New to this whole thing and I just have a few ?'s

MaximusMomma

So my boyfriend and I have split up. I was a SAHM and he was my one source of income. Now that he's gone I have nothing. Our court date for child support, custody etc.. is this week. I have no job, no income and a $366 shoplifting ticket on my record (my LO was present when I got it)... I have read some things and I'm pretty sure with the way I am currently J is going to get custody. Am I right? Do I even have a chance? ... 

gemmaschenk

I definitely think that you have a chance...I'm not going to say it's for sure at all. But you do have a chance. For the most part, most courts would rather have the child with the mother. Its not for sure that your boyfriend will get custody..not at all. I would talk to your lawer, (if you have one, if not get one) and tell him/her what is going on. There are a lot of different options out there for you, you just need to ask for help and talk to people. GL

BostonGayGal

You need to apply for WIC and to enter a shelter for women and children, TODAY. The shoplifting won't keep you from your child, but continued inability to provide shelter and food will get in the way. From there you may be able to get job training while the baby is cared for by staff, or there may be a way to get subsidized daycare while you work.

Does your boyfriend want custody? How does the baby currently have health insurance? Is the baby breast feeding? What would his plan be for childcare and housing? Do you have any family support?

It is not an easy road, but it is entirely doable. Your initial challenge is to show the judge that you are planning for the safety and health of your baby, so start figuring it out now so that you can present a plan to the judge. 

emily0829

BostonGayGal:

You need to apply for WIC and to enter a shelter for women and children, TODAY. The shoplifting won't keep you from your child, but continued inability to provide shelter and food will get in the way. From there you may be able to get job training while the baby is cared for by staff, or there may be a way to get subsidized daycare while you work.

Does your boyfriend want custody? How does the baby currently have health insurance? Is the baby breast feeding? What would his plan be for childcare and housing? Do you have any family support?

It is not an easy road, but it is entirely doable. Your initial challenge is to show the judge that you are planning for the safety and health of your baby, so start figuring it out now so that you can present a plan to the judge. 

This is exactly what I was going to say.

A shoplifting ticket isn't necessarily going to make the judge so willing sign over custody to your BF, especially if he doesn't have a plan in place either. The best you can do right now is look into those social programs, talk to an attorney and try to get back into work as soon as possible.

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LillyVonSchtupp

Sorry you're in this situation OP.

Regarding the shoplifting ticket: Guess you didn't follow the advice on the quote above your pics about thinking twice for your child that time, eh?

Listen to BostonGayGal, she is wise.

Kate621

What county are you in? I may have some information about some resources available to you. PM me if you need anything.