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Time away from Bump :( Vent

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I took a little break from bumping due to my crazy work schedule, but a conversation with my mother this morning made me realize just how much I need you ladies and this board to help keep me sane. Here is my vent- sorry it?s so long.

 I have been obsessing to some degree about getting my period. I?m pretty sure I O?ed about 2 weeks ago, I?ve been getting period like cramps but no AF. Of course I googled and read that sometimes you get EWCM after a m/c but it doesn?t mean you are O?ing. I?m cool with that but I have had to switch my GYN appt due to an awards ceremony for my 8th graders. They couldn?t fit me in with my normal Dr. until July so I asked to please fit me in with any Dr. since I have yet to see on since the m/c.

I share this information with my mother and of course she feels that I should wait until July. In asking her why she felt that way somehow she becomes Mother MD and starts calculating when I should be getting my period, how I should let me body heal naturally, and then how I am obsessing about this and I won?t be able to get pregnant again if I keep on doing this. That was the final straw I told her that those words do not help and said good-bye. She"s usually so supportive Sleep

  Thanks for listening!

Me 36 DH 38
Married 1/22/10
BFP #1 3/11 m/c 7w 3d blighted ovum
BFP #2 5/11 DD born 1/12
BFP #3 3/16 Chemical Pregnancy
BFP #4 12/16 m/c 7w blighted ovum
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Re: Time away from Bump :( Vent

  • ChristinaCTChristinaCT
    Oh charoo!!  the whole "watched pot never boils" theory!  That is always a joy to hear.  I am so very sorry the support is not there IRL.  I think our families & friends have a hard time with the roller coaster that is TTCAL.  Many many hugs to you.  We are all here for you girl. 
    BFP #1 2/8/2008 - Evan born 10/3/2008 via c/s @ 38wks
    BFP #2 12/31/2010 (EDD 9/1/11) -- Natrual m/c 1/9/10
    BFP #3 12/20/2011 - EDD 8/25/12
    u/s 1/6/12 - HB & beautiful bean
    A/S 4/2 - It's a Girl!!!
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  • AngnShaunAngnShaun

    Yikes... id be mad too... i dont like when people pull the stressing about it vs not stressing about it card... everyone is different and their bodies respond differently to stress...

    and im not sure what seeing your dr before july has to do with it at all...

     

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  • mrsupgrademrsupgrade member
    It's hard for people who've never been there to understand. (hugs)
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  • williams4mewilliams4me member

    I'm sorry...one of the worst parts about this healing process and dealing with a loss is all the unsolicited advice.  When DH and I first got pg we didn't tell anyone we were "trying" because we had no idea how long it would take and we didn't want any added pressure.  Now I hate that my family knows, comments like, "Is your period over yet?" and  "Oh shouldn't you have ovulated last week?" and "Oh well maybe you're pregnant!"  Hearing things like this make me want to scream.

    Hopefully your mom will politely "butt out" so you and your DH can do things on your own terms.

    BFP #2 7/20/11 ** EDD: 3/28/12: IT'S A BOY!
    BFP #1 12/30/10 ** EDD: 9/6/11** H/B stopped at 10w 6d conf on 2/22/11 ** D&C 2/24/11.
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  • corndog8corndog8
    So sorry..... ((hugs))
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