of it.

KatieMiami1220 · May 2011

To be honest, we didn't but did talk about it. We both eventually agreed that we came into the marriage with very little, so it wasn't really worth it. He does joke about getting a "post-nup" every time he buys a lotto ticket!

sodelish · May 2011

savannah_girl:

No, we are Catholic and do not believe in divorce. Plus we have grown up together (started dating at 15), so most of our "stuff" was, well "ours". And any future monies/items of value would be family heirlooms with the undertanding that it stays in the family.

I hope this doesn't come off the wrong way but I'm curious as to what this means. I don't think anyone goes into marriage believing they'll get divorced (but, I could be wrong). When you say you don't believe in divorce do you mean that no matter what you would never get divorced?

I'm also curious if there are people out there who have gotten married who "believe" in divorce.

sodelish · May 2011

Sweeti7307:
No because the only assets we had are our backsides.

Hey now, those are some hot backsides you need to protect.

Kate621 · May 2011

sodelish:
savannah_girl:

No, we are Catholic and do not believe in divorce. Plus we have grown up together (started dating at 15), so most of our "stuff" was, well "ours". And any future monies/items of value would be family heirlooms with the undertanding that it stays in the family.

I hope this doesn't come off the wrong way but I'm curious as to what this means. I don't think anyone goes into marriage believing they'll get divorced (but, I could be wrong). When you say you don't believe in divorce do you mean that no matter what you would never get divorced?

I'm also curious if there are people out there who have gotten married who "believe" in divorce.

Good question. I was wondering about this as well.

MyBdayPresent · May 2011

Nope. Like most, we didn't have any assets so there was no need. I was 23 when we married and probably would have refused to sign one then. Now though, I'm not quite so idealistic and pretty practical so I think it's a great way to protect assets and say you're not in it for the money. I wouldn't sign an agreement where I got nothing, especially if I was giving up working to raise children etc.

On a side note. I've earned more than DH for our entire marriage and he has been in grad school, masters and now PHD, for all but one year. He likes to tease me about having to pay alimony if I leave him.

WiscoWife · May 2011

We actually did. My husband had a lot of assets and I only had a little bit, but he had been burned in the past, so he asked that we have one. I really don't think it's setting someone up for failure, I truly think my husband was just protecting his own butt, based on what happened to him in the past.

MamaLBF · May 2011

I was not the op of that statement. But when DH and I say it we mean that it is simply not an option. No matter what. But I dont really know how I would handle cheating- but it wouldnt be divorce even tough it would break my heart and forever change us. Lucikly I feel as though we will never cross that bridge. I am not catholic. *meant to quote Sodelish

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emilydholmes1 · May 2011

MamaLBF:
No. & I wouldn't even entertain the thought. It's like planning to fail.

I think it is more of protecting yourself for the future. 50% of marriage fail anyways these days and no one PLANS for them to end up that way. Those that have a pre-nup can at least rest assured that part is taken care of.

With that said, I don't have one. We were totes poor when we got married.

SnoopyLuv · May 2011

cinema_goddess:
No. Neither of us had any assets of value, so we didn't see the need for one.

Ditto. I would have signed one and he would have too if either of us had any substantial family assets or anything.

AlwaysSunny08 · May 2011

Nope and never would.

Rach7170 · May 2011

emilydholmes1:

MamaLBF:
No. & I wouldn't even entertain the thought. It's like planning to fail.

I think it is more of protecting yourself for the future. 50% of marriage fail anyways these days and no one PLANS for them to end up that way. Those that have a pre-nup can at least rest assured that part is taken care of.

With that said, I don't have one. We were totes poor when we got married.

I agree with this. I think it is just a matter of protecting yourself. I am not married to SO, but we have nothing so its a nonissue. We won't be needing one.

KatieMiami1220 · May 2011

Kate621:
sodelish:
savannah_girl:

No, we are Catholic and do not believe in divorce. Plus we have grown up together (started dating at 15), so most of our "stuff" was, well "ours". And any future monies/items of value would be family heirlooms with the undertanding that it stays in the family.

I hope this doesn't come off the wrong way but I'm curious as to what this means. I don't think anyone goes into marriage believing they'll get divorced (but, I could be wrong). When you say you don't believe in divorce do you mean that no matter what you would never get divorced?

