First (attempted) trip out with 2u2 was a disaster

Amber68W

I tried to go to Walmart with both kids and it was an epic fail. DD was crying the whole way there and I kept thinking, "Okay we'll be there in 5 minutes and I can feed her." When we got there I put DS in the cart and put DD in my wrap and tried to nurse her in there but she just kept getting frustrated so I took her out and put her back in her car seat. Then I tried putting the car seat in the bottom part and leaving DS in the top but there wouldn't have been room for groceries and she was still screaming. So I left and drove home in tears.

I keep thinking that it will get easier when she gets older since she's breastfed and still at the age where she's either sleeping or eating. I can't hold her without her wanting to eat! DS was on formula so I didn't anticipate this. It makes going anywhere very difficult and I don't know when she'll be past this phase.

At least I tried.

MrsZiz

I'm SO sorry! I remember my first trip out alone, it was scary and lasted about 20 mins only. It was short, very short and I think I only bought 2 things. Now, I make sure to get out of the house every single day. I think the first few trips help get you used to getting them out of the house and figuring out the dynamics of it all. The things I have learned are to change everyone's diaper, feed DS and then leave right away! I park by the carts, take DD out first and put her in the top and put DS in the back in his car seat (or I wear him). Then getting back in the car, I get DD in first and then DS. It's what works for us. My first few trips, I made sure I didn't "need" anything. I just went to get out of the house and if I bought something it was a bonus. That way I figured if both kids freaked out and cried, then I wouldn't have failed on my mission.

 Now when I leave the house, sometimes we make a short trip or run a few errands. I'm better at it now and I feel more confident. I think feeling confident is key! You can do it and each trip will get easier and you'll figure out what works for you guys. Have faith, try it again in a few days. 

AutumnBride929

Aww, I'm sorry!!   I know what you mean about it being difficult with an EBF baby.  It is like that with DD, too.  I could never imagine trying to go somewhere with both her and DS alone.  We actually made our first trip out with 2U2 to the grocery store today but I had DH with me!!  Gosh, I'm sorry you had such a time.  It will definitely get easier.  DD is almost a constant nurser, too, I was really nervous about taking her out grocery shopping today (and she HATES being worn 99% of the time).

roundtheworldgirl

Hey - good for you for getting out!  It will get easier.  The crying never really goes away - mine are 7.5 months and 20 months and I still can't go out for more than 45 minutes without someone melting down.  But you get used to it.

Mr.&MrsS

It gets better! The more you do it, the more confident you will get. I would feed DD right before you leave, then try to head out. But I assure you that it will get easier.

I remember my first trip out with both boys. I went to Target. DS1 was being a fussy toddler, wanting to get down, wanting to touch everything and having tantrums because I wouldnt let him. DS2 hated his car seat and was just wailing because he wanted to get out. While I was standing there about to burst into tears a Mom with 2 kids (maybe 6 and 7) came up to me and asked how far apart they were. I told her 16 months and she told me, "Dont worry, it will get easier. My kids are best friends and play together all the time. It is all worth it." It was just what I needed to hear at that time. And so far she has been right...every day gets easier than the last, and it is so much fun! (And I can head out with both of them by myself and not think twice about it now).

Just keep trying!!

ShannonSky

Mr.&MrsS:

I gets better! The more you do it, the more confident you will get. I would feed DD right before you leave, then try to head out. But I assure you that it will get easier.

I remember my first trip out with both boys. I went to Target. DS1 was being a fussy toddler, wanting to get down, wanting to touch everything and having tantrums because I wouldnt let him. DS2 hated his car seat and was just wailing because he wanted to get out. While I was standing there about to burst into tears a Mom with 2 kids (maybe 6 and 7) came up to me and asked how far apart they were. I told her 16 months and she told me, "Dont worry, it will get easier. My kids are best friends and play together all the time. It is all worth it." It was just what I needed to hear at that time. And so far she has been right...every day gets easier than the last, and it is so much fun! (And I can head out with both of them by myself and not think twice about it now).

Just keep trying!!

This! The first 6 weeks are the toughest, and then you'll get in a groove! Hang in there.

mlf625

Keep trying, it will get so much easier!  I will never forget the first time we took the kids to Target, DD was about 2 weeks old.  MAJOR meltdowns.  I ended up in the backseat between the car seats, both kids screaming in their seats, and me sitting there crying in the middle.  And I had DH along!  You'll get the hang of it quickly, though.  A week later I had both kids at Target by myself, no big deal.

Court0026

It really does get easier!  DD cried/screamed off and on throughout the day for 5.5 months and we still managed to get out of the house almost daily.  I had to wear her or she freaked.  Now we have new challenges, like they both want to walk. 

Amber68W

I love this board! You ladies are so sweet. I had you all in the back of my mind on the drive there thinking, "Women do this all the time! I can do it."  You give me motivation