I'm also curious if there are people out there who have gotten married who "believe" in divorce.

Good question. I was wondering about this as well.

I didn't get married believing I could ever get divorced... but I acknowledge that there is a line if my husband were to ever cross, I would leave him. I married him because I believe and know him to be a person who would never, ever do these things. But I believe in divorce for anyone who suffers abuse from a spouse (physical or emotional) or if a spouse continually disgraces the sanctity of marriage by repeated infidelity. Does that count as believing in divorce?

TheOriginalSP · May 2011

cinema_goddess:
No. Neither of us had any assets of value, so we didn't see the need for one.

This exactly. I wouldn't call a 96 Monte Carlo an asset. If we got a divorce I would have paid DH to take that car.

mamaregan · May 2011

Nope, neither of us had anything coming into the marriage. However, my DH will be taking over the family company along with his brother (who happens to have a crazy wife) and when the company is transferred over SIL and I will both sign something saying we have only certain rights in the company.

I honestly have no problem signing this because it ensures us. I wouldn't trust that if something happened with BIL and SIL that she wouldn't try and get some share of the company. But it wouldn't be fair to only have her sign something and not me.

Sweeti7307 · May 2011

sodelish:
savannah_girl:

No, we are Catholic and do not believe in divorce. Plus we have grown up together (started dating at 15), so most of our "stuff" was, well "ours". And any future monies/items of value would be family heirlooms with the undertanding that it stays in the family.

I hope this doesn't come off the wrong way but I'm curious as to what this means. I don't think anyone goes into marriage believing they'll get divorced (but, I could be wrong). When you say you don't believe in divorce do you mean that no matter what you would never get divorced?

I'm also curious if there are people out there who have gotten married who "believe" in divorce.

Christians technically do not believe in divorce either. But there is a loophole, if your spouse cheats.

Erina1004 · May 2011

emilydholmes1:

MamaLBF:
No. & I wouldn't even entertain the thought. It's like planning to fail.

I think it is more of protecting yourself for the future. 50% of marriage fail anyways these days and no one PLANS for them to end up that way. Those that have a pre-nup can at least rest assured that part is taken care of.

With that said, I don't have one. We were totes poor when we got married.

This. An attorney that I worked with had considerable assets (including a valuable house/property) before marrying someone who didn't. Against his parents advice, he did not get a pre-nup. They were married for 3 years before she cheated on him and he ended up having to buy her out of the house that he owned outright before they were married. Unfortunately they are a necessary evil.

Sweeti7307 · May 2011

sodelish:
Sweeti7307:
No because the only assets we had are our backsides.

Hey now, those are some hot backsides you need to protect.

I really should consider getting it insured. *sigh*

sodelish · May 2011

KatieMiami1220:
Kate621:
sodelish:
savannah_girl:

No, we are Catholic and do not believe in divorce. Plus we have grown up together (started dating at 15), so most of our "stuff" was, well "ours". And any future monies/items of value would be family heirlooms with the undertanding that it stays in the family.

I hope this doesn't come off the wrong way but I'm curious as to what this means. I don't think anyone goes into marriage believing they'll get divorced (but, I could be wrong). When you say you don't believe in divorce do you mean that no matter what you would never get divorced?

I'm also curious if there are people out there who have gotten married who "believe" in divorce.

Good question. I was wondering about this as well.

I didn't get married believing I could ever get divorced... but I acknowledge that there is a line if my husband were to ever cross, I would leave him. I married him because I believe and know him to be a person who would never, ever do these things. But I believe in divorce for anyone who suffers abuse from a spouse (physical or emotional) or if a spouse continually disgraces the sanctity of marriage by repeated infidelity. Does that count as believing in divorce?

Well, when you put it that way I absolutely "believe" in divorce. That's what I'm getting at with the OP of this statement as well. When someone says they don't "believe" in divorce does that mean that they see all divorce as wrong, even in the situation you described above?

longingtoholdher2010 · May 2011

No.My opinion is, that if you feel you need to protect your assets from me, then why are you marrying me? No matter how much money or earthly goods that either of us posess. A marriage should be based on trust and if you can't trust me with your finances, then what can u trust me with? I would NEVER.